Try and believe, I thought I'd show you / The way tomorrow, please just peek at the ground .

September 16, 2011 6:48 PM

saveyoursanity came into #bunnies yesterday with some terrible news. She had been contacted on Facebook by one of Bob Sarabia's sisters, telling her that bob sarabia, aka puke & cry, aka dead cousin ted has passed away. Dinosaur Jr - Puke & Cry

Bob passed away on 12th September, 2011, aged 28. His obit is here.

Bob will be greatly missed. He was one time curator of the MetaFilter deleted posts blog. For many years he was a regular on #bunnies, where people are welcome to drop by and share some memories and/or hugs.

Dinosaur Jr - Puke & Cry

posted by goshling to MetaFilter-Related at 6:48 PM (329 comments total)

RIP buddy. :(
posted by the mad poster! at 6:53 PM on September 16, 2011

Good bye puke & cry.

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posted by gomichild at 6:56 PM on September 16, 2011

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posted by galadriel at 6:58 PM on September 16, 2011

Aw, man. Words are no good. Hope everyone finds solace.
posted by Horselover Phattie at 6:59 PM on September 16, 2011

Folks in #bunnies concurred that it's ok to send the family a card, in case you're wondering about weirding them out by being contacted by Bob's internet friends. Go for it.
posted by spikeleemajortomdickandharryconnickjrmints at 7:00 PM on September 16, 2011 [1 favorite]

I am sorry to hear this! So very young.

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posted by ThePinkSuperhero at 7:01 PM on September 16, 2011

That is too damn young.

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posted by Uppity Pigeon #2 at 7:03 PM on September 16, 2011

How'd he die? (The obit link doesn't work for me.)
posted by Chocolate Pickle at 7:03 PM on September 16, 2011

RIP puke & cry.

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posted by Stynxno at 7:04 PM on September 16, 2011

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Way too young.
posted by stet at 7:06 PM on September 16, 2011

Oh, no. That's so terribly young.

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posted by lilac girl at 7:08 PM on September 16, 2011

Some people have had problems with the obit link. If you go to the main page, click on obituaries on the side then look for Robert Aaron Sarabia. No cause of death is specified.
posted by goshling at 7:11 PM on September 16, 2011

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posted by heyho at 7:11 PM on September 16, 2011

What a sad day.



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If any of Bob Sarabia's family should happen upon this thread, please know that the single period indicates a moment of silence. I am so sorry for your loss.
posted by Elsa at 7:12 PM on September 16, 2011

oh god no; this is terrible news.
posted by lalex at 7:13 PM on September 16, 2011

Obit link didn't work for me either, but if you search on his last name you can fine it. Weirdly you get the same URL, so no idea why it doesn't load the first time. Maybe try a refresh?

I liked this member. He answered a lot of my questions over the years.

He was also funny.

The obit does not list cause of death.
posted by cjorgensen at 7:14 PM on September 16, 2011

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Peace to family and friends..
posted by HuronBob at 7:14 PM on September 16, 2011

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posted by Kinbote at 7:14 PM on September 16, 2011

Oh no. How very sad. My condolences to the Sarabia family.
posted by jrossi4r at 7:15 PM on September 16, 2011

I really liked puke & cry. He was far too young to go.

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posted by winna at 7:15 PM on September 16, 2011 [2 favorites]

Shit.

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posted by rtha at 7:17 PM on September 16, 2011

My goodness. I'm so sorry. I enjoyed his deleted threads blog, even when I was taking a break from Metafilter itself -- it was a mitzvah to compile it all these years.

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posted by pH Indicating Socks at 7:19 PM on September 16, 2011 [7 favorites]

That sucks :(


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posted by 1000monkeys at 7:21 PM on September 16, 2011

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posted by Rock Steady at 7:21 PM on September 16, 2011

Dammit, puke. Just... dammit.

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posted by sysinfo at 7:23 PM on September 16, 2011

RIP, puke & cry. He was kind enough to drop me a note of thanks in MetaTalk many years ago.

Chocolate Pickle, the Guerrero-Dean Funeral Home website has the feature (bug?) that a deeplink redirects to the home page until the home page successfully sets a cookie. Assuming you accepted their cookies, try closing your browser window and reloading the obit link.
posted by RichardP at 7:25 PM on September 16, 2011 [2 favorites]

I'm so sorry.

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posted by angiep at 7:25 PM on September 16, 2011

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Very sad. He was one of the few non-NYC mefites that I ever connected with outside of the site. Good guy.
posted by gaspode at 7:27 PM on September 16, 2011 [1 favorite]

Shit. That's horrible news.

I never got to meet Bob IRL (though many attempts were made when I was living in Dallas), but we shared a lot of time watching Rangers or Mavericks games in IRC together and riffing on schtick from local sports media members.

RIP, pukester. Goddamn shame.
posted by Ufez Jones at 7:30 PM on September 16, 2011

What sad news. I always enjoyed his Deleted Posts Blog, and admired the amount of effort it must have taken to maintain. So sorry to hear of his passing.

