So this question
wasn't framed very well, but did it really break the guidelines to the extent that it needed to be deleted?
posted by Nonce to Etiquette/Policy at 9:50 AM (36 comments total)
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There are probably hundreds of "list x" questions. Many of them without an explicit problem to be solved.
Example that is eerily close to the deleted thread -- except for a slight difference in tone
Functionally, the deleted thread was exactly like any "recommend a book" thread, or "recommend a movie," of which there are hundreds. Not to mention most of my AskMefi threads.
I get that the way the deleted thread was written violated the unwritten rule of "manufacture some story for why you want this particular question answered, and your chatfilter will stand."
But even with that understanding, it doesn't sit well with me.
AskMefi questions are precious commodities sometimes. I feel bad for this person having to wait a week to try again, when really all that needed to be done to "fix" the question was reword it to something like this:
"I want to make sure I live my life in a way that fills it with as much happiness as possible.
Share your secrets for long-term happiness (Happiness, aka Contentment)
Be specific. What's *worked* for you?"
(Change marked in bold.) And it would likely stay. Some more filler around the edges would probably help. Maybe an example or two. A please, if they wanted to be polite.
1) Why not explicitly state that the question's function was fine (no more or less chatfilter than hundreds of other threads), but the tone was inappropriate? The stated reason for the deletion seemed misleading, unless one understands what "chatfilter" is shorthand for.
2) Why not communicate with the asker and ask them rephrase the question with the above criticism in mind, so they didn't lose a question? Or drop them a line and explicitly make clear that they can repost it with a change in tone next week? Or say as much in the reason for deletion?
3) I was interested in the question and answers. Would I be violating some rule to repost it with an AskMefi appropriate layer of "reason" for asking it and a less "hey guys lets talk about this" tone?
4) The "this isn't what askmefi is for" line just seems wrong. There are hundreds and hundreds of those types of threads left standing, loved by the community, and totally viewed as appropriate. It's totally what AskMefi is for, if you just tweak the language a bit.