Comments on: Best. Ask update. Ever.

Best. Ask update. Ever.

phearlez — Mon, 13 Aug 2012 13:44:18 -0800

What a difference a year makes.

August 2011, snow_mac posts about being socially awkward around women and looks for some dating tips and ideas. August 2012, snow_mac updates, opening with "Advice to those reading (I'm now engaged)" Congrats, snow_mac. I'm assuming all of us who answered get invited and the best answers are in the wedding party?

By: amro

amro — Mon, 13 Aug 2012 13:48:10 -0800

He got engaged six months after that question, wow! Congrats snow_mac!

By: bondcliff

bondcliff — Mon, 13 Aug 2012 13:52:33 -0800

See, if we had that three minute edit window you'd know he meant to say he was now enraged.

By: Burhanistan

Burhanistan — Mon, 13 Aug 2012 13:56:03 -0800

To be fair, his step 2 is really the key component that helps smooth over awkwardness.

By: ThePinkSuperhero

ThePinkSuperhero — Mon, 13 Aug 2012 14:10:07 -0800

Hurray!

By: BibiRose

BibiRose — Mon, 13 Aug 2012 14:11:06 -0800

Mazel tov!

By: It's Raining Florence Henderson

It's Raining Florence Henderson — Mon, 13 Aug 2012 14:12:13 -0800

1. Don't be weird or crazy

I'm pretty sure that failing that piece of advice has lead directly to my long and happy marriage.

But, yeah - congrats!

By: The Whelk

The Whelk — Mon, 13 Aug 2012 14:16:47 -0800

Now we could get a decent dating service off the ground we could pull in the big bucks.

By: idest

idest — Mon, 13 Aug 2012 14:23:54 -0800

YAY!!!

By: Greg Nog

Greg Nog — Mon, 13 Aug 2012 14:28:31 -0800

If we're talking super cute marriage stuff: this thread has gingerbeer and rtha answering the same question in the same room from different laptops.

By: zarq

zarq — Mon, 13 Aug 2012 14:29:03 -0800

Yay! Congratulations!

Uh... does snow_mac know you posted this? :)

The Whelk: "Now we could get a decent dating service off the ground we could pull in the big bucks."

DateMe: Best of the Web

By: snorkmaiden

snorkmaiden — Mon, 13 Aug 2012 14:39:04 -0800

asl.metafilter.com

By: OmieWise

OmieWise — Mon, 13 Aug 2012 14:39:36 -0800

Good work!

By: DingoMutt

DingoMutt — Mon, 13 Aug 2012 14:46:33 -0800

Awww, that warms the cockles of my cheesy little heart. Congrats, snow_mac!

By: Sidhedevil

Sidhedevil — Mon, 13 Aug 2012 14:58:10 -0800

Mazel tov!

By: jjjjjjjijjjjjjj

jjjjjjjijjjjjjj — Mon, 13 Aug 2012 15:20:40 -0800

Seems awful quick.

By: skrozidile

skrozidile — Mon, 13 Aug 2012 15:23:23 -0800

Quick and young and hopefully happy forever...!

By: headnsouth

headnsouth — Mon, 13 Aug 2012 15:25:53 -0800

1. "I use the internet to find romantic interests and that hasn't turned out well; I've met only the crazy ones"
2. ?????
3. "use online dating."

By: rtha

rtha — Mon, 13 Aug 2012 15:38:18 -0800

> gingerbeer and rtha answering the same question in the same room from different laptops.

Heh. We crack ourselves up, we do. She also had a cat on her, though I was catless at that moment. And is it terribly petty of me that I'm sad neither of us got a best answer checkmark? I love best answer checkmarks! And so does gingerbeer!

By: Greg Nog

Greg Nog — Mon, 13 Aug 2012 15:42:06 -0800

I like to think that your home life is long stretches of silence punctuated by one of you shouting "BIRD QUESTION" and then furious simultaneous typing

(also requesting pic of cat)

By: carter

carter — Mon, 13 Aug 2012 15:43:37 -0800

Seems awful quick.

A year ...?

By: rtha

rtha — Mon, 13 Aug 2012 15:56:25 -0800

The cat (and the laptop) in question.

By: The Whelk

The Whelk — Mon, 13 Aug 2012 15:58:39 -0800

I pefer to think of it like a huge buzzer goes off and then rtha and gingerbeer race to THE BIRD CAVE.

By: madcaptenor

madcaptenor — Mon, 13 Aug 2012 15:59:52 -0800

rtha, I would have thought that cats used laptops to look at pictures of hoominz.

By: rtha

rtha — Mon, 13 Aug 2012 16:01:17 -0800

> I pefer to think of it like a huge buzzer goes off and then rtha and gingerbeer race to THE BIRD CAVE.