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posted by DingoMutt at 7:30 PM on September 16, 2011 [1 favorite]

Oh, how awful! This is horribly sad news. Bob was a great, long-time member. My heart goes out to his family. I can only begin to imagine their loss.
posted by Kattullus at 7:33 PM on September 16, 2011

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posted by marimeko at 7:34 PM on September 16, 2011

Aw, that's terrible to hear. My condolences to his loved ones. puke & cry brought a lot of good things to the site. RIP
posted by stinkycheese at 7:35 PM on September 16, 2011

I am so sad to hear this.
posted by essexjan at 7:36 PM on September 16, 2011

Goodbye, pukey.

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posted by Ice Cream Socialist at 7:37 PM on September 16, 2011

I'm very saddened by this. RIP Bob.
posted by arse_hat at 7:38 PM on September 16, 2011

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posted by lampshade at 7:41 PM on September 16, 2011

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posted by cybercoitus interruptus at 7:46 PM on September 16, 2011

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posted by rhapsodie at 7:55 PM on September 16, 2011

Peace and condolences to all who loved him. Rest in peace sir.
posted by Daddy-O at 7:58 PM on September 16, 2011

Aw man, this is horrible news. I'm so sorry for his famil, friends, and loved ones.
posted by shiu mai baby at 7:58 PM on September 16, 2011

dead cousin ted.

you once wrote an awesome comment about me that the mods deleted.

I know what it was, you know what it was...and we BOTH know the mods may have forgotten because they are so busy deleting stuff.

Either way, I'll keep you alive through that bit of crazy. Now journey far, bitch. I'll guard your legend here.
posted by hal_c_on at 7:58 PM on September 16, 2011 [14 favorites]

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posted by obloquy at 8:00 PM on September 16, 2011

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posted by punchtothehead at 8:05 PM on September 16, 2011

Condolences and peace to his family and friends.

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posted by readery at 8:06 PM on September 16, 2011

28 is too young. I remember puke & cry from my metachat/#bunnies days. My condolences.
posted by muddgirl at 8:09 PM on September 16, 2011

That's a shame. I recall him being a pretty steady presence here in the past, under a couple of usernames. Much too young.

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posted by evilcolonel at 8:11 PM on September 16, 2011

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posted by XMLicious at 8:12 PM on September 16, 2011

Oh, wow, no. This is terrible. He was just a kid to me; I always felt sort of maternal about him. He was an animal lover and a night owl... I used to talk to him sometimes on #bunnies when it was morning for me, and he was up way too late. He was also "Court Siem" on Metachat (the boy loved his sock puppets), and I never got the chance to ask him if it was an anagram for "Tom Cruise." Why Bob would have an anagram of Tom Cruise for one of his handles, I can't imagine; he had a quirky sense of humor.

I'm so sad. Rest in peace, pukey. You'll be missed.
posted by taz at 8:12 PM on September 16, 2011 [5 favorites]

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posted by odinsdream at 8:13 PM on September 16, 2011

shitshitshitshitshit. just when i was feeling better.
posted by pjern at 8:13 PM on September 16, 2011 [2 favorites]

I never got the chance to meet him in person, but he was a good guy from what I knew of him from the site. Aside from the deleted threads blog, he was one of those folks on the site who was enthusiastic about data crunching stuff; I remember running a custom dump of site activity for him years ago before the Infodump existed, as a one off so he could play with the data. Was shocked to hear he'd died via the folks in #bunnies; he'll be missed.
posted by cortex (staff) at 8:14 PM on September 16, 2011

Oh I'm so sorry. I really liked him a lot; I didn't even know he was so young. Way too goddamn young. What a tragedy.
posted by mygothlaundry at 8:15 PM on September 16, 2011

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posted by brujita at 8:15 PM on September 16, 2011

28 is just getting started. This is not the natural order of things.
posted by Devils Rancher at 8:15 PM on September 16, 2011 [1 favorite]

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posted by mudlark at 8:17 PM on September 16, 2011

Oh no.

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posted by KathrynT at 8:20 PM on September 16, 2011

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posted by Rumple at 8:22 PM on September 16, 2011

From the obituary:

There will never be a day that goes by that I do not think of my son. If you see me, sharing a memory will only help to remind me that Bob's memory lives on. Don't be afraid to mention that you are thinking of Bob, too.

There is an address for condolence cards. I only knew p&c through his online personae here, but I am thinking about sending a postcard to let his family know how much I've enjoyed his contributions here.
posted by lalex at 8:27 PM on September 16, 2011 [9 favorites]

This is the kind of news that makes me realize that, yes, everyone does need a hug.

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posted by ocherdraco at 8:28 PM on September 16, 2011 [1 favorite]

I heard about this yesterday. I wrote his father a letter today telling him, in not too much detail, how much puke & cry meant to the community and how much he'll be missed. I'd suggest other people consider doing the same if they're so moved.
posted by jessamyn (staff) at 8:33 PM on September 16, 2011 [22 favorites]

Oh, fuck that's horrible.
posted by Space Kitty at 8:33 PM on September 16, 2011

This is very sad.

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posted by smoke at 8:35 PM on September 16, 2011

shocking gift for grandpa.
posted by blue_beetle at 8:35 PM on September 16, 2011

Damn. Pukey was great. I used to chat with some in IRC and can say that he was one of the few people who could always surprise me with something off-the-wall and hilarious.

