I wanted to say something about the discussion happening in this
AskMe, but in a way that does not derail the thread itself. So, here I am.
"Rapists know they are causing pain and distress, on a premeditated basis, and they don't care."
posted by prefpara to MetaFilter-Related at 12:19 PM (321 comments total)
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This comment is true of some rapists. However, many rapists do not fall into this category. There are times when a man sincerely believes that "no" means "yes," for example. Even when this is the case, the resulting sex is still rape
. Rape is not limited to those sexual encounters where the rapist is aware that his victim has not consented. This is true of the word as I understand it in a general sense, and it is also true of the crime "rape" in the United States.
I wanted to pull this out because I think it's important... It's tempting to want to define rape as this one very terrible thing, but it's unfortunately more of a continuum, and limiting it to the extreme end does not help the many rape victims whose experiences do not fit in that box.
Sorry, I hope this isn't an obnoxious post. I just feel strongly.