Do women even *read* MetaFilter?

February 28, 2009 12:27 PM

Do MeFites like each other? I've noticed that a lot of MetaTalk threads are MeFites butting heads. Are there any MeFites who actually enjoy each other's company?

Ok, so that was my pathetic attempt to be "funny" while referencing a problematic AskMe wondering if women actually like each other.

So far it doesn't seem to be a trainwreck... yet... but throw in an unhealthy stereotype of women, some confirmation bias, and a few anecdotes about hell having no fury like a lesbian scorn...

Ok, maybe this is just *my* craw that this is stuck in, but I can think of a lot of analogous "Does X group really behave like Y?" stereotype questions that wouldn't be allowed to stand.

Anyhow, I suppose the asker is trying to overcome some stereotypes, but I don't think that AskMe really needs to be the place where we try to enlighten ourselves culturally by "refuting" (or not) backhanded accusations towards entire groups of people.

posted by grapefruitmoon to Etiquette/Policy at 12:27 PM (204 comments total)

OH HAI, while I was posting this, the question was deleted. NEVAR MIND.
posted by grapefruitmoon at 12:28 PM on February 28, 2009

"Are there any MeFites who actually enjoy each other's company?"

I like you.
posted by mr_crash_davis mark II: Jazz Odyssey at 12:30 PM on February 28, 2009

I also liked hanging out with grapefruitmoon. Let's make this a referendum on her. Hands?
posted by Plutor at 12:32 PM on February 28, 2009

It wasn't a great question which we tried valiantly to save but alas we could not.
posted by jessamyn (staff) at 12:32 PM on February 28, 2009 [1 favorite]

I like all Mefites, except for the ones I don't like.
posted by amyms at 12:34 PM on February 28, 2009

I hate it when I am posting a long-thought-out answer but the post was deleted! But basically it boiled down to "this makes me sad. some people suck, some people don't. you get to decide who to hang out with, and that's what's important. also reality tv is FABULOUS entertainment, but it's just that...entertainment."

and omg tamra is such a bitch
posted by AlisonM at 12:34 PM on February 28, 2009

jessamyn wouldn't have deleted the thread if she was a man.
posted by cjorgensen at 12:37 PM on February 28, 2009 [1 favorite]

Oh gourd, if this becomes a referendum on me, I'm hiding under the longboat.
posted by grapefruitmoon at 12:38 PM on February 28, 2009

jessamyn wouldn't have deleted the thread if she was a man.

I wouldn't work here at all if I were a man. Plus I'd kick your ass for saying something like that. As it is I just shrug and go back to my knitting.
posted by jessamyn (staff) at 12:39 PM on February 28, 2009 [35 favorites]

A lot of people seem to confuse genitals with magnets. It's weird.

See also: "Alpha Male." What utter horseshit. Any guy who buys that baloney is a total idiot to whom I am superior in every way.
posted by Sys Rq at 12:39 PM on February 28, 2009 [3 favorites]

metafilter: Any guy who buys that baloney is a total idiot to whom I am superior in every way.
posted by cjorgensen at 12:40 PM on February 28, 2009 [1 favorite]

jessamyn, i'm cjorgensen's girlfriend, and just so you know, i said you were going to kick his ass for that comment.
posted by snugglebunny at 12:41 PM on February 28, 2009 [1 favorite]

Well there are more than a few MeFi members who are married to each other so I'll go out on a limb and say sometimes, for a while.
posted by Mitheral at 12:41 PM on February 28, 2009

"I wouldn't work here at all if I were a man."

I'm very interested in the reasoning behind this.
posted by mr_crash_davis mark II: Jazz Odyssey at 12:42 PM on February 28, 2009 [1 favorite]

I see your point, Mitheral, and raise you one "I WAS married to a MeFite, and now we're divorced."
posted by grapefruitmoon at 12:42 PM on February 28, 2009 [1 favorite]

I'm too self-absorbed to even pay attention to who is male or female on this site.
posted by sixcolors at 12:43 PM on February 28, 2009 [14 favorites]

I just saw the latest Axe commercial and it got me wondering...

Do women really turn into ravenous hordes of Amazons, prone to random acts of cannibalism and drive-by dismemberment, when a male visitor from the Uncanny Valley of Chocolateness strolls by?
posted by CKmtl at 12:43 PM on February 28, 2009 [5 favorites]

I'm joking, most of my favorite mefites are male. That doesn't mean much, because on other sites my favorite members are female. It just depend on the personalities.

Overall, I don't dislike anyone here...yet. I read some stuff that pisses me off, but by the next day or two, I forget who said what. Outside of maybe a dozen members, it's kind of hard to keep track on who I like/dislike or who likes/dislikes me.
posted by sixcolors at 12:43 PM on February 28, 2009

I know for a fact that every one of you cocksucking motherfuckers likes me. Well, except for the one or two of you that I know don't, but your opinions really don't count any more.
posted by item at 12:44 PM on February 28, 2009 [1 favorite]

I don't go to meetups unless they are going to be graced by eamondaly and crush-onastick and there is also a certain amateur herpetologist who I like a lot.
posted by wfrgms at 12:46 PM on February 28, 2009 [1 favorite]

Oh man, if we could have a referendum on that Axe commercial because I can't decide if it's subtly racist, not so subtly sexist, both, or just an abomination unto the Lord.
posted by grapefruitmoon at 12:47 PM on February 28, 2009 [3 favorites]

i think i'd like you all just fine with ketchup
posted by pyramid termite at 12:48 PM on February 28, 2009 [2 favorites]

As far as I can tell from the sunday newspaper supplements, women mostly just like going to expensive weekend spa resorts where they can have zen-looking rocks arranged in a neat row up their spine while they lie on massage tables.

And yoga by the sea in white leotards. Lots of yoga in white leotards. With very earnest more-spiritual-than-thou expressions on their faces.
posted by UbuRoivas at 12:49 PM on February 28, 2009

"I wouldn't work here at all if I were a man."

I'm very interested in the reasoning behind this.

Slept her way to the top.
posted by graventy at 12:54 PM on February 28, 2009

Do MeFites like each other?
I don't know. Maybe we should ask the eyeballkid.
posted by Sailormom at 12:54 PM on February 28, 2009 [1 favorite]

I wouldn't work here at all if I were a man.

So what's the excuse of all the other mods then?


hides
posted by jacalata at 12:56 PM on February 28, 2009

There are some MeFite's I like a lot. There are a few I love like brothers and sisters. There's a bunch I'd enjoy meeting. There's others I dislike. There's probably many who dislike me.

But we're a community, just like the city I live in is a community. I don't like everybody in my city either.
posted by jonmc at 12:56 PM on February 28, 2009 [1 favorite]

I'm not here to make friends...
posted by BrotherCaine at 12:57 PM on February 28, 2009 [2 favorites]

"I wouldn't work here at all if I were a man."