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posted by mullacc at 8:37 PM on September 16, 2011

And to prove my point...

Bob Sarabia's last recorded track on Last.fm:

Geto Boys – Damn It Feels Good To Be A Gangsta

What a fucking guy.
posted by mullacc at 8:39 PM on September 16, 2011 [7 favorites]

Oh, I'm so sorry to hear this. Safe passage, Bob. You will be missed.
posted by scody at 8:39 PM on September 16, 2011 [1 favorite]

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posted by juv3nal at 8:41 PM on September 16, 2011

I am so sorry. Damn, 28 is impossibly young. I'm so sorry.
posted by sweetkid at 8:41 PM on September 16, 2011

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posted by Skorgu at 8:43 PM on September 16, 2011

In 2004 Bob put a link to a mixtape on MetaTalk that was there for only a few minutes. I listened to it over and over. I sought CDs and went to concerts because of his mix. A lot of his top listened-to artists on last.fm were on it (Kings of Convenience, The Sea and Cake, Cut Copy, The Wrens, etc). Years have passed and I still occasionally think to contact vomit sobber and thank him for it but I never gave myself the chance.

Thanks, Bob. I'll never forget you.
posted by jjray at 8:44 PM on September 16, 2011 [4 favorites]

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Sigh. Yeah, just the dot.

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posted by mwhybark at 8:50 PM on September 16, 2011

I spent a lot of time chatting with Bob in #bunnies when I was working 3rd shift- I could always count on him coming up with something amazing or off-the-wall or even a little argumentative- but never dull. He was less than half my age, and that really sucks. I can't stay over there right now, it hurts a little too much, and I can't see through the tears anyway.

Bob, I hope you knew that we all respected you, and many of us loved you. You are gone far too soon.
posted by pjern at 8:53 PM on September 16, 2011 [2 favorites]

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posted by exlotuseater at 8:58 PM on September 16, 2011

Bye, internet friend. We'll miss you.
posted by mintcake! at 9:02 PM on September 16, 2011

This really sucks, what a great guy. Peace out, P&C.
posted by msali at 9:03 PM on September 16, 2011

May you be in a place with no shadows and at peace.
posted by Brandon Blatcher at 9:07 PM on September 16, 2011

Sorry I'm just getting home and couldn't reply to this early. Bob was a member of #bunnies for a long time. He'd come and go for long periods of time, but we always welcomed him back. We always hoped he'd come back.

I probably teased him too much, but he was like a kid brother to me at times. And I did at least try to help him with the ladies. ;)

This one's for you, bud.
posted by Eideteker at 9:07 PM on September 16, 2011 [1 favorite]

Ugh. Such sad news.

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posted by trip and a half at 9:08 PM on September 16, 2011

This is the first internet friend I ever lost. I never knew what it would feel like.

It sucks.

I'll miss you, Pukey. Big hug, wherever you are.
posted by mudpuppie at 9:09 PM on September 16, 2011

Aw damn. No, no, no. Far, far too young. Rest in Peace, Bob. :(

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posted by zarq at 9:13 PM on September 16, 2011

(I always used to spin that track for him on MetaChat Radio, back in the good old days.)
posted by Eideteker at 9:13 PM on September 16, 2011

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posted by catlet at 9:14 PM on September 16, 2011

Speechless.

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posted by snsranch at 9:16 PM on September 16, 2011

Oh fuck.

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posted by shakespeherian at 9:19 PM on September 16, 2011

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posted by ignignokt at 9:20 PM on September 16, 2011

omg I had no idea he was so young. I didn't know him, but he sent me a touching memail once, and that's my enduring memory of him.

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posted by desjardins at 9:22 PM on September 16, 2011

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posted by BurnChao at 9:23 PM on September 16, 2011

What?? NOO! I used to talk to him on IRC all the time! :(

p&c, I miss you. I hope you're okay wherever you are.

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posted by IndigoRain at 9:24 PM on September 16, 2011 [1 favorite]

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posted by bakerina at 9:27 PM on September 16, 2011

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posted by isopraxis at 9:29 PM on September 16, 2011

I am very saddened and sorry to hear. My sincere condolences to his family.
posted by Curious Artificer at 9:29 PM on September 16, 2011

Goddamn, mullacc. That is just so perfect.

Still miss you, kid. You know we were talking about you just a few days ago, right? Maybe you heard us. Feel free to haunt the channel, but I have a feeling you're at peace now.
posted by Eideteker at 9:30 PM on September 16, 2011

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posted by Fuzzy Monster at 9:32 PM on September 16, 2011

Bob was one of the string of longtime users here that taught me patience and how we should always give people second chances. My earliest memories of him were from some fairly argumentative emails calling me all sorts of nasty names that he sent, and I had to look them up again today to make sure because in the past few years my opinion of him was of him being a good longtime member of the site. I'm bummed to hear he died so young but knowing that helps solve a bit of mystery since he was angry with me in his very early 20s and I too remember being a pretty angry guy until my mid-20s so he gets a pass from me on early behavior.