Well, we call it The Eyrie. I can't say more.

Yorvit's favorite things to look at on the laptop are skateboarders and parkour-ers.

By: jjjjjjjijjjjjjj

jjjjjjjijjjjjjj — Mon, 13 Aug 2012 16:23:33 -0800

> Seems awful quick.

> A year ...?

A little less than 6 months from "need advice on how to talk to women" to engagement.

Though I've certainly witnessed more than a few strong and satisfying relationships with a similarly short courtship; so let me add my voice to those wishing the couple health and happiness.

By: rmd1023

rmd1023 — Mon, 13 Aug 2012 16:27:57 -0800

Hooray! More happy people!

By: smirkette

smirkette — Mon, 13 Aug 2012 17:40:50 -0800

w00t! Best wishes, snow_mac!

By: gingerbeer

gingerbeer — Mon, 13 Aug 2012 18:09:30 -0800

Sometimes Yorvit looks at birds, too.

By: gingerbeer

gingerbeer — Mon, 13 Aug 2012 18:22:56 -0800

Here, Yorvit contemplates his favorite website.

And now I will stop hijacking the thread with cat photos.

By: The Whelk

The Whelk — Mon, 13 Aug 2012 18:27:35 -0800

I was confronted by three cats today. It was an alleyway near the river and one cat started to follow me and chirped friendfully, so I knelt down to pet him. Suddently two other cats appeared, mewing and shoving thier faces into my hand. I tried to do some kind of awkward three way scratches thing but it was too much, I couldn't take that much cat. I had to leave the purring trio, who quickly forgot about me and attached themselves to my SO who was following about six blocks behind me.

Cats man.

By: cortex

cortex — Mon, 13 Aug 2012 18:36:42 -0800

cats are, like, what's even their deal

By: Potomac Avenue

Potomac Avenue — Mon, 13 Aug 2012 19:23:19 -0800

i got 99 problems and they are all cats

By: arcticseal

arcticseal — Mon, 13 Aug 2012 19:30:12 -0800

99 cats, calling the Human Centipede.

By: stebulus

stebulus — Mon, 13 Aug 2012 19:32:08 -0800

cats are, like, what's even their deal

I don't know, 'Tex, but I do know we're in serious trouble.

By: theichibun

theichibun — Mon, 13 Aug 2012 20:16:11 -0800

It's Raining Florence Henderson: "1. Don't be weird or crazy

I'm pretty sure that failing that piece of advice has lead directly to my long and happy marriage.

But, yeah - congrats!"

I married a teacher of young children and quoted Eureka's Castle at her to let her know that she'd be able to meet me for lunch. Not only did she get it, she thought it was funny.

I mean, really, normal people are boring.

By: hippybear

hippybear — Mon, 13 Aug 2012 22:39:10 -0800

Wait, rtha and gingerbeer are attached?

Well, damn! Now my interest in meeting each of them separately has somehow cubed itself if I could meet them both together.

Someday it will happen.

By: jjjjjjjijjjjjjj

jjjjjjjijjjjjjj — Mon, 13 Aug 2012 22:43:27 -0800

Until we're reassured that user snow_mac is on-board with this public advertisement/discussion of his impending nuptials, I'm a bit squicked by this whole thing.

Absent his/her expressed endorsement this entire conversation is a bit weird; and my earlier comments (which I regret in hindsight) don't help.

Do we know for sure that s/he wanted or would welcome this attention? Metafilter is a great and supportive community; but not all things that happen here were imagined/asked as though they would be one day be fodder for public discussion.

By: a humble nudibranch

a humble nudibranch — Mon, 13 Aug 2012 22:49:30 -0800

Shh, that's just a cover. We're not really talking about snow_mac, we're talking about CATS. But its seekrit.

By: jjjjjjjijjjjjjj

jjjjjjjijjjjjjj — Mon, 13 Aug 2012 23:16:32 -0800

Fuck cats. Make a thread about cats if you'd like to talk about cats.

MetaTalk circlejerk non sequitur obscurantism isn't nearly as precious as its practitioners seem to imagine.

By: jjjjjjjijjjjjjj

jjjjjjjijjjjjjj — Mon, 13 Aug 2012 23:30:19 -0800

[Also: here is my cat. But don't talk about it.]

By: rmd1023

rmd1023 — Tue, 14 Aug 2012 00:07:39 -0800

[Aww! FUZZY KITTY BELLY!]

By: catch as catch can

catch as catch can — Tue, 14 Aug 2012 03:17:20 -0800

Presumably he wouldn't have posted his own "public advertisement" as a follow-up to the thread if he wanted to keep things on the DL?

