Lets talk about sex. July 25, 2011 4:27 PM Subscribe
Proposed Ask category: Sex.
I'm just noticing that there's no actual "sex" category for Ask. This seems like an oversight. It could be appended to "Health and Fitness" but that doesn't really make sense outside of, say, a newspaper stuck in outdated social conventions.
And questions about sex from vanilla to kinky, or pertaining to GLBT issues don't always entirely fit in health or human relations. Not all sexual activity involves relationships, or is a health related issue.
I'm just noticing that there's no actual "sex" category for Ask. This seems like an oversight. It could be appended to "Health and Fitness" but that doesn't really make sense outside of, say, a newspaper stuck in outdated social conventions.
And questions about sex from vanilla to kinky, or pertaining to GLBT issues don't always entirely fit in health or human relations. Not all sexual activity involves relationships, or is a health related issue.
There's also not a separate category for Books. Not being facetious, I think that would be very cool.
posted by tumid dahlia at 4:32 PM on July 25, 2011 [1 favorite]
posted by tumid dahlia at 4:32 PM on July 25, 2011 [1 favorite]
Yeah, this would be useful.
posted by overeducated_alligator at 4:33 PM on July 25, 2011
posted by overeducated_alligator at 4:33 PM on July 25, 2011
Even if sex doesn't involve big-r Relationships, doesn't it always involve relations? Hence the euphemism "sexual relations?"
posted by koeselitz at 4:37 PM on July 25, 2011
posted by koeselitz at 4:37 PM on July 25, 2011
Human relations category with the sex tag will not only work fine but it's what people have been using so far. We really don't want to add categories if at all possible and this one pretty much fits into an existing category.
posted by jessamyn (staff) at 4:38 PM on July 25, 2011 [5 favorites]
posted by jessamyn (staff) at 4:38 PM on July 25, 2011 [5 favorites]
Are you having relations if you're masturbating? Is masturbation not sex?
Sexuality isn't always about actual sex, either. Sex and sexuality could encompass everything from sexual identity to gender identity.
And sometimes the discussion about sex isn't about sex at all, as in the case of people who are asexual.
Seems to me like the larger topic of "human sexuality" isn't fully contained in health or fitness, or relations.
posted by loquacious at 4:40 PM on July 25, 2011 [1 favorite]
Sexuality isn't always about actual sex, either. Sex and sexuality could encompass everything from sexual identity to gender identity.
And sometimes the discussion about sex isn't about sex at all, as in the case of people who are asexual.
Seems to me like the larger topic of "human sexuality" isn't fully contained in health or fitness, or relations.
posted by loquacious at 4:40 PM on July 25, 2011 [1 favorite]
Seems to me like the larger topic of "human sexuality" isn't fully contained in health or fitness, or relations.
Can you point to instances of where this had been so or the lack of a sex category has been a problem?
posted by Brandon Blatcher at 4:45 PM on July 25, 2011
Can you point to instances of where this had been so or the lack of a sex category has been a problem?
posted by Brandon Blatcher at 4:45 PM on July 25, 2011
still a human activity.
perhaps your thinking a new catagory might make search easier or help with a more precise index of the various tags related human sexuality.
posted by clavdivs at 4:45 PM on July 25, 2011
perhaps your thinking a new catagory might make search easier or help with a more precise index of the various tags related human sexuality.
posted by clavdivs at 4:45 PM on July 25, 2011
Seems to me like the larger topic of "human sexuality" isn't fully contained in health or fitness, or relations.
But this is true for plenty of other things, as well. There's a choice between a small controlled vocabulary of categories or broad but shallow categories; Mefi's gone for the former with the use of tags (and various tag-searching/-filtering tools) to help add a lot of flexibility back in after the fact.
Ultimately, your question is your question and lots of people are going to find it by reading the freeform words you type into the post text box. Categories are a broad guide but hardly sufficient and adding one or two categories isn't going to change that; tags help, searching helps.
posted by cortex (staff) at 4:48 PM on July 25, 2011
But this is true for plenty of other things, as well. There's a choice between a small controlled vocabulary of categories or broad but shallow categories; Mefi's gone for the former with the use of tags (and various tag-searching/-filtering tools) to help add a lot of flexibility back in after the fact.
