I find that the more I compromise, the less I love those who encourage me to do so.
posted by ewkpates at 8:54 AM on November 6 [39 favorites +] [!]
For better or worse, my boyfriend is really concerned with other people's perceptions of him, and I don't want to cause him to lose face in front of his family like that... but then again, I sort of do. I have this mental image of a bunch of fat old men sitting around on their asses while the womenfolk are running around, preparing and cleaning and serving and everything, and it just makes me feel a little sick to my stomach.
Has no one considered that the women in this family have chosen to do that, not because they don't have other options or because the men in the family will smack them down if they don't, but rather because they want to do it and enjoy doing it?
> [few comments removed - the fact that this is in MetaTalk means that if you're doing anything but responding to the OP, you should be heading over there.]
Ah, sweet fuckin' Jesus H. Christ on a goddamn MX. Fine:
> What does macho mean, really, anyway? To me it says the man sees himself as superior because of his maleness.
Not how I intended it.
I expect a fair number of people might personally choose not to do those at their own weddings, but they'd stop short of making all these cries of misogyny if they happened to take place at a wedding they attended.
The entire problem wouldn't have come up at all if he'd expected her to do something to impress his family that she had no objection to.