I'm very interested in the reasoning behind this.

Quotas?
posted by cmgonzalez at 1:00 PM on February 28, 2009

Maybe the guys leave the mens' room in a horrific state after they use it.
posted by UbuRoivas at 1:10 PM on February 28, 2009

I like the TheGreatBigMulp, but I have no choice, we live in the same house and brings me beer and cheeseburgers when I'm sad.
posted by SheMulp AKA Plus 1 at 1:15 PM on February 28, 2009 [3 favorites]

Like, dislike, I don't really know about that. I would probably like everyone, were I to meet them in person.

I do know there are one or two Mefites who rub me the wrong way pretty consistently. And some of the group behaviours can be...beyond the pale.

But I wouldn't have signed up and paid hard-earned cash money if I hadn't read the site for a good long time and enjoyed much of the commentary.

That AskMe bugged me too, though. Just as a lot of conversations about women (and other regularly-stereotyped groups) on Metafilter about bug me.
posted by peggynature at 1:17 PM on February 28, 2009

"I wouldn't work here at all if I were a man."

I'm very interested in the reasoning behind this.


Oh, sorry, I didn't mean to be cryptic. I just have this odd feeling that if I were a dude I would have started out doing computery stuff much earlier in my life and would more likely be some sort of programmer guy rather than a web-instruction-moderator-librarian-y person.
posted by jessamyn (staff) at 1:22 PM on February 28, 2009 [1 favorite]

At MeFi everything is made of love. Love is life itself. When we master love, we align with the spirit of life passing through us. We are no longer the body, or the mind, or the soul; we are love. Then every action we take is an expression of love, and love in action can only produce happiness. In other words:

Everyone needs a hug. I love youse guys.
posted by netbros at 1:32 PM on February 28, 2009

Note: everyone needs a hug regardless of gender

girls kiss better, though
posted by desuetude at 1:33 PM on February 28, 2009 [2 favorites]

I like some people, mostly from afar. I have no expectations.
posted by geekyguy at 1:37 PM on February 28, 2009

You know who else didn't like people?

And by "people" I mean "Jews."
posted by grouse at 1:45 PM on February 28, 2009 [1 favorite]

I only come to MeTa because I might get the chance to feel someone up during a hug.

so lonely
posted by subbes at 1:50 PM on February 28, 2009 [3 favorites]

Annoyed the thread was deleted, I was coming back to tell the long story of no father, but mother and three sisters....

Anyways, I've a thick skin and pretty much nobody bothers me. Sometimes "grrr", sometimes "LOL".
posted by zengargoyle at 1:50 PM on February 28, 2009

I like Jews.

Wait, what was the question?
posted by Astro Zombie at 1:56 PM on February 28, 2009 [3 favorites]

I like Jews.

Why?
posted by gman at 2:03 PM on February 28, 2009

A lot of people seem to confuse genitals with magnets.

and all along I thought there was something wrong with my refrigerator door
posted by found missing at 2:15 PM on February 28, 2009 [14 favorites]

I stopped liking myself at about the time I joined MetaFilter.
posted by chrismear at 2:18 PM on February 28, 2009

I have liked every MeFite I have met IRL, and that list is up into the scores by now. The ones I have got the chance to get to know, I have liked them all quite a lot.

Metafilter is good people.
posted by Meatbomb at 2:18 PM on February 28, 2009

I like girls on MeFi, but I'm not Inlike with with them...
posted by SheMulp AKA Plus 1 at 2:20 PM on February 28, 2009

Do women really turn into ravenous hordes of Amazons, prone to random acts of cannibalism and drive-by dismemberment, when a male visitor from the Uncanny Valley of Chocolateness strolls by?

Sadly, that just looks like an Axe Bodyspray ad for those who haven't experienced these things first-hand. It's actually a chilling public service announcement.

Also, one of my closest friends came to me via MeFi. Others who I've hung out with I've generally liked - but you know, that's what meetups are like. If you aren't clicking with somebody, you're probably not going to keep hanging out to see how low things can go.

As for the original question, I've seen that same sot of behavior to a greater degree between women than between men, but even with that, the question is a little absurd. Women will develop rivalries when in close confines with each other outside of their own choosing (e.g. work) just as men will with each other. The way those play out will be different, most likely, but have you honestly never witnessed women who were honestly good friends? How would one not come across this?
posted by Navelgazer at 2:42 PM on February 28, 2009

I like juice.
posted by katemonster at 2:43 PM on February 28, 2009 [3 favorites]

Looking back at this comment, I'm kind of embarassed at how self-important I sound. Somebody I disagree with online, I'm sure it breaks their fat old heart that I disapprove (and likewise to be fair). Sheesh.
posted by jonmc at 2:59 PM on February 28, 2009

I love you.
posted by fandango_matt at 3:02 PM on February 28, 2009 [3 favorites]

But I hate you.
posted by mattdidthat at 3:03 PM on February 28, 2009 [3 favorites]

That I know of, I have not met any MeFites face to face, and I don't plan to, but there are some folks where I think, "Gosh, they're kinda neat. I'll bet they'd be just overwhelmingly cool in person." Others, I respect their proven, deep knowledge about topics near and dear to my heart. However, liking people over the Internet is a bit like trying to dance between kinda stalkery and just a trifle sad, with precious little room between them. I try not to let any crushy feelings or worshippy attitude towards anyone affect my comments in a given thread, though. Facts remain facts, logical fallacies are still errors, no matter how much you think someone rocks. If you meet a MeFite on the road, kill him/her, etc.

To answer the rest of your comment, anecdotes prove little, but neither does saying "we shouldn't be asking these kinds of questions." AskMe is arguably not the best place for those questions, since posts from random folks will not settle anything (unless there was a comment about an fMRI cattiness study I missed), but I guess I'd like to ask, where would you find a place for that question? Search for a place you think it would be okay to ask, and don't just dismiss it with "not here." If the answer is "nowhere," then you should probably consider if you're trying to clean up AskMe or if you're trying to make the uncomfortable question not exist.

Oh, and that Axe commercial I see in the theaters? Viewed in another light, it's a commentary on the horror of society's expectations of men, in particular the assumption of automatic availability and that men should give up little pieces of themselves for the women in their lives, because, hey, they'll heal and smile while they do it, right?
posted by adipocere at 3:04 PM on February 28, 2009

Looking back at this comment, I'm kind of embarassed at how self-important I sound. Somebody I disagree with online, I'm sure it breaks their fat old heart that I disapprove (and likewise to be fair). Sheesh.

Dude I didn't read it that way, but then again I'm trying real hard of late to read people's comments in the most charitable way possible. I fail most of the time.
posted by nola at 3:07 PM on February 28, 2009

I like all Mefites, except for the ones I don't like.

