A current thread in AskMe
is about how to react when someone flips out on you in public, or on public transit over something relatively minor. In my mind at least, it's gone a bit off the rails and it properly rubbed me the wrong way...
posted by emptythought to Etiquette/Policy at 6:17 PM (156 comments total)
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I sat on this for quite a while, pretty much since the thread was posted just kinda seeing how it would play out, and wondering what really bothered me about it and whether it was just a couple of people flipping out on the threadstarter.
Pretty much, there's two really shitty things going on here in my opinion.
First of all, treating the poster as an unreliable narrator. Since when is this any sort of standard? there's piles of relationship threads where someone spins up some "chances there's more to this story 500%" yarn and yet we all take it at face value because it's not our job to turn the tables on the poster. If someone posts an ass-half-full kind of thread, it'll probably just get exploded by the mods. Why should we be tearing in to them?
Secondly, and somewhat related to the above, some weird expectation that if someone calls you an asshole it's pretty much automatically valid to the degree that they declare it.
The entire thread is like a Concours D'elegance of hobbyhorses being shined up and ridden out about how this one time this one asshole did something vaguely like you, and oh man, they were such an asshole, so now i'm going to project that on to you.
Has no one encountered the kind of prick the original poster is talking about here? The kind of person who takes some really minor slight that just maybe, a lot of people would come to accept as a fact of life when it comes to crowded public transit like bumping in to them when you sit down or your backpack brushing in to them as you get off and then flip shit on you are in fact not normal people here.
I'm a quiet dude whose ridden transit all my life, and usually keeps to himself and just stares at a book(or more recently, a smartphone) and i've had more than a few memorable nonsensical encounters like this over the past few years. And yes, i've sat down and reflected upon the fact that i might be some inconsiderate asshole and it just doesn't make sense. Some people are unreasonable and like yelling at people.
I just don't really think that these posts are any meaningful, helpful, or reasonable response to the OP here. And there's a lot of them. The entire pile stinks of threadshitting.