seems to be asking us to come up with the most malicious gossip we can think up about somebody the OP doesn't really know very well. I don't think this is something we should be aiding and abetting.
posted by nangar to Etiquette/Policy at 9:00 PM (131 comments total)
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To point out a couple of things that should be obvious:
If the OP was actually a friend of the person in question and had any real interest in finding out the actual reason, they could ask them.
The OP has made it clear in their responses in thread that they're not interested in reasonable or non-judgmental possible explanations.
I was friends with a couple who kept their relationship secret from the woman's parents for decades because this was the only way she could maintain the relationship and maintain a relationship with her family. (Yes, messed up situation, and other people might have handled it differently, but ...) I would hate to think of them being targeted by somebody like the OP.
I realize I'm not by any means the first person to be morally conflicted by a question on AskMe, and usually it comes with the territory. But I think it's reasonable to ask where we draw a line on questions that are so clearly 'help me harm someone'.