That about sums it up for me!
posted by ThePinkSuperhero at 3:08 PM on February 28, 2009 [1 favorite]

jessamyn, i'm cjorgensen's girlfriend, and just so you know, i said you were going to kick his ass for that comment.
posted by snugglebunny

Did he give you that nickname? It's very sweet.
posted by gman at 3:09 PM on February 28, 2009 [2 favorites]

I have liked every MeFite I have met IRL, and that list is up into the scores by now.

Ditto. I'll say that I wouldn't necessarily want to be roomies with every single one of 'em, but they've all been good people and good to have a beer with.
posted by cortex (staff) at 3:09 PM on February 28, 2009

But we're a community, just like the city I live in is a community. I don't like everybody in my city either.

Per capita, I probably like more people here than I do in my city.
Less spitting on the sidewalk.
And probably less stabbery.
posted by Alvy Ampersand at 3:18 PM on February 28, 2009

I think that all ads for deodorants & colognes etc aimed at horny teenaged virgin boys are a commentary on the horror of society's expectations of men. Or perhaps a commentary on the horror of hornly virginal teenage boys. Or, more likely, both.
posted by UbuRoivas at 3:18 PM on February 28, 2009

(we say "hornly" all the time down under. it's standard slang)
posted by UbuRoivas at 3:19 PM on February 28, 2009 [2 favorites]

Where the hell is eyeballkid when you need him?
posted by languagehat at 3:26 PM on February 28, 2009

"Where the hell is eyeballkid when you need him?"

Check the nearest gutter!
posted by mr_crash_davis mark II: Jazz Odyssey at 3:29 PM on February 28, 2009

There can be only one.
posted by Brandon Blatcher at 3:35 PM on February 28, 2009

I think many of you need your head examined. That said, even of the people I disagree with most often, I get the feeling I'd probably enjoy being their neighbor. Then I could live my dream of being just like Larry Dallas, constantly walking into your living room at opportune moments and attempting to seduce your hot niece.
posted by Cool Papa Bell at 3:38 PM on February 28, 2009

Dude I didn't read it that way, but then again I'm trying real hard of late to read people's comments in the most charitable way possible. I fail most of the time.

That's cool. I'm trying to criticize myself as harshly as I criticize everyone else. Out of fairness. or masochism. or something.
posted by jonmc at 3:47 PM on February 28, 2009 [1 favorite]

Some of my very best friends are Mefites. Really.
posted by flapjax at midnite at 3:47 PM on February 28, 2009 [1 favorite]

And by "Mefites" I mean "Jews".
posted by flapjax at midnite at 3:48 PM on February 28, 2009 [2 favorites]

have liked every MeFite I have met IRL.

Ditto.
posted by misha at 3:54 PM on February 28, 2009

I used to like Mefites, but I'm not really ready for a long term relationship and I'm just not that into them any more.
posted by PeterMcDermott at 4:11 PM on February 28, 2009

(to the tune of Green Acres?!)


Me ta filter is the place to be

It's always warm and sunny and has

Good com pa ny!


Where is eyballkid anyway? Did I miss an epic flameout?
posted by snsranch at 4:13 PM on February 28, 2009 [1 favorite]

(to the tune of Green Acres?!)


Me ta filter is the place to be

It's always warm and sunny and has

Good com pa ny!

MeFi gets many a page view

Dahling I love you but give Fark Avenue!
posted by jonmc at 4:16 PM on February 28, 2009 [3 favorites]

Looking back at this comment, I'm kind of embarassed at how self-important I sound.

Yeah, it didn't sound harsh or self-important to me. It just sounded like "the situation is complex." And for a second it made me imagine Metafilter turning into some physical city, maybe one of the more rustbelt cities in Connecticut. (I think this is a sign I've been reading too much Neil Gaiman.)
posted by salvia at 4:20 PM on February 28, 2009

Fortunately the two MeFites I really couldn't stand left long ago. Otherwise, this place isn't really about specific individuals for me, though there certainly are a number of people here I quite like as individuals, and there's maybe one person I don't much care for. I hang out here because I like the general tone of the place and because there's so much good material to read, and I don't use the contacts feature because I don't really watch out for any one member's contributions.

Of course this attitude might change completely if I were sleeping with anyone who belongs to the site.
posted by orange swan at 5:14 PM on February 28, 2009

I like grumblebee.

And I like most of you crazy kids. There are only two people on the site that I actually dislike, and I'm not telling (they're not in this thread anyway).
posted by Evangeline at 5:22 PM on February 28, 2009

I don't know half of you half as well as I should like, and I like less than half of you half as well as you deserve.
posted by blue_beetle at 5:40 PM on February 28, 2009 [6 favorites]

Eh, I'm sure there's people here who utterly despise me. Which is fine.
posted by jonmc at 5:45 PM on February 28, 2009 [1 favorite]

I like Mefites so much I went to Hermitosis' christmas party without having met him or any of his guests soley cause I liked his posts and it was around the corner from my house (and cause I've decided to do more things like "go to complete stranger's houses" this year). Of course I use MeMail waaaay more often than I think is average when I find people I want to contntue talking to make suggestions/have questions that are off-site. Plus there is the seekkrit thrill of finding out people you know/work with/have dated are also on Metafilter.

So yah, I think I like the Mefites.

You know, except for-
posted by The Whelk at 5:50 PM on February 28, 2009

Of course this attitude might change completely if I were sleeping with anyone who belongs to the site.

To summarize: we're all ok, but just kinda blend together and nobody really sticks out, but if you were seeing a Mefite, you'd probably notice that person.

High praise there, OS, high praise indeed.
posted by Brandon Blatcher at 5:55 PM on February 28, 2009

(to the tune of Green Acres?!)

Mehhh-tafilter is the place to be
Foooor only just a five buck fee
greeeen, grey and black and front page blue
dahling you'll love it each day you'll find something new

(da-da-da-daaa-da) the snark!
(da-da-da-daaa-da) s'not Fark!
(da-da-da-daaa-da) the links!
(da-da-da-daaa-da) methinks!

you are my site,
I looove you Mefites!
Metafilter it's the liiiinks!*

*or, "the comments". But that won't rhyme.

posted by flapjax at midnite at 6:05 PM on February 28, 2009 [9 favorites]

I like mefites, mostly. I'm married to one (we both knew each other Before Metafilter, though), and this weekend we've got a mefite houseguest. We did last weekend, too, come to think of it.

Hmmm.
posted by rtha at 6:09 PM on February 28, 2009

I saw a really good Twitter quote today from John Hodgman:

@wordwill yes. It's part of the toxic Internet art of constant callous one upsmanship. And it is a sort of art, but not for me.

