AskMe about growing up with a father

February 26, 2016 7:20 AM

I’m trying to find an askme about what it’s like to grow up as a girl with a strong father figure.

It was asked about 2-4 years ago, I believe. I think the OP had grown up without a dad, and was wondering what kind of intangible things she had missed and perhaps didn’t even know she was missing. I think there were also people answering from the opposite perspective (“I grew up without a father and here’s what I wish I had”). I believe this question got a large response and was quite bittersweet. Can anyone help me find it?

posted by yawper to MetaFilter-Related at 7:20 AM (10 comments total)

Fatherless.

I used google, rather than site search, and searched for: "without a father" site:ask.metafilter.com
posted by jacquilynne at 8:04 AM on February 26, 2016 [2 favorites]

Thanks jacquilynne (and also for explaining how you found that thread), but that's not it. I remember it was from a distinctly female perspective.
posted by yawper at 8:35 AM on February 26, 2016

Alternatively.
posted by jacquilynne at 8:49 AM on February 26, 2016 [1 favorite]

I remember this, and for the life of me I can't find it either! Hope someone can find it for you. I seem to remember it included a story that somebody (I feel like it was either phunniemee or EmpressCallipygos) told about a sweet phone call with their dad but it must not have been either of them because I've combed through pages of Google results without finding it.
posted by rabbitrabbit at 1:00 PM on February 26, 2016

this?

http://ask.metafilter.com/166489/What-would-I-know-now-if-Id-had-a-less-bad-dad
posted by queenofbithynia at 3:02 PM on February 26, 2016 [2 favorites]

That must be the one I was thinking of, at least, because it was Countess Elena's story I was remembering. Also I googled "eat bugs" rather than "eat a bug" which is why I didn't find it.
posted by rabbitrabbit at 3:24 PM on February 26, 2016

I know this isn't a proxy for the ask mefi you were looking for, but www.dubiousquality.com is sort of my 'what would it be like to have an amazing father' go-to blog.
posted by Sebmojo at 7:50 PM on February 26, 2016

That question. good gosh. As a new father of a girl and a boy that just crushed me.
posted by Potomac Avenue at 5:38 AM on February 27, 2016 [1 favorite]

Yes! Thank you, queenofbythinia! Sebmojo, I will check out that blog as well. Thanks.
posted by yawper at 5:41 AM on February 27, 2016

Not Just a Father but a Dad or What Does It Take to be a Dad?
posted by carmicha at 3:12 PM on February 27, 2016