Help me find that comment about parenting done right

September 8, 2014 7:46 AM

A while back, there was a great post on the blue about people who don't take an adversarial/territorial approach to their kids' sexuality -- basically the opposite approach of people who tell parents of young girls that they're "gonna need to buy a gun, lol." Within that thread, I think one MeFite had a particularly touching comment about how he was welcomed by his girlfriend's family, rather than threatened, and so when they did have a pregnancy scare, they felt ok going to her parents for help. I have searched and searched, but I'm not finding anything. Does this ring a bell with anyone?
posted by shiu mai baby to MetaFilter-Related at 7:46 AM (9 comments total)

Yes! I think you are thinking of this lovely comment by Blasdelb.
posted by gauche at 7:54 AM on September 8, 2014 [7 favorites]

Though, looking at it again, that comment does not seem to me to imply a pregnancy scare so I could be mistaken.
posted by gauche at 8:03 AM on September 8, 2014

Are you sure it was on the blue? This thread was here on the grey and was in response to an AskMe question from a father wanting to scare his daughter's dates. The Metatalk post doesn't have much about pregnancy, but there is a bit in the AskMe.
posted by soelo at 8:35 AM on September 8, 2014 [1 favorite]

Ah, I misremembered the part about the pregnancy scare, probably conflating it with something else, but it was definitely Blasedlb's comment I was thinking of. BRILLIANT! Thank you!
posted by shiu mai baby at 10:05 AM on September 8, 2014

people who tell parents of young girls that they're "gonna need to buy a gun, lol."

Oh god this is the absolute worst what am I supposed to say to these people besides "Uhhh ok gross"?
posted by Potomac Avenue at 2:40 PM on September 8, 2014

I had a male friend in high school whose father would clean his shotgun in the living room whenever a boy would pick up his sister for a date. My friend thought it was kind of funny. I asked him what he would do if his dad did that to him when he brought a girl home. He hemmed and hawed for a while, then had the sudden realization that it wasn't very fucking funny at all.
posted by double block and bleed at 3:19 PM on September 8, 2014 [1 favorite]

people who tell parents of young girls that they're "gonna need to buy a gun, lol."

I have a four year old daughter, and I get this sentiment from well-meaning people ALL the time, and it makes me furious. On the bright side, it gives me an excellent (and too frequent) chance to practice the Miss-Manners-approved "Why would you say such a thing" response, so yay. I guess.

But anyway. Blasedlb's comment outlines the exact approach I want to take with my kid as she grows older. I'm so very grateful y'all found it for me.
posted by shiu mai baby at 4:21 PM on September 8, 2014 [1 favorite]

What a wonderful comment from Blasdelb. I missed it the first time around, so thanks for this post, shiu mai baby!
posted by hurdy gurdy girl at 7:30 PM on September 8, 2014 [2 favorites]

I only just noticed this meta, but I'm really glad my comment has meaningful to mefites. This is all reminding me to give my old ex's parents a call, its been a while and they're always so wonderful.
posted by Blasdelb at 8:26 AM on September 17, 2014 [1 favorite]