By: jjjjjjjijjjjjjj

jjjjjjjijjjjjjj — Tue, 14 Aug 2012 07:15:14 -0800

An update at the end of a year-old AskMe thread doesn't get anywhere near the number of eyeballs that a MeTa thread does. And in all but the absolute rarest cases, updating a year old thread does not produce any additional discussion.

By: cortex

cortex — Tue, 14 Aug 2012 07:44:53 -0800

I get your note of caution, jjjjjjjijjjjjjj, but, honestly, we're a lot more concerned about the ramifications of a Metatalk pointing to an askme and saying LOOK HOW TERRIBLE THIS PERSON IS or LOOK AT THIS CRAZY SHIT than we are about one saying HEY LOOK A HAPPY NEWS UPDATE. The difference in relative chances of shitty drama in the former vs. latter case is pretty huge, which has pretty much been borne out here.

That said, dropping snow_mac a quick mefimail if you want to make sure he knows this is here is always a decent option.

By: h00py

h00py — Tue, 14 Aug 2012 08:07:16 -0800

I have recent activity. I long for updates to long forgotten questions, posts, etc.

By: asnider

asnider — Tue, 14 Aug 2012 08:30:21 -0800

Now we could get a decent dating service off the ground we could pull in the big bucks.

DateMe. Except, that sounds kind of desperate...

By: asnider

asnider — Tue, 14 Aug 2012 08:30:36 -0800

Err...on preview, The Whelk beat me to it.

By: Eideteker

Eideteker — Tue, 14 Aug 2012 10:20:09 -0800

"1. Don't be weird or crazy"

Oh, right, like it's a switch I can just turn off.

foreveralone.png

By: hippybear

hippybear — Tue, 14 Aug 2012 21:47:49 -0800

jjjjjjjijjjjjjj is posting NSFW feline recreations of Playboy model poses online.

You are all warned.

By: batmonkey

batmonkey — Wed, 15 Aug 2012 09:17:48 -0800

Don't be weird and/or crazy?!

OHHHHHHH! It's all so clear now!

damn.

By: MsMolly

MsMolly — Wed, 15 Aug 2012 11:44:44 -0800

I was confronted by three cats today. It was an alleyway near the river and one cat started to follow me and chirped friendfully, so I knelt down to pet him.

And that's when the attack comes. Not from the front, but from the side, from the other two ~~raptors~~ cats you didn't even know were there. ... The point is... you are alive when they start to eat you...

By: Evilspork

Evilspork — Tue, 21 Aug 2012 13:52:48 -0800

How did you even notice he updated to make this post?

By: cortex

cortex — Tue, 21 Aug 2012 14:03:22 -0800

Recent Activity, presumably. phearlez was one of the folks who answered the question.

By: phearlez

phearlez — Tue, 21 Aug 2012 16:17:00 -0800

Yep, that's how. I saw it in my recents, was thrilled for him and thought it was a fun Ask success story.

I'm kinda gobsmacked by the suggestion that this might at all be unwelcome given that it's nothing more than a relaying of what snow_mac posted himself. I guess it's not a metatalk threat without some sturm und drang.

By: Evilspork

Evilspork — Wed, 22 Aug 2012 14:28:06 -0800

Yeah, but... I usually remove posts after about a week or so of no comments. Do people leave sometimes leave questions there for the full year they're open?

By: cortex

cortex — Wed, 22 Aug 2012 14:41:49 -0800

Totally, yeah. I only remove threads I actively want to stop reading; threads that die down don't by definition clog up my RA. And late breaking updates are interesting!

By: phearlez

phearlez — Wed, 22 Aug 2012 14:47:27 -0800

Oh look, there's a remove from activity option. Huh. I always just let time accomplish that for me.

By: Lexica

Lexica — Wed, 22 Aug 2012 16:41:41 -0800

Do people leave sometimes leave questions there for the full year they're open?

Sure, why not? If there's no activity in a thread, it doesn't pop back up to the top and I forget about it until/unless there's an update and it does pop back to the top.

By: rmd1023

rmd1023 — Wed, 22 Aug 2012 16:50:34 -0800

Yeah, I just let time do it. Unless I'm intentionally trying to avoid a thread for some reason. (Usually either "I've added my $0.02 to answer it but am not interested in followup/digressions" (usually factual questions) or "I really need to take a break from this thread." (usually contentious threads where I'm frothing too much and need to chill))

By: Evilspork

Evilspork — Wed, 22 Aug 2012 19:09:26 -0800

Sorry, I don't mean to sound contentious or like I'm complaining, I'm just a curious neat freak.