Man, if anything describes MeFi of the last year or so, 'callous one-upsmanship' sure applies.

Your favorite X sucks.
posted by Malor at 6:13 PM on February 28, 2009

(we both knew each other Before Metafilter, though)

BM
posted by flapjax at midnite at 6:14 PM on February 28, 2009

bon mot
posted by Sys Rq at 6:17 PM on February 28, 2009

Man, if anything describes MeFi of the last year or so, 'callous one-upsmanship' sure applies.

Care to elaborate?
posted by Alvy Ampersand at 6:18 PM on February 28, 2009

You all remind me of my father.

I hated my father.
posted by SteveTheRed at 6:20 PM on February 28, 2009 [2 favorites]

I'm positive-by-default toward most MeFites, aside from a very small number.

I really like playing video games with MeFites. It's a real community builder.
posted by Pope Guilty at 6:22 PM on February 28, 2009

Dear MetaFilter,

Do you like me? Please check Yes or No:

[ ] Yes
[ ] No

PS: Sorry so sloppy
posted by burnmp3s at 6:23 PM on February 28, 2009 [4 favorites]

I saw a really good Twitter quote today from John Hodgman

Dude, I heard that like a week ago omg
posted by cortex (staff) at 6:27 PM on February 28, 2009 [2 favorites]

To summarize: we're all ok, but just kinda blend together and nobody really sticks out, but if you were seeing a Mefite, you'd probably notice that person.

High praise there, OS, high praise indeed.

Er, perhaps my comment came across more lofty and "none of you little people really register with me" than I really meant. I'm speaking of the site on two different levels: as a social community, and as reading material. In terms of MeFi the social community, there are MeFites I consider friends, but no one I'm really close to. In terms of MeFi the reading material, although I notice that there are A-list posters who consistently and regularly post stellar material, I don't specifically look for their contributions. Good or bad contributions can come from any direction, so I don't filter the 'Filter according to the signatures.

If I had any really close friends or a boyfriend on the site, I might browse through their posts occasionally as a way of keeping up with them.
posted by orange swan at 6:28 PM on February 28, 2009

I like juice.
posted by fixedgear at 6:45 PM on February 28, 2009

You all remind me of my father.

Now tell us, in single words, only the good things that come into your mind when you think about your mother.

I hated my father.

Er, perhaps my comment came across more lofty and "none of you little people really register with me" than I really meant.

It was just humor, enjoy this plate of beans!
posted by Brandon Blatcher at 6:52 PM on February 28, 2009

I love lamp.
posted by jerseygirl at 6:52 PM on February 28, 2009 [2 favorites]

I think I would like nearly every person on this site. Metafilter is unique for many users being smart, witty, entertaining and broadminded, even some of them with whom I disagree on matters personal to me. There are a couple people who are bothersome, mainly because I came back quietly with a new account a few years back and then got tracked down and harassed, twice, despite the numerous contributions I've made here. The harassment even continued off-site, but, in all, those few exceptionally sorry individuals aside, I think most MeFites are decent people and I would be happy to be friends with any of them, and would be honored were they to reciprocate.
posted by Blazecock Pileon at 7:24 PM on February 28, 2009

We did last weekend, too, come to think of it.

That was me, thanks ladies!!
posted by jessamyn (staff) at 7:31 PM on February 28, 2009

I got a lot of love to give.
posted by Divine_Wino at 7:37 PM on February 28, 2009

I like turtles.
posted by deborah at 7:37 PM on February 28, 2009

You're very welcome jess. And who will be the mefite house guest next week, I wonder?
posted by gingerbeer at 8:06 PM on February 28, 2009

I like everybody when I'm drunk.
posted by the littlest brussels sprout at 8:11 PM on February 28, 2009

I have a funny feeling that I'd be the dude most likely to buy a largely anonymous round for precisely the self-same MeFites I've butted e-heads with over [theology / politics / declawing] in the Blue. But I'm cool (and self-congratulatory) like that. Having only met a handful of MeFites in real life -- and all of them *prior* to discovering they were also present here -- I can say that for my admittedly small sample they're good people. Klang and a few others spring to mind.
posted by joe lisboa at 8:16 PM on February 28, 2009

Anytime. Our couch is your couch.
posted by rtha at 8:24 PM on February 28, 2009

I wish I had more time to keep checking on this thread to see when eyeballkid FINALLY shows up. It could be epic.
posted by yhbc at 8:27 PM on February 28, 2009

I love and loathe you all.

Metafilter: ... you can spell, punctuate, and appropriately use a dependent clause. Already I like you better than 90% of the meat sacks I encounter. You are not a waste; please find something to do, some way of being, that you can live with.
posted by peeedro at 8:32 PM on February 28, 2009

More of my social life than I'm pleased to admit consists of Metafilter. So, yeah. I like you guys.
posted by Space Kitty at 8:34 PM on February 28, 2009

I'd fuck you.
posted by Eideteker at 8:43 PM on February 28, 2009

OK, awkward.
posted by Space Kitty at 8:48 PM on February 28, 2009 [7 favorites]

I truly liked every MeFite I ever met. Of course, that's a smallish group, and I met them all exactly once.
posted by Nabubrush at 8:51 PM on February 28, 2009

Would you fuck me? I'd fuck me. *tucks*
posted by dead cousin ted at 9:18 PM on February 28, 2009

You know who doesn't like me? Xzibit.
posted by GuyZero at 9:44 PM on February 28, 2009

When I met loquacious I kept thinking, He sounds like that? Really?

I have that reaction a lot.
posted by klangklangston at 9:49 PM on February 28, 2009

Apart from certain passive-aggressive drama queens who like to make fraudulent accusations, Metafilter's all right.
posted by Krrrlson at 10:06 PM on February 28, 2009

I think I would like nearly every person on this site. Metafilter is unique for many users being smart, witty, entertaining and broadminded, even some of them with whom I disagree on matters personal to me. There are a couple people who are bothersome, mainly because I came back quietly with a new account a few years back and then got tracked down and harassed, twice, despite the numerous contributions I've made here. The harassment even continued off-site, but, in all, those few exceptionally sorry individuals aside, I think most MeFites are decent people and I would be happy to be friends with any of them, and would be honored were they to reciprocate.

Good to see you're not bitter about that at all.
posted by dead cousin ted at 10:14 PM on February 28, 2009

You're likable enough.
posted by kittens for breakfast at 10:27 PM on February 28, 2009

you guys are OK, i guess.

i can be seen in public with you.
posted by jason's_planet at 10:35 PM on February 28, 2009

I see you, MetaFilter, sneering at me when you think I'm not looking.
posted by fleacircus at 10:36 PM on February 28, 2009

I see you, Metafilter, shakin' that ass.
posted by longsleeves at 10:43 PM on February 28, 2009 [1 favorite]

I think some MeFites are wonderful. Most of the ones I've met I like. And then there are those members I dislike with the passion of seven burning suns. They make me wish we had "enemies lists."
posted by limeonaire at 10:49 PM on February 28, 2009

Do women even *read* MetaFilter?