Ultimately, your question is your question and lots of people are going to find it by reading the freeform words you type into the post text box. Categories are a broad guide but hardly sufficient and adding one or two categories isn't going to change that; tags help, searching helps.
posted by cortex (staff) at 4:48 PM on July 25, 2011
Look, MeFi wants to be free to have sex in whatever category it wants. Stop judging it, you prudey mcprude.
posted by Brandon Blatcher at 4:50 PM on July 25, 2011 [13 favorites]
posted by Brandon Blatcher at 4:50 PM on July 25, 2011 [13 favorites]
Fair enough. I was just surprised to finally notice that there isn't a specific "sexuality" category.
posted by loquacious at 4:57 PM on July 25, 2011
posted by loquacious at 4:57 PM on July 25, 2011
Are you having relations if you're masturbating? Is masturbation not sex?
It's just another way to relate to yourself.
posted by smirkette at 5:08 PM on July 25, 2011
It's just another way to relate to yourself.
posted by smirkette at 5:08 PM on July 25, 2011
The problem with introducing this category would be that everyone would use it as their bookmark for Askme and all those questions about yoga for cats or the best place to buy a replacement splunge sprocket for a 1986 'SpeedMow 2000" lawn mower in Scabies, Ohio would go unanswered for weeks.
posted by joannemullen at 5:28 PM on July 25, 2011 [2 favorites]
posted by joannemullen at 5:28 PM on July 25, 2011 [2 favorites]
Ever have one of those days where you feel like you just can't relate to yourself?
posted by Eideteker at 5:40 PM on July 25, 2011
posted by Eideteker at 5:40 PM on July 25, 2011
Are you having relations if you're masturbating? Is masturbation not sex?It's the only kind of sex I have, and boy do I have questions.
posted by planet at 5:44 PM on July 25, 2011 [2 favorites]
Are you having relations if you're masturbating? Is masturbation not sex?
The way I do it, it falls under "Grab Bag".
posted by Ufez Jones at 5:48 PM on July 25, 2011 [36 favorites]
The way I do it, it falls under "Grab Bag".
posted by Ufez Jones at 5:48 PM on July 25, 2011 [36 favorites]
No. Very few questions are actually just about sex, although many involve it.
posted by crabintheocean at 5:49 PM on July 25, 2011
posted by crabintheocean at 5:49 PM on July 25, 2011
Maybe make it extend to the front page, so you can choose not to see either catagory?
posted by Lovecraft In Brooklyn at 6:12 PM on July 25, 2011
posted by Lovecraft In Brooklyn at 6:12 PM on July 25, 2011
So what about books?
posted by cjorgensen at 6:18 PM on July 25, 2011
posted by cjorgensen at 6:18 PM on July 25, 2011
Media & Arts, unless you're writing one, in which case Writing & Language.
posted by Gator at 6:20 PM on July 25, 2011
posted by Gator at 6:20 PM on July 25, 2011
Put a ring on it.
posted by Sailormom at 6:34 PM on July 25, 2011 [1 favorite]
posted by Sailormom at 6:34 PM on July 25, 2011 [1 favorite]
Yo, I don't think we should talk about this
People might misunderstand what we're tryin' to say, you know?
posted by unliteral at 6:36 PM on July 25, 2011 [1 favorite]
People might misunderstand what we're tryin' to say, you know?
posted by unliteral at 6:36 PM on July 25, 2011 [1 favorite]
The debt ceiling threads have bummed me out, can I crash on this thread's couch for a while?
posted by The Whelk at 6:57 PM on July 25, 2011 [3 favorites]
posted by The Whelk at 6:57 PM on July 25, 2011 [3 favorites]
Shouldn't you be on your honeymoon?
posted by maryr at 7:16 PM on July 25, 2011 [1 favorite]
posted by maryr at 7:16 PM on July 25, 2011 [1 favorite]
intense political discussion and economics reading is my idea of a honeymoon
it starts on the 2nd, I'm still working
posted by The Whelk at 7:19 PM on July 25, 2011
it starts on the 2nd, I'm still working
posted by The Whelk at 7:19 PM on July 25, 2011
...a newspaper stuck in outdated social conventions.
I had a newspaper stuck there once. It was really uncomfortable, and the giggling of the Emergency Room nurses didn't help much, either.
They used tongs to remove it, too. Very undignified.
posted by MexicanYenta at 7:20 PM on July 25, 2011 [2 favorites]
I had a newspaper stuck there once. It was really uncomfortable, and the giggling of the Emergency Room nurses didn't help much, either.
