I would like to understand what got a post of mine deleted today. I contacted the mods and got some feedback and then was directed here. So here I am. Community feedback requested.
posted by Michele in California to Etiquette/Policy at 6:48 PM (111 comments total)
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I am hesitant to repost the deleted post here for fear of breaking some rule. I would, otherwise, be happy to share it in order to get specific feedback as to why it got flagged and deleted.
One of the things I have been told I am doing wrong is somehow talking excessively about myself rather than answering the question on AskMe and I have also been told I am in the wrong to reply when a bunch of people call me out by name publically. So at the moment I am feeling like even trying to understand the problem is probably going to be a violation of whatever etiquette rule or policy I am already apparently breaking. (Because asking "what am I doing wrong?" makes this about me and that's apparently part of the problem.)
In the same thread today as my deleted post, there are other anecdotes with little or no specific advice. They have not been deleted. I have been told giving specific advice is the answer to the problem but I did that in the deleted post today and in some other deleted posts as well. My internet background is rooted in "cite your sources or speak from firsthand personal experience". I understand that to be a good standard. I am baffled as to why it seems to be failing me here.
I had a point today in the post that got deleted. I think it is a good point. I don't think anyone else made the same point or I would be happy to let it go. The poster posted anonymously and did not provide an email address, so I cannot email or memail them. As I understand it, if I can fix whatever I did wrong, it is okay to try again to make my point. But I don't understand what I did wrong.
So please tell me what I am doing wrong here. Or, more generally, what makes some anecdotes "good answers" and other anecdotes "just you blathering on pointlessly about yourself" in the eyes of the community? Because making sure it includes "specific advice" does not appear to fix whatever the issue is.
Thanks in advance.