Jesus, MeFi, you were doing so well, and then… this
posted by Nomyte to Etiquette/Policy at 10:21 AM (196 comments total)
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Maybe you thought cultural sensitivity only extends as far as inconsequential, arbitrary etiquette, like remembering not to offer your left hand to shake and not sticking your chopsticks into the rice, and not, you know, actually deep and meaningful cultural differences, like the personal meaning of "family," and "filial responsibility," and "aging." The answers in that AskMe thread don't just seem Americentric, they're like some kind of idealized upper-middle New England WASP front: why not join a ladies' social club? why not sit on the board of a local charity nonprofit? why not while away lazy afternoons playing bridge? Hell, half the people answering the question seem happy to just flat-out medicalize the differences they see!
Most people would agree that interacting with and caring for aging parents can be a source of difficulty. But I'm not sure the answers have any reason to be so presumptuous, heartless, and dismissive of difference. Or maybe MeFi can start looking forward to more snappy answers to eldercare questions? That would be a treat! "Your parents didn't bother to accumulate a nest egg before retirement? Well, sucks to be them! Feel free to wash your hands of that little matter."