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Where do Metafilter people meet their mates online?
posted by MeetMegan to MetaFilter-Related at 2:28 PM (178 comments total) 14 users marked this as a favorite

I'm interested in meeting (with romantic overatures, of course) men who are like those who use Metafilter - geeky, smart, sweet, caring, and opinionated. Where do I find my MefiMate? What social networking sites should I be using? Match, eharmony, and MySpace aren't cutting it. Craigslist seems a little skeezy when I've tried it - never seen so many pictures of penises in my life.
posted by MeetMegan at 2:28 PM on January 19, 2007


Call a Chicago meetup.
posted by Eideteker at 2:31 PM on January 19, 2007


MetaTalk is where singles Match!™
posted by liquorice at 2:32 PM on January 19, 2007


Yeah, I understand about the Chicago meetups. Anything else?
posted by MeetMegan at 2:34 PM on January 19, 2007




What about the -- I think it's Spring Street? They run the personals on The Onion and various other sites. (Maybe Salon.com?)

I know two different geeky people who met people through them, so maybe an option?
posted by thehmsbeagle at 2:37 PM on January 19, 2007


I met my fiance on Metafilter IRC.
posted by thirteenkiller at 2:43 PM on January 19, 2007


okCupid is fun, and free. Then again, I met my lady at a Live Band Karaoke event, so YMMV.
posted by jtron at 2:46 PM on January 19, 2007


Someone asked a very similar Q on AskMeta once. (And look, the second commenter is me! How ironic).

The number of couples who met at Metafilter meetups or via Metafilter channels (IRC, e-mail, etc) is really astonishing. 5 come to mind without having to think hard about it (well, it's easy when 1 includes me!).

That said, posting this might get you some dates. Go for it, lady! :-D
posted by ThePinkSuperhero at 2:56 PM on January 19, 2007 [1 favorite]


My wife and I met via a group of DC bloggers that used to get together every Friday at Atomic Billiards in Cleveland Park.
posted by terrapin at 2:57 PM on January 19, 2007


Thanks for spotting that question, TPS. Didn't even occur to me to search AskMe archives after I was told this was a MeTa question...Good stuff in there.

(and hey, if anyone fitting the description in my post above is interested in meeting a 27-year-old somewhat dorky lawyer/marketing director who lives in Chicago, send me an email)
posted by MeetMegan at 3:00 PM on January 19, 2007


Dear hive mind: will one of you please marry me? As always, there is [more inside]
posted by koeselitz at 3:02 PM on January 19, 2007 [3 favorites]


My divorce will be final any day now. Just sayin.
posted by The Deej at 3:05 PM on January 19, 2007


I think there were several similar Qs on the subject, MeetMegan; that was the first one I found.
posted by ThePinkSuperhero at 3:07 PM on January 19, 2007 [1 favorite]


(Oh, but I am hundreds of miles from Chicago.)
posted by The Deej at 3:07 PM on January 19, 2007


I was found on Match.
posted by scarabic at 3:08 PM on January 19, 2007


Dear hive mind: will one of you please marry me? As always, there is [more inside]

I think we're going to see this someday, I really do. Maybe not a random proposal, but some sort of marriage proposal.
posted by ThePinkSuperhero at 3:10 PM on January 19, 2007 [1 favorite]


IRC for me and the mister.
posted by deborah at 3:11 PM on January 19, 2007


Yeah, I asked a very similar question recently. I didn't specify that I was looking for MetaFolk but by asking it here, figured it was implied. Based on the responses I got, I signed up for Consummating but never really understood the commenting thing and got frustrated really quickly. I also signed up for OK Cupid after it was suggested, met a few people through there but none of them panned out. My current totally awesome boyfriend came to me through Craigslist.
posted by otherwordlyglow at 3:13 PM on January 19, 2007


I was found on Match.
posted by scarabic


I was found on a doorstep as a baby. My parents were arrested. Not for abandonment, but for littering.


Thanks, folks... etc
posted by The Deej at 3:13 PM on January 19, 2007 [1 favorite]


I was put in a basket, in a river. My mother found me there and now my family expects me to part the waters and free the nation and stuff like that. It ain't easy, fulfilling the expectations society imposes on you.
posted by micayetoca at 3:27 PM on January 19, 2007


I found my wife by posting a picture of my penis on Craigslist.

ymmv
posted by found missing at 3:36 PM on January 19, 2007 [5 favorites]


I was found on a doorstep as a baby.