Oh for fuck's sake.
posted by FunkyHelix at 11:20 PM on February 28, 2009 [2 favorites]

Good to see you're not bitter about that at all.

Just realistic. Disagreements on a website is one thing. Taking it out on someone off-site is just fucking creepy.
posted by Blazecock Pileon at 11:33 PM on February 28, 2009

I don't think about metafilter in that way, but I think we can still be great friends!

Besides, I need someone to commiserate with when I let other web sites be naughty with me and then they're jerks.
posted by maxwelton at 12:17 AM on March 1, 2009

My favorite MeFites are those who make me laugh and those who piss me off. Very often the same members (and by members I mean dicks).
posted by Carbolic at 1:21 AM on March 1, 2009

but there's a subtle difference: members make gags; dicks make you gag.
posted by UbuRoivas at 1:34 AM on March 1, 2009 [2 favorites]

Ubu likes me, and that's all that matters.
posted by turgid dahlia at 2:00 AM on March 1, 2009

*awkward*
posted by UbuRoivas at 2:09 AM on March 1, 2009

Juice? What the fuck is juice?
posted by norm at 4:02 AM on March 1, 2009

don't deny it you slut.
posted by turgid dahlia at 4:03 AM on March 1, 2009

Some of my best friends' belts are white.
posted by Joseph Gurl at 4:51 AM on March 1, 2009 [1 favorite]

The mixed martial arts matches at the 10th anniversary meetup are going to be awesome!
posted by lukemeister at 5:16 AM on March 1, 2009

Eh, you oeioke are alright.
posted by Brandon Blatcher at 5:32 AM on March 1, 2009

I've actually met a few meFites that I've gotten into it with online. Both times they turned out to be OK guys. Or maybe they were just helpless against my charisma, I don't know.
posted by jonmc at 5:33 AM on March 1, 2009

I keep a close eye on random meetup threads to see if anyone on my 'To Kill' list is attending.
posted by gman at 5:44 AM on March 1, 2009 [2 favorites]

Having attended a wicked awesome meetup lately, I have to say that MeFites are 1,000% more awesome in person. And that's a lot of awesome.
posted by grapefruitmoon at 6:27 AM on March 1, 2009

fuck all y'all!
posted by fuq at 7:29 AM on March 1, 2009

gman, we discussed the snugglebuny nickname, and we have no idea who came up with it. I have an addiction to crane games and often give away stuffed animals to random kids or as an additional tip for the waitress (I like the game, could care less about the toys).

Anyway, snugglebunny asked me to win her some bunnies, so I did, and started calling her "Bunny" after that. She started using snugglebunny on her own for craft projects and such. I did get her the meta account for Christmas, you know, because I'm romantic.
posted by cjorgensen at 7:39 AM on March 1, 2009 [2 favorites]

I like my little dog. He's made out of pies made out of love. He likes all MeFites.

Except you.
posted by trip and a half at 8:01 AM on March 1, 2009

why else would I be on metafilter?
posted by dunkadunc at 8:10 AM on March 1, 2009

(That "except you" didn't mean "you, grapefruitmoon": he really likes you! It seemed funnier before I had coffee. Sorry.)
posted by trip and a half at 8:26 AM on March 1, 2009

Ha, glad your dog approves, trip and a half :)
posted by grapefruitmoon at 8:30 AM on March 1, 2009

I generally like MeFites a whole hell of a lot, more than the general run of people, though I like lots of them too. I agree with jonmc's "city" analogy - and happily, since I also like my real-life city a lot. Of course you don't get along with everybody all the time, and viewpoints differ, but that's the nature of community and that's why conversation is interesting rather than crushingly repetitive. I've also been thinking about personal networks lately, as differentiated from, like, purely social friendships, and MeFi is definitely another personal network.

I've been fortunate to meet a bunch of MeFites and hope to keep doing so, and they've been wonderful times. On the whole it's a set of independent-minded, smart, funny people who do interesting things and like to connect over interesting topics and content and activities. With a few people I've had some really spectacular, memorable experiences. With others, a fine time having a drink or strolling a city sidewalk. Even loose social ties ('we hang on the same website'), when well treated, can really add to a life.

There's a small number of people I seem to predictably cross horns with, but that's life. One nice thing about being on the site for a few years now is that my sense of individuals has evolved. Someone who rubbed me the wrong way because of Something They Said a few years ago can take on more dimension over time and over different topics, so that in the end I don't feel a flat dislike anymore. Just frustration and exasperation or maybe a shrugging 'well, we're different' conclusion. The more MeFites you meet, the more you realize they're PEEEEOPLE, with all the usual complicating factors that entails, and that makes it a little easier to cut some slack.

On the whole, I like MeFites. I'd say for sure that at least, when meeting a MeFite, I am significantly more likely to like them a lot on first meeting than I am to like a member of the population chosen at random. I feel safe in saying that.
posted by Miko at 9:05 AM on March 1, 2009

Oh, sorry, I didn't mean to be cryptic. I just have this odd feeling that if I were a dude I would have started out doing computery stuff much earlier in my life and would more likely be some sort of programmer guy rather than a web-instruction-moderator-librarian-y person.
posted by jessamyn at 1:22 PM on February 28

The world has enough of those, though. I like you better as you are.
posted by Ryvar at 9:15 AM on March 1, 2009

The more MeFites you meet, the more you realize they're PEEEEOPLE

How to serve Mefites.
posted by Brandon Blatcher at 9:30 AM on March 1, 2009

I like Afroblanco. The rest of ya'll are nuts.
posted by jeffamaphone at 9:50 AM on March 1, 2009

I like MeFites, too. I just need you to duck below the window when we drive past other websites.
posted by Slarty Bartfast at 9:59 AM on March 1, 2009 [3 favorites]

BP, you had me at 'broadminded'.
posted by rockhopper at 10:14 AM on March 1, 2009

I'd have to say that overwhelmingly, I like each and every one of you. Sure, there've been one or two that I've butted heads with, but that comes with the territory of holding a dialogue with intelligent and passionate people. Beats dealing with apathy.