They used tongs to remove it, too. Very undignified.
posted by MexicanYenta at 7:20 PM on July 25, 2011 [2 favorites]
...to The Whelk's honeymoon. I really didn't need to know about the tongs.
posted by maryr at 7:29 PM on July 25, 2011 [3 favorites]
posted by maryr at 7:29 PM on July 25, 2011 [3 favorites]
The Whelk: " it starts on the 2nd, I'm still working "
flagged as offensive, that's just wrong
posted by galadriel at 7:42 PM on July 25, 2011
flagged as offensive, that's just wrong
posted by galadriel at 7:42 PM on July 25, 2011
YES, I FELL ON IT IN THE SHOWER
YES, I READ THE NEWSPAPER IN THE SHOWER
YES, I LIKE TO READ IT ROLLED UP.
posted by cortex (staff) at 7:54 PM on July 25, 2011 [5 favorites]
YES, I READ THE NEWSPAPER IN THE SHOWER
YES, I LIKE TO READ IT ROLLED UP.
posted by cortex (staff) at 7:54 PM on July 25, 2011 [5 favorites]
Once you have a "sexuality" category, then you'll have to start having a separate six-page ad section at the back just for strip clubs and veiled hooker ads. And lots of guys putting in personal ads for things most people really don't do.
And then everyone will be embarassed to read it on the subway, because that ad section will be on the back, and everyone will think they're just reading some smutty rag.
So yeah; good call.
posted by Curious Artificer at 8:38 PM on July 25, 2011
And then everyone will be embarassed to read it on the subway, because that ad section will be on the back, and everyone will think they're just reading some smutty rag.
So yeah; good call.
posted by Curious Artificer at 8:38 PM on July 25, 2011
And then everyone will be embarassed to read it on the subway, because that ad section will be on the back, and everyone will think they're just reading some smutty rag.
Didn't they specifically invent the Kindle and ebooks and smartphones so you could read smutty Literotica slashfic on the subway? I mean we all really know what drives technological innovation forward, right?
Hey professor? What's another word for pirate treasure?
posted by loquacious at 9:03 PM on July 25, 2011
Didn't they specifically invent the Kindle and ebooks and smartphones so you could read smutty Literotica slashfic on the subway? I mean we all really know what drives technological innovation forward, right?
Hey professor? What's another word for pirate treasure?
posted by loquacious at 9:03 PM on July 25, 2011
I would take Books over Sex.
posted by Alvy Ampersand at 9:21 PM on July 25, 2011
posted by Alvy Ampersand at 9:21 PM on July 25, 2011
What about sex books?
posted by cjorgensen at 9:51 PM on July 25, 2011
posted by cjorgensen at 9:51 PM on July 25, 2011
You can also put those in your butt.
(medically speaking)
posted by Potomac Avenue at 9:56 PM on July 25, 2011
(medically speaking)
posted by Potomac Avenue at 9:56 PM on July 25, 2011
Books Fuck?
posted by Chipmazing at 11:19 PM on July 25, 2011
posted by Chipmazing at 11:19 PM on July 25, 2011
I think I asked for a "History" category once... which just goes to show, loquacious' MetaFilter Network Inc. Rejected Proposals file is a lot more more dirty thrilling than my rejected MetaFilter Network Inc. Rejected Proposals file.
posted by taz at 5:58 AM on July 26, 2011
posted by taz at 5:58 AM on July 26, 2011
But what about sex with robots?
I'm not asking about a new category or anything, I just want to talk about robot sex.
posted by quin at 7:27 AM on July 26, 2011
I'm not asking about a new category or anything, I just want to talk about robot sex.
posted by quin at 7:27 AM on July 26, 2011
I would like to Ask for some sex, but I am too shy and defeated.
posted by Decani at 12:15 PM on July 26, 2011 [1 favorite]
posted by Decani at 12:15 PM on July 26, 2011 [1 favorite]
DON'T
DATE
ROBOTS
...Until 3005. And then categorise resulting AskMes under 'Technology'.
Metafilter is totally futureproof.
posted by freya_lamb at 1:22 PM on July 26, 2011
DATE
ROBOTS
...Until 3005. And then categorise resulting AskMes under 'Technology'.
Metafilter is totally futureproof.
posted by freya_lamb at 1:22 PM on July 26, 2011
I was just surprised to finally notice that there isn't a specific "sexuality" category.
HOT pick-up line.
posted by herbplarfegan at 3:15 PM on July 26, 2011 [1 favorite]
HOT pick-up line.
posted by herbplarfegan at 3:15 PM on July 26, 2011 [1 favorite]
Books Fuck?
So THIS is how I always end up with more books than I have room for, despite vowing not to buy any more without donating an equal number...
posted by smirkette at 8:05 PM on July 26, 2011
So THIS is how I always end up with more books than I have room for, despite vowing not to buy any more without donating an equal number...
posted by smirkette at 8:05 PM on July 26, 2011
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posted by Gator at 4:31 PM on July 25, 2011 [1 favorite]