We let him come and go and use a few different accounts (never at the same time or for nefarious purposes) and he came around and became an active and good contributor here. I loved the dedication he put into the deleted thread blog, it's such an insane amount of work doled out over the years that I was impressed he kept it going for so long and wondered if anything was up when it suddenly went silent a few months ago. I regret not emailing him to ask why.

Rest in peace Bob, sorry you had to leave us so young.
posted by mathowie (staff) at 9:32 PM on September 16, 2011 [23 favorites]

omg, look at his kitties, they look just like mine!

his kitty on his desk | my kitty on my desk

I hope they have a home!
posted by desjardins at 9:35 PM on September 16, 2011 [4 favorites]

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posted by ants at 9:41 PM on September 16, 2011

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posted by bdave at 9:43 PM on September 16, 2011

If anyone is having trouble getting into #bunnies, there's a quickstart guide here. Or you can contact me and I'll walk you through it. You're welcome if you want to remember p&c with us, or even if you didn't know him. We've had a few folks stop by tonight just to hear some stories about him.
posted by Eideteker at 9:47 PM on September 16, 2011 [7 favorites]

28. Jesus Christ.

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posted by Phire at 9:51 PM on September 16, 2011

(and even if you're seeing this at weird hours US time or normal hours in other parts of the world, don't hesitate to stop by for some company; we're worldwide so someone's almost always around if you're patient.)

Sorry for the derail.
posted by Eideteker at 9:58 PM on September 16, 2011 [1 favorite]

I remember him, even though I never got to know him...thanks, Bob. The time you spent with us made Metafilter a better place.

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posted by StrikeTheViol at 10:00 PM on September 16, 2011

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posted by equalpants at 10:01 PM on September 16, 2011

I'd wondered about the deleted posts blog. Always loved his dead cousin ted username, a reference to Maniac Mansion. Never spoke to him but that kind of reference to your childhood always feels a bit like a hug.

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posted by PhoBWanKenobi at 10:02 PM on September 16, 2011

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posted by Iridic at 10:03 PM on September 16, 2011

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posted by barnacles at 10:05 PM on September 16, 2011

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posted by dhruva at 10:18 PM on September 16, 2011

We emailed back and forth a couple times. P&C was such a good guy and the world is a lesser place without him.
posted by deborah at 10:21 PM on September 16, 2011

This is sad news. I feel for his family.
posted by Forktine at 10:22 PM on September 16, 2011

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posted by brina at 10:23 PM on September 16, 2011

Well this just awful.

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posted by Jofus at 10:25 PM on September 16, 2011

I knew Bob in real life, as it's said, and I'm numb right now and might not ever get around to posting in this thread in a non-numb state.

If someone did you wrong, Bob had your back with a near unholy vengeance. I've never known anyone like him and never will again.

I've just now found out about this and as I said, I'm numb. Consider this a placeholder for later.
posted by item at 10:29 PM on September 16, 2011 [3 favorites]

I'm so sorry item. Please reach out to someone you trust with whatever you're feeling.
posted by sweetkid at 10:40 PM on September 16, 2011

Good Lord. What terrible, sad news.

I suppose being part of a community this large and this active means that every so often a member will die. It's happened more than a few times since I first joined. But it's always a shock, and always so sad. It's like the world just got smaller and less interesting.

Which it did. RIP Bob.
posted by Bunny Ultramod at 10:49 PM on September 16, 2011 [1 favorite]

It's so sad to hear someone so young has passed. My condolences to his family and friends.
posted by misozaki at 10:49 PM on September 16, 2011

I'm so so sad to hear this. Puke was such a character and I had so many long conversations with him about cats and Mexican food. Rest in peace, puke. I'm going to miss you.

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posted by jonathanstrange at 10:53 PM on September 16, 2011

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posted by russm at 11:01 PM on September 16, 2011

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posted by katillathehun at 11:05 PM on September 16, 2011

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posted by motty at 11:12 PM on September 16, 2011

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posted by TheophileEscargot at 11:13 PM on September 16, 2011

Goddamn it.

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posted by BitterOldPunk at 11:14 PM on September 16, 2011 [1 favorite]

That's sad news. He's one of those people that always managed to make a comment that was exactly what I would have said if I was as smart and witty enough phrase it his way. Goodbye stranger, goodbye friend.
posted by peeedro at 11:16 PM on September 16, 2011

heartbreaking.

bless all those who love him with crystal clear recall of their best moments with him.

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posted by batmonkey at 11:17 PM on September 16, 2011

This is awful. He was only 28? This is absolutely tragic.

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posted by homunculus at 11:28 PM on September 16, 2011

Wow, I had no idea he was so young. I mean, not that much younger than me, but I had this mental image of him being here forever, and, you know, maybe growing up with usenet or something…

This sucks. Sorry.

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posted by klangklangston at 11:33 PM on September 16, 2011

So sad. He'll be missed.

