Trans people on MeFi - discussion space? February 18, 2020 5:44 AM   Subscribe

Over the course of a couple of recent threads, the idea of a space for trans MeFites to come together and chat outside of the confines of an FPP has come up. I'm posting this to gauge interest in whether such a space might be of interest or value to others.

I know a few other trans people IRL and a few online, but I feel like I'd like to socialise more with other trans people and this might be a good way to make that happen for everyone. I'm envisaging that it might be a Slack site and look a little like the existing PoliticsFilter and Crone Island (if that's still going?) Slacks. For a while, this thread might also serve as a place for trans MeFites to chat about whatever's going on in our lives, too.

This is really just a very early idea from a couple of conversations I've had with people lately. Any input on what form it might take and how useful people might find it would be really valued!
posted by winterhill to MetaFilter-Related at 5:44 AM (40 comments total) 17 users marked this as a favorite

Breadcrumbs. I would love a space like this.
posted by ShawnStruck at 6:32 AM on February 18


Me too. If it is open to nonbinary people who consider themselves trans.
posted by kanata at 6:39 AM on February 18 [4 favorites]


I would value and participate in this space.
posted by zebra at 7:29 AM on February 18


I'd love this.
posted by Tabitha Someday at 7:33 AM on February 18

If it is open to nonbinary people who consider themselves trans.
I can think of absolutely no reason why it wouldn't be open to anyone identifying as trans or even just questioning their gender identity and wanting a place to chat. :)
posted by winterhill at 7:43 AM on February 18 [7 favorites]


I think so, but I'm anti-Slack as it's bad technology that makes my computer cry. I guess i'm just old, but IRC was fine back in the day. Hell I wrote a teleconferencing system in the late 80s that ran on a multi-line BBS on a frigging PC-AT. But whatever? People are good; socializing, I'm for it.
posted by seanmpuckett at 8:09 AM on February 18


Hi, I'm in.
posted by PhoBWanKenobi at 9:13 AM on February 18


i love the idea but can't learn new chat things so probably couldn't participate. would be happy it existed though!
posted by gaybobbie at 9:49 AM on February 18


Onboard.
posted by odinsdream at 12:15 PM on February 18


I've set up a very basic Slack site - the invite link is here. The name and everything else is open to discussion (and everything is set up as default right now because I admit I don't actually know what I'm doing with Slack) but I thought I may as well get the ball rolling.
posted by winterhill at 12:31 PM on February 18


Slightly off topic, but my husband is trans and the conversations here that I've witnessed and been a part of have been tremendously helpful. I am so proud that metafilter is a community that attracts transgender voices, and it's very important to me to keep it that way. Thanks for being willing to have brave conversations, in such a way that I can learn to be a better person.
posted by rebent at 3:56 PM on February 18 [3 favorites]


Good idea.
posted by Rush-That-Speaks at 6:43 PM on February 18


I'm in, yeah.
posted by spinifex23 at 9:39 PM on February 18


It's pretty much defunct now, but we actually had pretty much exactly this on dreamwidth.
posted by Dysk at 11:10 PM on February 18 [4 favorites]


I signed up, but I don't know how slack works. So heads up about my many upcoming social errors.
posted by blnkfrnk at 8:41 AM on February 19


Yeah, I was there for the now-defunct dreamwidth situation when I first transitioned, and it was very nice. I'd be into a slack.
posted by nebulawindphone at 10:47 AM on February 19


(The invite link says it's no longer active, though.)
posted by nebulawindphone at 10:48 AM on February 19


Oh, also also, there is a #metafilter channel on the LGBT in Tech* slack. It's not very active except when something annoying happens here and we want someplace to make snide remarks.

*Despite the name, that slack really isn't about tech industry networking or D&I anymore. These days it's more of a disorganized shambling mass of highly unprofessional queer angst and sarcasm. They don't actually enforce the "in tech" part, though it does still skew heavily in that direction.
posted by nebulawindphone at 10:54 AM on February 19 [3 favorites]


I’m wondering whether there is space for me as parent of a trans kid, or whether the group is intended only for those who themselves identify as such. I’m totally fine if it’s the latter, I just wanted to check with folks before I signed myself up.
posted by fancyoats at 11:42 AM on February 19


Is there an active invite link that an NB who saw this a day late can click?
posted by zingiberene at 2:06 PM on February 19


Speaking of Slack/Chat on MeFi - is there a reason we can't use the built in Metafilter Chat system for a channel for MeFites? I assume it's a limited/homegrown architecture that isn't designed for channels?

I don't mind slack, but if we already have an alternative here, why not use it?

That said adding my support for this. I consider myself NB/Genderfluid/Pangender, so think this is great, even if I'm not super active, I support a space for those who would be able to use it more fully :)
posted by symbioid at 3:11 PM on February 19


I just use every left-leaning discord (48% joke).
posted by fleacircus at 4:21 PM on February 19


I'd like to join this (invite link is expired).
posted by martinX's bellbottoms at 4:27 PM on February 19


I'd like in, too!
posted by baptismal at 8:30 PM on February 19


As would I.
posted by daikaisho at 11:30 PM on February 19


The invite link has been disabled for now. For invites, please message winterhill, zebra, or myself.

For the moment, we would like to keep this space for those who are not cis; while we appreciate the need for a space where cis folk with spouses, children, or other close relations discuss and learn without burdening their trans or nb fam, we don't believe we're quite ready to provide that space.

For those who asked for an invite in this thread and found the link broken, we'll be reaching out via PMs.
posted by anem0ne at 7:22 AM on February 20 [8 favorites]


Ooh this is such a great idea! So in.
posted by Aya Hirano on the Astral Plane at 12:04 PM on February 20


Hey, I'd like an invite please!
posted by lunasol at 4:38 PM on February 20


Joining this Slack convinced me to come back to MetaFilter, so thanks for that.
posted by this one sparks joy at 10:11 PM on February 20 [5 favorites]


I'll join. I am somewhat concerned I am too jaded about both Metafilter and online trans spaces, but you never know, I guess.
posted by hoyland at 3:01 AM on February 21


I'd like in, please.
posted by transitional procedures at 3:49 PM on February 21


As a questioning person, I would like to be part of it too, if possible.
posted by brook horse at 6:22 PM on February 21


Finally, something to plug into the Slack side of my copy of Ripcord. (An alternative slack/discord client that is not a CPU-hogging wrapper around a web browser.) Dunno how active I’ll be but I might have something worth saying now and then from the perspective of someone who’s been done with her transition for like a decade.
posted by egypturnash at 8:33 PM on February 21


I'd also like an invite, please.
posted by xchmp at 7:39 AM on February 22


Hi, I had joined but don't get slack and signed out and now cant get back in so um can I be invited back?
posted by kanata at 8:39 AM on February 22


We used to have a dreamwidth thing years ago.
posted by nikaspark at 11:33 AM on February 22 [1 favorite]

Hi, I had joined but don't get slack and signed out and now cant get back in so um can I be invited back?
Your account still seems to be active - if you go to this link and sign in with your email and password you should be able to get back in. There's also an option there if you forgot your password.
posted by winterhill at 5:24 AM on February 23 [1 favorite]


Oh. Well, proves I'm new to slack. Thank you.
posted by kanata at 9:13 AM on February 23


The dreamwidth is more extremely low traffic than it is completely defunct. It received a total of three posts and nine comments in the last year.
posted by vibratory manner of working at 5:08 PM on February 23


This is awesome! Late to the party, will msg for an invite.
posted by alon at 6:25 AM on March 4


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