I feel like my boyfriend thinks I can easily be replaced. How can I communicate with him about that?Actually, I like the original version better.
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My boyfriend and I have been together for around six months. We have never had a fight, and neither of us angers easily. But sometimes he does upset me, and I don't say anything about it because I find it hard to communicate my feelings. For example, we had a conversation last night about how people can be replaced. He said it's generally easy to replace people, like when an employee quits or is fired. I disagreed with him because I felt like he was saying (in essence) that I could easily be replaced in our relationship. I didn't express this feeling to him explicitly, but I did ask what he would do if I died. He said he would wait a year and then find someone else, which is a fair response but still made me feel insecure.
Am I overreacting to his statements about how people can easily be replaced? More generally, how can I communicate about these feelings with my boyfriend in a way that doesn't make me even more upset?
'Twas brillig, and the slithy tovesposted by ericb at 10:55 AM on November 8, 2007
Did gyre and gimble in the wabe:
All mimsy were the borogoves,
And the mome raths outgrabe.
"Beware the Jabberwock, my son!
The jaws that bite, the claws that catch!
Beware the Jubjub bird, and shun
The frumious Bandersnatch!"
He took his vorpal sword in hand:
Long time the manxome foe he sought—
So rested he by the Tumtum tree,
And stood awhile in thought.
And, as in uffish thought he stood,
The Jabberwock, with eyes of flame,
Came whiffling through the tulgey wood,
And burbled as it came!
One, two! One, two! And through and through
The vorpal blade went snicker-snack!
He left it dead, and with its head
He went galumphing back.
"And hast thou slain the Jabberwock?
Come to my arms, my beamish boy!
O frabjous day! Callooh! Callay!"
He chortled in his joy.
'Twas brillig, and the slithy toves
Did gyre and gimble in the wabe:
All mimsy were the borogoves,
And the mome raths outgrabe.
... a monster of so frightful mienWe will attract those who aspire to whatsoever we tolerate, moderated only by the $5 barrier to entry. Matt is correct that there is, as yet, no way around the human moderation costs. Still, I move for the immediate installation of StupidFilter as soon as it becomes available. If MeFi doesn't use it wholesale, I will use the browser plugin. (Actually, I will probably use the browser plugin anyway, and see if it can make eighth grade finally end on the Internet like it eventually did in real life.)
As, to be hated, needs but to be seen.
Yet seen too oft, familiar with her face,
We first endure, then pity, then embrace.
1 onion, dicedposted by ericb at 11:59 PM on November 8, 2007 [2 favorites]
1 tablespoon olive oil
1 lb. lamb, minced
1 clove garlic, crushed
1 large carrot, diced
1 beef stock cube
1 lb. chopped tomatoes
1 tablespoon corn flour
3 tablespoons tomato puree
pinch of salt and pepper
2 lb. potatoes
1 stick butterThis is how to make a real English shepherds pie, made with lamb. If made with beef, it would be known as cottage pie.
Firstly, heat the olive oil in a pan, add the onion, garlic and carrot and cook until soft. Add minced lamb and stock cube, then cook until the mince is brown and shows a crumbly texture. Stir in the tomatoes and tomato puree, and add the corn flour. Leave to simmer, stirring occasionally, for about fifteen minutes, or until thickened.
Meanwhile, peel and chop potatoes and boil until soft, then mash them with the butter and salt and pepper to taste.
Put the filling into a deep dish, then top with the mashed potatoes and put under a warm grill (broiler) until the top is brown and crisp.
Fools! who from hence into the notion fall(Alexander Pope, An Essay on Man.) Make no mistake: The site I visited is still up. But he community I enjoyed there has never recovered. Many of us stop by and contribute something from time to time, but we haven't got the critical mass anymore. It's been years, and I still miss it.
That vice and virtue there is none at all.
If white and black blend, soften, and unite
A thousand ways, is there no black or white?
Ok, I'll create the queue for all posts and comments to go through TheOnlyCoolTim first. Thanks for volunteering to go over the 150 posts per day and 2,500 comments!
posted by mathowie (staff) at 9:05 AM on November 8, 2007 [36 favorites]