fun with the s.o. askme...

February 13, 2008 2:45 PM

I need help finding an old askme about hanging out with one's S.O....

I remember an askme thread soliciting ideas about fun ways to spend down time with the s.o. I have been searching like crazy and can't seem to find it again. It is not one of the more specific ones (such as craft type things to do or two player board games). It is more general. Thanks in advance for your help!

posted by honeyx to MetaFilter-Related at 2:45 PM (18 comments total)

A quick search turned up What can we do together? and What do you want to do? I don't know, what do you want to do?.
posted by pb (staff) at 2:57 PM on February 13, 2008

This one was pretty recent. Frankly, I think there've been eighty bajillion of them. Just start clicking on the tags and see where they lead you.
posted by dersins at 3:22 PM on February 13, 2008

I remember this one because it's one in which I posted an answer.
posted by mr_crash_davis at 3:27 PM on February 13, 2008

Is it me, or are those threads, questions and answers, deeply depressing? If you have to ask how to spend time together, maybe your O shouldn't be S for much longer.
posted by jack_mo at 4:16 PM on February 13, 2008 [2 favorites]

It's you.
posted by dersins at 4:22 PM on February 13, 2008

Seriously. Ladies, if you don't know what to do with your SO, send him over to my place.
posted by moxiedoll at 4:38 PM on February 13, 2008

I take them more as "are there fun things we're not thinking of?" or "we're in a bit of a rut and we realize it, so help us brainstorm about how to get out of our rut". Not "help, we don't actually like to spend time together".

If you've been in a long term relationship and never had the problem of overfamiliar routine, never had a rut you wanted to break out of, I think you're one of the rare lucky ones.
posted by LobsterMitten at 5:05 PM on February 13, 2008

Was it Budget Dating Without Being Cheap, from Jan 11? It's about spending quality, non-TV time with your partner while simultaneously not spending loads.

I dare say there's a Wiki page waiting to be pulled together on this topic.
posted by mumkin at 6:21 PM on February 13, 2008

Thanks everyone. I'm not sure why I was having so much trouble turning these up, but I'm glad some of you have the skills! I'm not sure which of these threads I was originally thinking of, but they are certainly within the scope of what I was looking for.
And for the record, there is certainly nothing wrong with looking for new, fun ways to spend time with my husband on the evenings and weekends. I know plenty of fun things to do together, but I am always looking for more.
If you think its pathetic or depressing to seek out new ways to spend time with your partner, your relationships are going to get boring pretty fucking fast.
posted by honeyx at 6:36 PM on February 13, 2008

Hey honeyx (and lobstermitten) I'm sorry. I don't think it's ever pathetic or depressing for anyone to try and learn about new fun things to do. I'm usually not mean - let's blame valentine's day! I think your question ran through my grumpy filter and came out sounding all smug, like, "oooh! I'm comfortably coupled! how can we have even *more* fun!" Anyway, it's not a dumb question, and I'm just jealous, and I apologize.
posted by moxiedoll at 7:00 PM on February 13, 2008

Thanks for the apology moxie. I have my share of grumpy filter days too - no hard feelings.
posted by honeyx at 7:39 PM on February 13, 2008

DTMFA.

I kid. I kid because I'm alone. Happy Valentine's Day!
posted by LordSludge at 8:56 PM on February 13, 2008 [1 favorite]

Reclaiming the Marital Entertainment Space.
posted by tkolar at 11:14 PM on February 13, 2008

pretty fucking
That sounds like a plan; maybe do without the "fast."
posted by Abiezer at 2:37 AM on February 14, 2008

Hanging Out Your S.O.

1. Wash your S.O. in warm, soapy water and pat dry with a paper towel.
2. Clip your S.O. to a wire coat hanger with two equally-spaced wooden clothespegs.
3. Hang your S.O. outside to dry thoroughly in the warm sunshine while a playful zephyr lightly tickles your S.O. Leave for 1 hour.
4. When you check back, your S.O. is GONE!
5. Where did S.O. go? So lonely without S.O. Now cry hot salty tears all down your shirt and then vomit all over yourself from the shame, the life-sapping horror of your meaningless existence without S.O. Then resolve never to speak to another living person; contemplate suicide. Lie in your own filth on the kitchen floor, drooling and occasionally wheezing. Let dogs piss on you in disgust and maggots feast upon your lifeless flesh.
6. Wait - S.O. just went down the shops for some floss. S.O. comes back and is all like "Yo, 'sup?"
7. Now iron S.O. with a hot iron to remove all wrinkles.
8. Then fold S.O. and place in wardrobe and never, ever speak of S.O. again.
posted by the quidnunc kid at 3:14 AM on February 14, 2008 [4 favorites]

LobsterMitten: "I take them more as "are there fun things we're not thinking of?" or "we're in a bit of a rut and we realize it, so help us brainstorm about how to get out of our rut". Not "help, we don't actually like to spend time together"."

Fair do's - you're right. On the basis of a quick skim, I thought it was the latter, and my first thought was 'How depressing, dump him/her at once and find someone interesting at once.' (An attitude which may well explain my careful avoidance of romantic 'relationships' that last for more than a few days!)
posted by jack_mo at 6:33 AM on February 14, 2008

Ladies, if you don't know what to do with your SO, send him over to my place.

Great, he can leave his dirty underwear on your bathroom floor.
posted by desjardins at 9:00 AM on February 14, 2008 [1 favorite]

Heck, I'm keepin' the SO and just sendin' the underwear.
posted by nebulawindphone at 11:51 AM on February 14, 2008