I believe my posts are being arbitrarily deleted and would be grateful for an objective opinion about them.
posted by R2WeTwo to Etiquette/Policy at 6:59 PM (151 comments total)
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The moderators never tell me why they delete them or even that they have. The posts just don't appear, with no explanation. When I ask they always say I've not framed my question directly enough, though they seem to me like many others I read and respond to regularly. The one before the last was about how best to treat a feral cat mother who has adopted us. While observing her with her kittens I noticed some very profoundly positive interactions which led me to wonder if, by going through with an upcoming neutering, I'm doing the right thing ethically. I said, all of that, adding, "I understand perfectly the need to neuter and spay our pets. I really do get it. I can't help wondering, though, if I'll be depriving this, particular mother from the life she was meant to lead. Have you ever wondered about this?"
Tonight I asked, "During particularly bad fights with your spouse have either of you ever said that you wanted to kill the other?" The moderators will probably say something like, "You give no details about why you are asking this" but cannot give details in this situation and the need for the help is very real.
It's also troubling how quickly my posts disappear, and this is one of the factual parts of this mystery that the moderator...got wrong. Both of the last two posts appeared then were gone within mere seconds. This seems to suggest they're being targeted rather than flagged, as the moderators indicate. They said the last post was up for several minutes before it was flagged by another user but it definitely was up for no more than ten seconds, perhaps much less.
I know I probably sound paranoid to some but this is the fourth time this has happened. I know you can't speak to that but do you agree that the two posts here are inappropriate?