I love Ask and I embrace the legitimate need for anonymity, but I seem to be noticing an increasing number of questions where the asker is abusing Ask by hiding behind anonymity while expecting forthright and revealing answers from other members.
posted by DarlingBri to Etiquette/Policy at 10:58 AM (102 comments total)
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about penis piercings is a good example of what I mean: a poster is too embarrassed to tell us he wants to have his todger bedazzled but expects other people who have had theirs done to step up and share their experiences. Going through recent Anon posts, I am similarly irritated by posts like "I don't want you to know I read erotica
, but please tell me what erotica you read" and to a lesser degree, "My IUD
is TMI but yours is not."
The theme that links these together for me is "I'm too embarrassed to ask but you shouldn't be too embarrassed to answer." I understand that individual members may post or not post replies as they wish, but I respectfully submit that overall, the bar for anonymous Ask should perhaps be higher.
Alternatively, maybe someone could help me re-frame this kind of very unbalanced post in a way I find less grating. Because I'm totally open to "it's not me, it's you" here and would like to be less irked by these questions.