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"Wow. You sound so calm. All the tension has been removed. You've come through your harrowing experience and survived it. You're a new man. You'll never take this site or yourself as seriously again."—scarabicHeh. I wouldn't count on it. I just get a little better at this every time, is all. I've been tooling around the online world for two decades. I know the drill. The worst experience of this sort I've had in the last few years has been on my (unofficial) college alum mailing list. I'm used to super-duper-high standards for discourse in that community, with a "leave-it-at-the-door" mentality about ideological biases, etc., but the alum list is dominated by about twenty or so people who have been active on the list for a decade, and the political divide is stark, and the flame wars routine. I have been so disapointed with the list, because I expect so much from it, that things go like my experience here except much more extreme. As soon as I see that bad behavior is the norm, I start to lose my inhibitions against bad behavior, and I become vicious like everyone else. More, probably. You can see that side of my personality here. Then, it just descends into madness. I've subbed to the list off and on for, oh, five years now, but I can't really hang around. Anyway, no small part of all this is my personality, as it is with most of us people in these situations that are controversial, and I've spent probably way too much time over the years criticizing my own behavior, trying to smooth down my own rough edges, figuring out what's my fault and what's not. Mostly, though, I get less thin-skinned as time goes on, which serves me, as it does most people, pretty well. It's sort of a shame, though, that this environment is such a social darwinist environment.
"The good thing about you, Eternal Bore, is that you make everyone around you seem amusing."—MiguelHow kind of you to notice, Miguel. Likewise, it's my understanding that you make everyone around you seem genuine and virile—including the ladies. You see, we all have our perverse virtues.
As for my other comment, in the other thread... gimme a break. People make observations like that all the time around here. It wasn't rude or mean and I stuck it in small text, which carries a meaning all it's own. There's nothing wrong with it. Pick on someone else. Oh, and ask Matt to delete amberglow's post because it's the right thing to do... one link to a shitty essay about bullshit that isn't even worth trying to discuss seriously. Shit. Delete!
posted by Witty at 10:42 PM on June 14, 2004