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posted by Stewriffic at 11:47 PM on September 16, 2011

I hope it's not too soon, but this comment of his gave me a chuckle. Truer words, etc.
posted by Horselover Phattie at 11:56 PM on September 16, 2011 [1 favorite]

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posted by scottymac at 12:00 AM on September 17, 2011

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posted by Ghidorah at 12:03 AM on September 17, 2011

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posted by rangefinder 1.4 at 12:06 AM on September 17, 2011

So this probably goes without saying at a time like this, but if it does nothing other than help me deal with shit, so be it: if you're ever feeling like there is no hope please know that there will always be someone that believes otherwise. Always. Nothing is ever so terrible that it can't get better. I don't give a fuck if you don't know me, memails to me will never go unanswered. Try me. There will never be anything so bad that talking about it will actually make it worse. There will always be literally DOZENS of people in this community that're willing to talk about anything, from the smallest of nothing to the greatest crisis imaginable. I've put this to the test several times, and it's worked like a charm always.

You have a great resource here. Please remember this.
posted by item at 12:16 AM on September 17, 2011 [66 favorites]

Also, I'm not trying to infer anything from the above - I just wanted to get that off my chest, in case anyone is listening.
posted by item at 12:17 AM on September 17, 2011 [4 favorites]

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posted by DreamerFi at 12:30 AM on September 17, 2011

Oh wow. This is heartbreaking. I really liked that guy.

28.

Shit.

To all his family and friends, the people who knew him online and IRL, my most sincere condolences.

And hugs. All around.
posted by louche mustachio at 12:32 AM on September 17, 2011

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posted by safetyfork at 12:36 AM on September 17, 2011

Yup to what item said. Even though the "There is Help" thing didn't go through, I reiterate my comment from that thread. I'd like anyone to feel free to contact me for any reason, if you're feeling down or whatever. It's always nice to hear from you guys! =D

If nothing else, let's let this strengthen us as a community. Don't fear to reach out to people. You never know when you're going to make someone's day!
posted by Eideteker at 12:38 AM on September 17, 2011 [2 favorites]

Fuck,I always remembered him as one of the greats. For me he was one of the people who made me want to be part of metafilter.

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posted by Ad hominem at 12:50 AM on September 17, 2011

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posted by MCMikeNamara at 1:20 AM on September 17, 2011

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posted by seanyboy at 1:24 AM on September 17, 2011

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posted by Elmore at 1:24 AM on September 17, 2011

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posted by ursus_comiter at 1:39 AM on September 17, 2011

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posted by infini at 1:50 AM on September 17, 2011

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In remembrance, I am crying. And almost puking.
posted by oneswellfoop at 1:57 AM on September 17, 2011

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posted by bjrn at 1:59 AM on September 17, 2011

Oh man.

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posted by Dumsnill at 2:15 AM on September 17, 2011

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posted by sveskemus at 2:48 AM on September 17, 2011

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posted by rainbaby at 3:16 AM on September 17, 2011

Not this shit again.

(We lose too many of the best ones.)

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posted by Smart Dalek at 3:32 AM on September 17, 2011

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posted by klausness at 3:44 AM on September 17, 2011

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posted by Bangaioh at 4:09 AM on September 17, 2011

People younger than me shouldn't die. I think there should be a law. And a lot of people older than me should reconsider as well seeing as I'm only 30.

Much love to his family and friends, this is such an awful thing to go through.
posted by sonika at 4:17 AM on September 17, 2011 [1 favorite]

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posted by Infinite Jest at 4:29 AM on September 17, 2011

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posted by terrapin at 4:45 AM on September 17, 2011

Not cool. You'll be missed.

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posted by Dano St at 5:00 AM on September 17, 2011

Oh, that's horrible. He was a good guy here. RIP.
posted by OmieWise at 5:21 AM on September 17, 2011

I remember him. Reports of good people dying young make me want to find whoever is the creator of All Things and give her a good shake by the lapels.

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posted by angrycat at 5:21 AM on September 17, 2011 [2 favorites]

I usually don't partake in a MeFi obit thread, but I really liked this cat. RIP puke & cry.
posted by NoMich at 5:44 AM on September 17, 2011

Damn. He was a good one.

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posted by Faint of Butt at 5:53 AM on September 17, 2011

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posted by Chichibio at 6:19 AM on September 17, 2011

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posted by Ironmouth at 6:20 AM on September 17, 2011

Damn

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posted by Sailormom at 6:21 AM on September 17, 2011

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posted by cmyk at 6:36 AM on September 17, 2011

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posted by Marie Mon Dieu at 7:33 AM on September 17, 2011

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posted by beandip at 7:45 AM on September 17, 2011

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posted by yerfatma at 7:51 AM on September 17, 2011

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posted by 404 Not Found at 8:00 AM on September 17, 2011

you'll be missed.
posted by kuujjuarapik at 8:01 AM on September 17, 2011

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posted by typewriter at 8:08 AM on September 17, 2011

Didn't know him, but he was just a few months younger than me and that makes me really sad. People my age are way too young to die.

God bless his soul.

