"Most men take a mistress" -- Really? I doubt it.
I have news for you, grasshopper. Many men do, in fact, cheat on their lovers/so's/whathaveyou.
Oddly enough, many women do the same.
Cheating on someone is not at all the same thing as "taking a mistress."
A woman who has a continuing sexual relationship with a usually married man who is not her husband and from whom she generally receives material support. 1
If you can't make it work with her sexually, you could consider meeting your sexual needs outside of the relationship. Many people have non-monogamous relationships either with or without the knowledge of their signficant other. It's not for everyone, but it could be worth exploring. Read about other couples that are making it work here and here.
Yes, you're way off base here.
As vetiver said above, the point is that it's a continuing sexual relationship.
Plenty of people cheat, which can involve a single blow job; quite a lot fewer maintain a continuing outside relationship, which is the bare minimum requirement for the use of "mistress."
If you've heard "numerous people" use mistress so freely (which, frankly, I don't believe, since I hardly ever encounter the word in modern contexts—it's largely a relic of pre-feminist days)
they do not understand the word
To quote vetiver once again: It's a trivial difference only if you're sloppy about usage and tone-deaf to connotation.
or any further sophistry on your part1
What makes him right here is his superior arguments.1
can make "Most men take a mistress" a correct or moderate assertion.1
More married women are cheating on their spouses than ever before and the infidelity gender gap is almost certainly closing, report Contributing Editor Lorraine Ali and Senior Editor Lisa Miller in the July 12 Newsweek cover story (on newsstands Monday, July 5). It's hard to say for sure just how many married women are having sex with people who are not their husbands, because people lie to pollsters when they talk about sex, and studies vary wildly. ... But couples therapists estimate that among their clientele, the number is close to 30 to 40 percent, compared with 50 percent of men.
A poll done by the New York Times in 2000 found that 44 percent of the male respondents admitted to having had an extramarital affair (and that percentage doesn't include those unfaithful guys who weren't willing to own up to their transgressions).2
...that in the United States, 50% to 65% of husbands and 45% to 55% of wives have been engaged in an extramarital affair by the time they are 40. Owing to underreporting, this figure may actually underestimate the percentages of people engaging or previously engaged in affairs.
I love the smell of cognitive dissonance in the morning!1
I suggest you step away from the computer1
"Taking a mistress" is not exactly the same thing as "cheating". It's that, and more. I don't know why anyone is arguing about this.
there's a big difference between saying "oh everyone does it" and saying "you should do it to solve your problem" 1
The couple came into the marital counselor's office exhibiting some of the problems that landed them there. They argued. He made jokes bordering on criticism. She didn't talk about her feelings until halfway through therapy, when she dropped a bomb: She was having an affair.
Her husband was devastated. But as they discussed her confession, the couple began to talk more openly than they had in years. In fact, the wife's revelation, say marital researchers, may have saved the marriage.