[the benefits of eating meat to human beings, including that it tastes good and provides nutrition] minus [the benefits to human beings of eating whatever food you'd eat if you didn't eat the meat, including that it also tastes good and also provides nutrition] is more important than [the badness of animal suffering caused by the production of your meat]
If saying something about one group would cause offense or outrage if you said the same thing about the Jews - You might just have an offensive statement regardless of the target group.
Sure, and if that's the only way you can get your point across that something might be offensive, you may not be trying hard enough to make yourself understood. You can easily silence a otherwise-friendly discussion about gender by saying "That sounds like something a rapist would say" and then claim plausible denial that you wren't actually calling that person a rapist, but it's dirty pool and not a good way to get your point across. If people don't understand why these sorts of problematic statements aren't okay, there's a whole community of people here to help them understand.