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posted by CrazyLemonade at 8:12 AM on September 17, 2011

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posted by gudrun at 8:15 AM on September 17, 2011

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Good grief, 28 is just too young.
posted by porn in the woods at 8:21 AM on September 17, 2011

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posted by crush-onastick at 8:25 AM on September 17, 2011

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posted by smirkette at 8:27 AM on September 17, 2011

Ah fuck

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posted by The Whelk at 8:28 AM on September 17, 2011

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posted by victors at 8:29 AM on September 17, 2011

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posted by stagewhisper at 8:32 AM on September 17, 2011

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posted by Jimbob at 8:36 AM on September 17, 2011

#bunnies was always a little brighter when puke was on. I'll miss him.
posted by initapplette at 8:39 AM on September 17, 2011

Pukey was my friend too. He was such a terrific guy. We ALMOST met up once, but dammit, no.

My heart is stopped and stony and full of wasted space like a piece of pumice. I feel funny about losing a friend I never met, but I'm sure about a few things: Pukey was a smart, funny, good humored person. Also he was my boyfriend understudy because in one picture they look identical and he didn't even think I was that weird for going on and on about it.

You were always on my mind, Pukeypie.
posted by Ambrosia Voyeur at 8:59 AM on September 17, 2011 [4 favorites]

What a sweet face, what heart-breaking news. Be at peace, Bob.
posted by theora55 at 9:01 AM on September 17, 2011 [1 favorite]

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posted by Kwine at 9:01 AM on September 17, 2011

> He was also "Court Siem" on Metachat (the boy loved his sock puppets), and I never got the chance to ask him if it was an anagram for "Tom Cruise."

I remember first asking him

"pukey what's your real name"

and he was like "well I'll tell ya AV it's Bob"

and I was like "bullshit people aren't named Bob in this day and age you fibbertyfibber. What do you have like a very big boy or something?"

People who can take my teasing... I thought they were immortal.
posted by Ambrosia Voyeur at 9:05 AM on September 17, 2011 [4 favorites]

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posted by burnmp3s at 9:06 AM on September 17, 2011

Very sad. I enjoyed the deleted post blog very much.

RIP, and may the family and friends find peace and comfort.
posted by The Deej at 9:10 AM on September 17, 2011

Earlier in this thread I posted "Meh." and it was deleted. It simply meant "A period isn't enough, and if I actually articulate how I felt about it I'm going to cry because this sucks." and wasn't at all a dismissal.

For the people who flagged it I'm sorry it came across the wrong way.

Meh.
posted by loquacious at 9:18 AM on September 17, 2011 [1 favorite]

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posted by vrakatar at 9:18 AM on September 17, 2011

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posted by bearwife at 9:31 AM on September 17, 2011

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posted by ericb at 9:38 AM on September 17, 2011

This is terrible. My condolences to his family. He will be missed.
posted by ambrosia at 9:40 AM on September 17, 2011

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posted by dismas at 9:46 AM on September 17, 2011

Aw, man.

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posted by grouse at 9:50 AM on September 17, 2011

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posted by arcticwoman at 10:01 AM on September 17, 2011

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posted by patheral at 10:04 AM on September 17, 2011

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posted by tommasz at 10:08 AM on September 17, 2011

My God, that's terrible.

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posted by brundlefly at 10:35 AM on September 17, 2011

I loved p&c participation in the community.

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posted by nims at 10:58 AM on September 17, 2011

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posted by tickingclock at 11:05 AM on September 17, 2011

So sorry to hear this. I remember many good conversations with him in #bunnies. Such a shock to click onto Metatalk and see this.
posted by mlis at 11:08 AM on September 17, 2011

I knew pukey. He was a righteous dude.

RIP.
posted by ooga_booga at 11:12 AM on September 17, 2011

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posted by Lynsey at 11:13 AM on September 17, 2011

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posted by Mitheral at 11:22 AM on September 17, 2011

dammit. I haven't been in #bunnies in ages but he was almost always there when I did log in. I had no idea he was my age. He was funny.

I'm going to miss reading the deleted posts blog.
posted by casarkos at 11:22 AM on September 17, 2011

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I was a big fan of the deleted blog too.
Be at peace, Bob.
posted by NoraCharles at 11:25 AM on September 17, 2011

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posted by lilkeith07 at 11:32 AM on September 17, 2011

That's sad news.

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Going to miss the deleted threads blog too.
posted by dazed_one at 11:51 AM on September 17, 2011

Bob posted a mix tape or two online for Mefites once. It was excellent; I wouldn't have given mainstream hip bands like Eagles of Death Metal a chance without it. I feel for his family.
posted by ifjuly at 11:52 AM on September 17, 2011

Sad and terrible news - 28 is far too young. You will be missed bob, ted, pukey. Condolences to his family and friends - and to all of us - on having him snatched away far too soon, that's a heartbreak.
posted by madamjujujive at 12:06 PM on September 17, 2011

I'd visited the deleted threads blog every few months and always found myself on his profile every few months as well. I had no idea he was just in his mid twenties. That is so sad.

What is great is people's response here. It is wonderful to see such an outpouring and concern. We all have those moments where we wonder if we pass on, if anybody will care or remember us. It would surely have pleased him to know so many care. Group hug metafilter heartwarming to witness, and hopefully makes more appearances without tragic news like this.

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posted by cashman at 12:19 PM on September 17, 2011 [1 favorite]

Shit.

