Is it me, or has MeFi been infected with "honey" recently? It seems as though in the past week or so, every thread I go into has someone referring to another poster as "honey" or "hon" -- a term that I find startlingly condescending (with overtones of ageism and sexism, to boot).
posted by obliquicity to Etiquette/Policy at 10:33 PM (315 comments total)
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I'd assume that the people saying it mean it to come across that way, except that their comments otherwise seem likely to be genuinely caring/trying to be helpful. Is this just the painful extension of a general cultural tendency to pretend we live in the 1950s again? To be completely clear, to offer someone advice and then append that advice with the endearment "hon," is to suggest that you are oh-so-much-older-and-wiser than they are, and that they will, one day, realize how sweetly naïve they were for not realizing all along the wisdom of the pearls you just shared. Plus, you don't know them (unless of course you do, I suppose) -- so why are terms of endearment even appropriate at all? None of the posts or comments to which these comments are responding ask for demonstrations of maternal affection.
If I'm the only one interpreting this word this way, then I will of course tuck my sweet li'l tail between my legs and go home.