So on the whole, yes, you're all a loveable bunch. I've even come to terms with the fact that anime-related material will never be fully embraced on the blue. C'est la vie!
posted by Marisa Stole the Precious Thing at 11:38 AM on March 1, 2009

I love lamp.

jerseygirl, do you really love lamp, or are you just saying it because you saw it?
posted by Night_owl at 11:52 AM on March 1, 2009

I like every MeFite I've never met.
posted by Night_owl at 11:52 AM on March 1, 2009

I love him more than my Fadder or Mudder; Nummy Muffin Coocol Butter.
posted by Bernt Pancreas at 12:14 PM on March 1, 2009

I ♥ metafilter.com/user/*.*
posted by Lynsey at 1:58 PM on March 1, 2009 [1 favorite]

I've really enjoyed meeting every mefite I've met and would love to meet more.
posted by schyler523 at 5:01 PM on March 1, 2009

darainwa is my best friend, even if he does brag about being user #139 a little too much. Mostly because he is a kottke fanboy.

And I've enjoyed the two New Orleans meetups I've been to!
posted by radioamy at 9:06 PM on March 1, 2009

I like all of you. You are all interesting. And I have a couch and an extra bed if you come to the Hill Country.
posted by bjgeiger at 9:10 PM on March 1, 2009

You all remind me of my father.

I hated my father.


Let me tell you about my mother
posted by The Whelk at 10:46 PM on March 1, 2009

Pretty simple answer, really. The anonymity of being online makes people say things they wouldn't say to others in person. Nothing to do with Metafilter. It's just the Internet in general. MetaFilter's actually a pretty tame place, although there is a certain snobbishness here you don't see elsewhere.
posted by wastelands at 2:16 AM on March 2, 2009

As if people elsewhere have anything to feel snobbish about.
posted by UbuRoivas at 2:23 AM on March 2, 2009

I really wanted cortex to like me, but then I recommended this book to him, it's called The Alchemist, you might have heard of it, I thought it was all 'wow' and I kept badgering him to read the copy I lent him, it's full of clever yet simple mystical-type magical thoughts, and plus it's pretty short, but he seemed noncomfortable with it, then I think he might have read it, I'm not sure, but he said that this was as far as we could go, as friends I think, and I didn't know what to do after that.

I hope he liked it.
posted by Cantdosleepy at 4:47 AM on March 2, 2009

He doesn't like you. I don't like you either!

I'll be careful.

You'll be dead!

[Wheeew wheeew kssssh!]
posted by Mister_A at 6:01 AM on March 2, 2009 [2 favorites]

I HATE HATE HATE the entire dull, skankalicious Housewives franchise with a fiery, volcanic passion. O, Bravo: if you must inflict this wretched series on us, why not try out The Real Housewives of Gorno-Badakhshan Autonomous Province, or The Real Housewives of Puerto Toro, or The Real Housewives of the Gaza Strip? That might be entertaining, at least!
posted by octobersurprise at 7:15 AM on March 2, 2009

grapefruitmoon said: "I see your point, Mitheral, and raise you one "I WAS married to a MeFite, and now we're divorced."

Oh, were you married to a MeFite? No kidding?

Krrrlson said: "Apart from certain passive-aggressive drama queens who like to make fraudulent accusations, Metafilter's all right."

You know, I feel like maybe I've heard this song before. Does it have any other verses, or do they all just go on and on and on like this one?

(I used to think I enjoyed the two-part counterpoint version in harmony... but then I realized I was confusing Krrrlson and BP for a pair of performers in a Gilbert & Sullivan operetta.)
posted by pineapple at 7:27 AM on March 2, 2009

I wouldn't work here at all if I were a man. Plus I'd kick your ass for saying something like that.

But you'd be a man on the internet, so you'd loudly say you were going to kick his ass, and actually do nothing. Then cortex would give you a time out, cause that shit isn't cool.
posted by electroboy at 8:01 AM on March 2, 2009

I ♥ metafilter.com/user/*.*

Aww, you only love the users with dots in their nicks? That stings.
posted by kingbenny at 8:18 AM on March 2, 2009

Likes:

Puppies
Kittens
Ducklings
Bourbon
Combat handguns
Metafilter

Dislikes:

Zealots
People who talk on their phones in bathrooms and elevators
Tailgaters
Genocides
Deer
Insomnia
posted by quin at 8:27 AM on March 2, 2009 [2 favorites]

posted by pineapple You know, I feel like maybe I've heard this song before. Does it have any other verses, or do they all just go on and on and on like this one? (I used to think I enjoyed the two-part counterpoint version in harmony... but then I realized I was confusing Krrrlson and BP for a pair of performers in a Gilbert & Sullivan operetta.)

(Sung to "If You Want To Know Who We Are" from The Mikado:)

If you want to know who they are,
They are gentlemen of MeFi!
In many a pissing war
In many a thread gone awry!
They bicker and vent their spleens
They whine and create scenes
What a bunch of drama queens, Oh!

If you dislike their remarks,
And you're sick of their antics,
And you're tired of all their snark,
And their waving of their dicks,
For Krrrlson and Blazecock Pileon,
It's a conclusion foregone:
Just flag them and move on, Oh! Oh!
posted by mattdidthat at 8:35 AM on March 2, 2009 [5 favorites]

love me
feel me
let me run my hands through your
dreaming
teaming
loving everyone
that ain't steaming
reaming
touch me, touch me
and hold me
hold them
tell us that we love the

feeling
posted by clavdivs at 8:47 AM on March 2, 2009

Yeah, I have to say that I've only been to a couple of meetups and I've liked every MeFite I've ever meet too. Which is weird as I often dislike people. Which means that MeFi people are obviously my kind of people. Which I'm pretty sure means that I'm a bit of a geek. I mean I knew that, but it's kind of like having it shoved in your face.
posted by ob at 9:49 AM on March 2, 2009

Deer?
posted by YouRebelScum at 9:56 AM on March 2, 2009

Dislikes:
...
Genocides

OK, look, genocide is just about the most fun you can have with your clothes on. Granted, I kinda messed up that last round, and for that I apologize. Those other guys were more competitive than I realized, and I shouldn't have put you up against them for your first time. That was completely my fault, and if you were embarrassed by my having to intercede, I apologize for that as well.

But give it a chance; once you get into it I think you'll find it's an entirely enjoyable experience with plenty of room for growth.
posted by aramaic at 10:33 AM on March 2, 2009

Slept her way to the top.

I tried sleeping my way to the top. Turns out they meant not at my desk.

On a related note, I've never met anyone from here (and there are few in my area) but I'm sure there's at least a couple people I would like.
posted by tommasz at 10:59 AM on March 2, 2009 [2 favorites]

I like Eddie Devil 'cause he's my boyfriend. I like kittens for breakfast because he's Eddie Devil's best friend. I like Jessamyn because she's awesome, I like Cortex because his Flickr name is hilarious, I like jonmc because he's cranky sometimes, and I like tkchrist because he's funny and I generally want to favorite everything he writes 500 times. I like a lot of you crazy bastards, actually.
posted by bitter-girl.com at 11:10 AM on March 2, 2009

I wouldn't work here at all if I were a man. Plus I'd kick your ass for saying something like that.

