Ugh, I'm just going to say it: continuously posting to this breakup advice
in Ask is lazy and more often than not it doesn't really fit the situation. I wish people would speak to the actual specific break-up someone is asking about or just stay out of it.
posted by nanojath to MetaFilter-Related at 10:48 AM (90 comments total)
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I know it is the most popular advice ever and comes from a person who genuinely seems like just a swell individual all around but it is not the universal solvent of bad relationships. It seems like really great advice for a relationship that has not been around all that long or gotten all that serious and has been okay but has some just fundamental incompatibility issues. It fails in relevance pretty dramatically if:
-There are actually particular, recognized issues that the relational conflict has been all about. You can focus on the person's positives all you want, it just makes it that much more nakedly obvious that you're ignoring the elephant in the room.
-It has been a serious long-term relationship that just requires more than "for whatever reason, I'm not feeling strongly enough about this"
-The other person is seriously resisting the breakup, in which case the whole "you deserve the fabulous life me dumping you is going to make possible" is likely to be just more twisting the knife if not a whole other avenue for the dumped party to argue from.
Basically if all people are going to do is drop that link without relating directly to the specifics of the question at hand I think they should just move on.