Metafilter collectively piled on to this OP
so hard that she returned to update that she was actually essentially being triggered by the responses.
How can we do this better and keep our own issues out of being helpful? Is there a way to "report pileon"? Should there be?
posted by corb to Etiquette/Policy at 12:33 PM (266 comments total)
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The anonymous OP in question was disappointed at her boyfriend's proposal (which was in fact pretty blah) and went to ask how she could get over feeling bad about it, and also, how she could avoid feeling shame about feeling bad. A whole mess of MeFites with baggage around marriage proposals and the wedding-industrial-complex went in to take her to task for daring to want a romantic proposal, thus effectively shaming the OP in a question about how she could feel less shame.
Awful. Really godawful. But as far as I know, there's really no way to kind of avoid this. There's no way to report a pileon, and very few individual responses were really beyond the pale.
So what do we do? I think this is honestly a black mark on AskMe, that this request for help went so completely backwards. Thoughts?