It's a little-known fact that jessamyn is about to roll out a system of kicking asses via TCP/IP. It's going to be awesome.
posted by dunkadunc at 12:46 PM on March 2, 2009

YouRebelScum : Deer?

I could put together a lengthy explanation of all the ways that I've been wronged by these furry fuckers over the years, and in fact I have written several comments on it should you choose to search them out. But I'm feeling lazy, so instead, I'll just link to this video [nsfw] from this comment as the best overall summary of my issues with them.

For the record though, take his problems and multiply them over five different cars and you'll get where my ire comes from.
posted by quin at 1:05 PM on March 2, 2009

Oh, were you married to a MeFite? No kidding?

Yeah, Kattullus and I were married. He introduced me to MetaFilter: we joined on the same day, I actually paid for his membership (or rather, it was on *my* debit card). Somehow he put his joining date earlier since he'd been lurking for eons before then. Dunno how that worked exactly, but anyhow, we were typing in our usernames at adjacent computers in one of the University of Iceland computer labs.

I had intended to "give" him "custody" of the Filter in the divorce, but I got dragged back in by a few personal emails from various users begging (ok, not *begging*) me to return. Scout's honor.

(Seriously.)
posted by grapefruitmoon at 1:55 PM on March 2, 2009

MetaFilter: joint custody weblog
posted by grouse at 1:57 PM on March 2, 2009

THIS IS NOW A G&S SONG PARODY THREAD

I was going to put this into the Pirate Bay thread, but now...

A rollicking Bay of Pirates we
Who tired of leachers that don't seed
Are hoping to be found not guilty
By Swedish national courts!

Hush hush!
I hear the trackers are still running
Those mother's basement dwellers
Sure are cunning.

We are not coming for war3z or pr0n
The protocol that this whole thing's built on
We seek distribution methods that
Allow for fast download times.

(Taran-tara Taran-tara Taran-tara)
posted by SpiffyRob at 2:06 PM on March 2, 2009

I posted my original question on Metafilter because I thought it was an interesting philosophical/psychological problem. As I never got to reference any of the responses due to the apparent censorship and only had 31 answers in an hour to peruse. I would still like to thank the person who suggested that problems between women might be heightened in situations where they are forced into relationships. This was an extremely insightful thought.

More than that-- liking is an extremely nuanced expression. I love my Mother. I don't always like her. I like my friends, I don't always love them and that's why friendships tend to be more transient than sibling or parental relationships.

Of Course, women like each other...when they get to choose the women who validate them and return their affection. What I'm interested in is why does hostility develop in group situations. What creates the tension in the first place? Is it a power struggle for supremacy? What prompted the question was consternation over in-fighting between cliques AT MY CHURCH!

As for whether Mefites like each other... seriously, Who cares? Whether women get on or not is crucial because they represent more than half of the world's population.
posted by AuntieRuth at 3:51 PM on March 2, 2009

What I'm interested in is why does hostility develop in group situations.

Then why didn't you ask that instead of asking something about women?
posted by Miko at 3:59 PM on March 2, 2009

As for whether Mefites like each other... seriously, Who cares?

Ummmm, Mefites do?
posted by desuetude at 4:19 PM on March 2, 2009

I tried sleeping my way to the top.

Oh, sleeping? All this time I was seeping my way to the top.
posted by electroboy at 4:22 PM on March 2, 2009 [1 favorite]

I spent four long, futile years at Lipton trying to steep my way to the top.
posted by cortex (staff) at 4:28 PM on March 2, 2009 [5 favorites]

I spent four long, futile years at Lipton trying to steep my way to the top.

Lemme guess, you just got bitter?

lousy American "tea"
posted by desuetude at 4:42 PM on March 2, 2009 [4 favorites]

Do women even *read* MetaFilter?

No. I don't *read* it, I make the sausage swinger in our house *read* it and then he types up a summation of the day's activity and I take a quick glance at that. I'm afraid that if I did attempt to *read* it, my ovaries would explode.
posted by Secret Life of Gravy at 7:42 PM on March 2, 2009 [3 favorites]

Do women even *read* MetaFilter?

I basically just scan it, looking for things to get offended about.
posted by Miko at 8:18 PM on March 2, 2009 [3 favorites]

Miko, I'm highly offended by that comment.

then again, I didn't really *read* it
posted by flapjax at midnite at 8:52 PM on March 2, 2009

See? It's so easy!
posted by Miko at 9:00 PM on March 2, 2009

Woo-hoo!
posted by flapjax at midnite at 9:12 PM on March 2, 2009

are you making fun of chinese-style names? disgusting.
posted by UbuRoivas at 9:19 PM on March 2, 2009 [1 favorite]

Dude, it's the Internets. Mefites may date; marry; break up; divorce. It's just like real life! It makes me sad, the whole idea of getting custody; I'd hope everyone is entitled to say and do what they like--sans permission from others, but I'd add this caveat:

Dammit, you've got to be kind.

I like pretty much everyone on Metafilter. Even the people that piss me off tremendously serve as a nice balance to everything else; I wouldn't deny them their pissiness, poor grammar, or what-have-you, nor do I try to bait or engage other people over petty trivialities. I barely comment as it is on the blue because people tend to attack more there vs. actually commenting or discussing things productively, but when they do, anything I'd want to say is typically said faster and more eloquently by someone else, which leaves me nodding and smiling with respect and silently agreeing in my head. Nothing else to contribute, unless I feel strongly about it or am super-bored.

But back to the topic, which has mutated greatly over the course of this discussion: I like most women but don't particularly enjoy being around nothing but women and have more male friends than female. I feel kinda like a dude about half the time. Also, women are beautiful to look at in a way that I can't explain.

I think I just confused myself
posted by Unicorn on the cob at 9:28 PM on March 2, 2009 [1 favorite]

I spent four long, futile years at Lipton trying to steep my way to the top.

OhMyGod I read that comment at 12:00am and my brain just shut down
I can't believe I just got that now!

I fail at jokes.
posted by SheMulp AKA Plus 1 at 1:13 AM on March 3, 2009

The bit about MeFites liking each other was supposed to be a joke to illustrate the failed premise of asking whether or not women like each other. Clearly, that little nuance got lost, but eh.

And yeah, asking about hostility in a group situation is way more useful than asking "Can half of the world's population stand to be friends with each other?" which is just really, really bizarre and IMO, re-inforces a lot of stereotypes about "women = bitchy" even if that wasn't the specific *intent* of the question.
posted by grapefruitmoon at 4:16 AM on March 3, 2009

Also, deleted =/ censored. So, your question was deleted. That's just because it was a bad question. I'm sure a similar question rephrased to be about hostility in groups rather than generalized to be about women would be fine. It's not like the Thought Police came and got you.