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posted by jokeefe at 12:21 PM on September 17, 2011

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posted by lazaruslong at 12:28 PM on September 17, 2011

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posted by SpookyFish at 12:43 PM on September 17, 2011

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posted by Slarty Bartfast at 1:07 PM on September 17, 2011

This is so very sad. I really enjoyed the Deleted Thread blog and I missed it when he stopped updating. 28 is too young to be dead.
posted by ThatCanadianGirl at 1:12 PM on September 17, 2011

Oh my fucking god Puke & Cry is dead? This is terrible. TERRIBLE. He was local - I remember memailing him long ago about a meetup right after I joined the site and exchanging thoughts with him about insomnia.

I can't believe this is real.



Words fail to express the shock and sadness I feel right now. He was an amazing contributor and all-around human being.

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posted by Unicorn on the cob at 1:20 PM on September 17, 2011

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posted by nickmark at 1:40 PM on September 17, 2011

This is awful news. 28 is way too young.

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posted by Metroid Baby at 1:42 PM on September 17, 2011

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posted by Melismata at 1:56 PM on September 17, 2011

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posted by nenequesadilla at 2:06 PM on September 17, 2011

This is a tragedy.
posted by crunchland at 2:08 PM on September 17, 2011

Damn, this is terrible news.
posted by Slack-a-gogo at 2:21 PM on September 17, 2011

Rest in peace, Bob.
posted by Divine_Wino at 2:24 PM on September 17, 2011

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posted by penduluum at 2:27 PM on September 17, 2011

I know that none of us is guaranteed our next breath but this is still so shocking ...28 is so young.....

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posted by St. Alia of the Bunnies at 2:49 PM on September 17, 2011

I knew p&c from IRC. He was one of the good ones.

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posted by Ryvar at 2:51 PM on September 17, 2011

Didn't know him unfortunately, but only 28? My little brother is older than that.

I really hope he had an inkling how much he meant to his friends here.

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posted by codswallop at 4:03 PM on September 17, 2011

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posted by contrariwise at 4:24 PM on September 17, 2011

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posted by frogbit at 4:33 PM on September 17, 2011

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posted by Wuggie Norple at 4:48 PM on September 17, 2011

So sorry to hear this.

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posted by goodnewsfortheinsane at 5:00 PM on September 17, 2011

p&c was alright and I'll miss him. Condolences to his loved ones.
posted by jonmc at 5:03 PM on September 17, 2011

. Hugs to all.
posted by By The Grace of God at 5:20 PM on September 17, 2011

Way too young.


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posted by caddis at 5:22 PM on September 17, 2011

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posted by kittens for breakfast at 5:23 PM on September 17, 2011

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posted by ottereroticist at 6:01 PM on September 17, 2011

So sad, so sorry.

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posted by SpacemanStix at 6:14 PM on September 17, 2011

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posted by dirtdirt at 6:19 PM on September 17, 2011

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posted by JimmyJames at 6:34 PM on September 17, 2011

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posted by Fairchild at 6:40 PM on September 17, 2011

Dammit. I haven't been in #bunnies in too long. I always enjoyed visiting with him.
Much love and condolences to all of his friends and family.
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posted by lilywing13 at 6:50 PM on September 17, 2011

Very sad; my condolences to all who knew him.

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posted by TedW at 6:52 PM on September 17, 2011

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posted by box at 7:02 PM on September 17, 2011

And my condolences.
posted by box at 7:03 PM on September 17, 2011

Oh no. No no no. I really got a lot from his contributions here. Puke and Cry was great.

I just turned 30 last weekend. That was supposed to be my big realization of my mortality.

I was not supposed to be faced with the death of someone awesome and younger than me less than a week later.

Sonika is right. No more dying, young folks.
posted by bilabial at 7:29 PM on September 17, 2011

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posted by pemberkins at 8:25 PM on September 17, 2011

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posted by subbes at 8:43 PM on September 17, 2011

Well, this is a fucking bummer...Dunno what else to say that isn't so much in my own head as to seem self-centered and disrespectful. It's definitely an eye opener to see someone younger than me die for the first time in many years, though...

Rest easy, Bob.
posted by rollbiz at 8:51 PM on September 17, 2011

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posted by jamaro at 8:51 PM on September 17, 2011

This place is a thing and the passing will become more common I think.
posted by Sailormom at 9:58 PM on September 17, 2011 [2 favorites]

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posted by Ostara at 10:00 PM on September 17, 2011

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posted by Ruki at 10:00 PM on September 17, 2011

This hurts my heart. Rest in peace, Bob.
posted by dogmom at 10:25 PM on September 17, 2011

Damn. I've been reading MeFi for years and haven't been super active since joining, so I don't feel very connected to a lot of people here (hate saying that...must fix it). But I actually remember things puke&cry has posted, and laughing at his screen name, and thinking about how so often crying follows puking so his screen name was accurate. And the deleted threads blog was a treasure I enjoyed visiting. So sorry that he's gone. This feels odd to me. Do not like.

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posted by MultiFaceted at 10:25 PM on September 17, 2011

P&C's deleted threads blog was essential to my education in becoming a contributing member of Metafilter. I'd hoped its recent discontinuation and his silence on this site was due to mundane circumstances or IRL responsibilities. The news of his death is simply tragic.