I've said too much.
posted by grapefruitmoon at 4:18 AM on March 3, 2009

I thought by bringing up two situations that are somewhat universal--work and social--my point about hostility between women in groups would be adequately clear. I would suggest you go back and reread the original question...oh wait, you can't it's been "deleted".

I selected Housewives --because this season, they ganged up on Lynne and Gretchen in an especially vicious way--talk about circling wolves. They wrote Lynne off immediately as "strange and loopy"; [which was remarkably similar to the phrase with which my original question was dismissed] and I couldn't help but wonder why they would feel the need to label someone crazy just to cut them down.

Apparently you were one of those my e-mail was forwarded to so you felt compelled to demonstrate your insider's knowledge, so you are clearly acting as a group to censor and control freedom of thought.
posted by AuntieRuth at 4:55 AM on March 3, 2009

You can actually read deleted questions at their original URL. The question asker has a link to the question in an MeMail that the system sends them as well. Linking to deleted questions is totally fine. In fact one of the reasons we leave them around is so that people can look at them and maybe, in our dream world, learn from them. Here is a link to your question AuntieRuth. It's also linked in the original MeTa thread above.

No one forwarded your email to anyone, period. However, many emails that complain about thread/comment deletions say approximately the same thing.

We do act as a group, generally speaking, to keep the site running the way it's supposed to -- that's the whole "community policing" thing -- your post was heavily flagged and too chatty and unanswerable for AskMe. I appreciate that you had a genuine question that you wanted answered, but without something more specific to go on, it was just inviting people to make wild generalizations. If you'd like to re-ask next week, you're more than welcome to.
posted by jessamyn (staff) at 6:01 AM on March 3, 2009

AuntieRuth, you're using a melodramatic nighttime soap whose very premise is backstabbing bitchery among suburban women as an example of female behavior. This continues to be a flawed and inflammatory-at-best premise for a question. Er, "question."
posted by desuetude at 6:31 AM on March 3, 2009 [1 favorite]

I was going to post a snarky reply here but I decided to think of WWJD instead—What Would Jessamyn Do?
posted by grouse at 6:39 AM on March 3, 2009 [1 favorite]

Women be shopping, amirite!
posted by electroboy at 6:46 AM on March 3, 2009

Apparently you were one of those my e-mail was forwarded to so you felt compelled to demonstrate your insider's knowledge, so you are clearly acting as a group to censor and control freedom of thought.

I don't forward private correspondence around. Jessamyn and Matt and I are the only ones who see and discuss and deal with the mail you send to the contact form; it's our job, and we take it very seriously, and respecting your privacy by not broadcasting that stuff is part of said job.

However, we do get a lot of email and a lot of in-thread accusations in metatalk, and there are some running themes with folks who choose to snap at us instead of just asking straightforward questions about what happened. And one of the biggies is trotting out Orwell as if having something deleted from the site for violating community guidelines is tantamount to having your face forever stamped upon by a fascist boot.

It's predictable to the point where people disagreeing with you about cries of "censorship" may end up throwing your own tired references back at you without having to even know you made them in the first place. That's what happened here. This certainly is not the first time, by far, that someone has mentioned "thought police" on metatalk.

There is no conspiracy. I don't have the energy or the inclination to bother with one.

Now, I responded to you by email with a pretty gentle explanation of the context of the deletion. Between the guidance in there and jessamyn's point above that reworking your core question in a less problematic presentation and trying again is totally okay, I'm hoping you can get this figured out in a way that will be satisfying to you. But you need to meet us halfway on this stuff and lay off the conspiracy/censorship trip.
posted by cortex (staff) at 6:51 AM on March 3, 2009 [3 favorites]

There is no conspiracy.

I love these words

Apparently you were one of those my e-mail was forwarded to so you felt compelled to demonstrate your insider's knowledge, so you are clearly acting as a group to censor and control freedom of thought

this is fash-ist-ion-ating.
lets break it down
shall we...

thesis A

'apparently'
this indicates your not sure of something that came or was generated by 'You'.

this creates doubt which you should have corrected or thought through before someones
'complusion' of knowledge to 'censor thought' thesis was arrived at...

thesis B

clearly acting as a group to censor and control freedom of thought.
and this is predicated on...something apparent?

not baseball or stocks here, it is fredom of expression and this is not 100% free
or cost free at least prices to paid and all that.

not defending anyone just find it intersting the MODS spent as much time to explain this, this "apparent mis-use of information just to censor some aspect of your active lifestyle here at The Filter.

{ lites up a Monte Cristo, wishes Miguel was around}


posted by clavdivs at 7:29 AM on March 3, 2009

guess freedom dont gets its second
e
mail
posted by clavdivs at 7:30 AM on March 3, 2009 [1 favorite]

AuntieRuth said: "Apparently you were one of those my e-mail was forwarded to so you felt compelled to demonstrate your insider's knowledge, so you are clearly acting as a group to censor and control freedom of thought."

OH GAG ME

(or, what Jess and cortex said)
posted by pineapple at 9:37 AM on March 3, 2009

Apparently you were one of those my e-mail was forwarded to so you felt compelled to demonstrate your insider's knowledge, so you are clearly acting as a group to censor and control freedom of thought.

That reminds me of an AskMe I read recently...
posted by Alvy Ampersand at 9:55 AM on March 3, 2009

Freedom. Just another word for nothin' left to lose.
posted by Miko at 12:04 PM on March 3, 2009

posted by Miko Freedom. Just another word for nothin' left to lose.

French Fries

Freedom Fries

Nothin' Left To Lose Fries
posted by mattdidthat at 12:22 PM on March 3, 2009

Nothing-left-to-lose is on the march!

(that's actually quite apt)
posted by UbuRoivas at 12:29 PM on March 3, 2009

There is no conspiracy. I don't have the energy or the inclination to bother with one.

So I guess that means you guys aren't taking orders from China anymore. When did that happen?
posted by burnmp3s at 1:26 PM on March 3, 2009

since always? we don't even take orders from each other.
posted by jessamyn (staff) at 1:33 PM on March 3, 2009

China was getting all needy and shit and didn't like that I was out late for band practice and gigs, plus there was this ridiculous obsession with how I didn't like China's mom, or something, which, sorry, I'm not dating China's mom, what does that have to do with anything?
posted by cortex (staff) at 1:35 PM on March 3, 2009 [2 favorites]

Apparently you were one of those my e-mail was forwarded to so you felt compelled to demonstrate your insider's knowledge

Yep. Me 'n Bobbie McGee felt compelled to *read* after which we had nuthin to lose except our taters so we decided to flaunt our *insides* by droppin our drawers and demonstrating our *knowledge* (aka China.)
posted by Secret Life of Gravy at 5:01 PM on March 3, 2009 [2 favorites]