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posted by Doktor Zed at 10:26 PM on September 17, 2011

I didn't know him, but all the folks here who speak highly of him are people whose names I recognize and folks I see regularly on MeCha. Bob sounds like one of the good ones. His poor family. That bit from his dad in the obituary is heartbreaking. Rest in peace, p&c.
posted by toastedbeagle at 10:32 PM on September 17, 2011

Ah, 28 years old? How terribly sad. So sorry to hear this news.
posted by flapjax at midnite at 10:46 PM on September 17, 2011

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posted by dg at 11:19 PM on September 17, 2011

So sad.

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posted by Splunge at 11:41 PM on September 17, 2011

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posted by Iteki at 1:59 AM on September 18, 2011

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posted by daniel_charms at 2:22 AM on September 18, 2011

Ah, 28 years old?

I've got kids (well, one) older than that. I feel for his parents. I can't begin to imagine what it must feel like to lose a child.

Also: eponytragical.
posted by PeterMcDermott at 3:58 AM on September 18, 2011

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posted by elfgirl at 4:08 AM on September 18, 2011

Shit. That is way too young. I knew his name from posts and comments - his contributions here will be sorely missed, and Metafilter is better for having had him here. My condolences to his family, friends and loved ones.
posted by harriet vane at 5:31 AM on September 18, 2011

Going over to the Deleted Threads blog, his headline for the last thing posted is this:

Hugs and kisses every day. Otherwise they make tears.

Be at peace, P&C, wherever you are now.

Tell your friends you love and appreciate them, ok?
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posted by Deathalicious at 7:32 PM on September 18, 2011

Damn it!

Well, puke & cry lives on over at the MeFi FAQ, #106. Hope that never changes...

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posted by carsonb at 8:09 PM on September 18, 2011 [7 favorites]

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posted by Madamina at 8:12 PM on September 18, 2011

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posted by fyrebelley at 8:32 PM on September 18, 2011

Well, this sucks. I didn't know him at all, but the deleted threads blog was required reading. Also, he posted this video, which was one of my favorite things last year. From the stories you guys have shared, it sounds like it was right up his alley.

If you're hurting over this, you might enjoy watching that video. It's funny and incongruous and soothing, and maybe that sounds like your friend and one I wish had been mine. I'm sorry for your loss and for his family and friends.
posted by Errant at 9:33 PM on September 18, 2011

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posted by It's Raining Florence Henderson at 9:44 PM on September 18, 2011

Oh my God, 28 is way too young.

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posted by sarcasticah at 9:55 PM on September 18, 2011

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posted by SuzySmith at 10:23 PM on September 18, 2011

this feels like a huge loss. rest in peace, bob.
posted by phaedon at 10:36 PM on September 18, 2011

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He posted one of the most disgusting images I've ever seen on the Internet to Metafilter... gotta love him for that among other reasons.
posted by BrotherCaine at 11:03 PM on September 18, 2011 [1 favorite]

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posted by Wilder at 1:53 AM on September 19, 2011

i had no idea bob/puke & cry was also dead cousin ted. i don't pay a lot of attention to particular users on this site, but dead cousin ted is one name i recognized as having posted comments sympatico with my thoughts. i liked him. i'll miss him. crap.

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posted by msconduct at 4:34 AM on September 19, 2011

This place is a thing and the passing will become more common I think.

I wonder how many people have died but we just don't know. Had it not been for Bob's sister contacting someone on Facebook we would have never heard.
posted by Secret Life of Gravy at 6:05 AM on September 19, 2011

Shit. What a sad loss.

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posted by quin at 7:41 AM on September 19, 2011

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posted by cass at 9:46 AM on September 19, 2011

I don't even remember being 28.

Anyone know what happened?

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posted by stormpooper at 10:15 AM on September 19, 2011

A terrible loss. My condolences to his family, friends, and loved ones.

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posted by joe lisboa at 11:05 AM on September 19, 2011

Survived by his parents and grandparents. That's not right.

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posted by rjs at 11:19 AM on September 19, 2011

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posted by schmod at 11:25 AM on September 19, 2011

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posted by Lutoslawski at 12:18 PM on September 19, 2011

What a bummer.

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posted by schyler523 at 4:22 PM on September 19, 2011

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posted by HabeasCorpus at 5:04 PM on September 19, 2011

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posted by gen at 9:34 AM on September 20, 2011

what horrible, horrible news. My heartfelt condolences go out to his family and friends. He will definitely be missed.


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posted by Julnyes at 10:46 AM on September 20, 2011

Oh, goddammit.

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posted by lysdexic at 12:00 PM on September 20, 2011

Way way too young.
If we could have donated a few months or years of our own as easy as folks here are willing to chip in together on various things - well, I'm somehow sure we'd have had him around for many more years. I hate it when there's nothing you can do but be sorry.

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posted by andraste at 4:40 PM on September 20, 2011

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posted by rodii at 6:14 PM on September 22, 2011

FYI, I got a facebook message from Bob's aunt saying thanks for the letter and that they've been over here reading the comments folks have been leaving. It made them happy to know that Bob had a large community who cared about him.
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posted by PROD_TPSL at 11:48 AM on September 28, 2011