I was summoned forth from the darkest pits of the abyss; my coming was foretold by the darkness of a storm and the strangled rattle of a dying madman. As the rift was wrenched open, the foul effluence that preceded me spilled out and rose up as flies to devour the very land itself, seeding it with maggots and tainting it with scars.

And then when I turned two, I was given a kitten. Her name was Taffy.

And all was right with the world.
posted by quin at 3:37 PM on January 19, 2007


Gee, quin. Gotta trump me at every opportunity, huh?

Hmmph.... dark pits... foul effluence. Why can't I think of that stuff?
posted by The Deej at 3:45 PM on January 19, 2007


Posting a picture of found missing's penis on Craigslist got me nowhere.
posted by cortex at 3:52 PM on January 19, 2007 [1 favorite]


I think we're going to see this someday, I really do. Maybe not a random proposal, but some sort of marriage proposal.

MarryMe would indeed be an awesome, if probably underused, new feature.
posted by greycap at 3:54 PM on January 19, 2007


We could pre-register a whole Mefi Marriage kit: initial MarryMy post, Jobs request owing to required relocation, Music commission for ceremony music, AskMe for divorce minutia, Projects post to advertise bitter post-breakup dramablog...
posted by cortex at 3:59 PM on January 19, 2007 [2 favorites]


The AskMe posts would be brilliant:

- help me ask out this cool girl
- I think I want to get serious with this girl I met, how do I do so?
- tell me cool ways to propose
- looking for great wedding venues in x area
- seeking marriage counsellors in x area
- I need a good divorce lawyer in x area
- how to meet new people in x area
posted by greycap at 4:06 PM on January 19, 2007


I found my boyfriend on Salon (well, I was on Salon, he was on Nerve -- same network). He was just about to give up on online dating and delete his profile, and I had decided to try one last online date before giving up on the whole damn racket myself.
posted by scody at 4:21 PM on January 19, 2007


My wife and I (also a mefi member), met on okcupid.
posted by drezdn at 4:29 PM on January 19, 2007


I met my bride on an Iain Banks mailing list. Go figure.
posted by ROU_Xenophobe at 4:32 PM on January 19, 2007 [1 favorite]


The Impersonals was created by a MeFite.
posted by booksandlibretti at 4:35 PM on January 19, 2007


Sorry, The Deej. No attempt at one-upmanship was intended. Your childhood tale just got me all nostalgic, and I wanted to share.

And though it would have been far more relevant I didn't want to discuss the details of my courtship and inevitable marriage to the Dark Princess, my bride. Some things are too just terrifying for a sane mind to comprehend.
posted by quin at 4:38 PM on January 19, 2007


But... but... I was left on a doorstep....
posted by The Deej at 4:44 PM on January 19, 2007 [1 favorite]


I met my first mate on the lido deck.
posted by It's Raining Florence Henderson at 4:55 PM on January 19, 2007


I met my girlfriend at an awesome punk rock show. We just both happened to be MeFi lurkers.
So... go see more noise bands at bars.
posted by klangklangston at 5:03 PM on January 19, 2007


I met my bride on an Iain Banks mailing list. Go figure.

Ha, awesome.
posted by EndsOfInvention at 5:07 PM on January 19, 2007


men who are like those who use Metafilter - geeky, smart, sweet, caring, and opinionated
posted by matteo at 5:07 PM on January 19, 2007 [3 favorites]


I met my girlfriend on the computer. How she managed to keep her balance without hitting her head on the ceiling is beyond me.
posted by The Great Big Mulp at 5:13 PM on January 19, 2007 [1 favorite]


But... but... I was left on a doorstep....

Don't knock it. Should be encouraged. My great-grandmother left my grandmother on the doorstep of a weird unnofficial foster home in Wales in the 1920s, and as a result I have a vast family of lovely doorstep people and their descendants.
posted by jack_mo at 5:13 PM on January 19, 2007 [1 favorite]


HELLO METAFILTER I AM SINGLE AND BORED AND I LIVE IN THE PORTLAND, OREGON AREA AND I NO I CAN'T FIND MY CAPSLOCK KEY EMAIL IN PROFILE.
posted by loquacious at 5:28 PM on January 19, 2007


I find it really interesting that the four people who have favorited this thread are all women. And this thread is asked by a woman. Are geeky boys really that hard to find???
posted by Not in my backyard at 5:29 PM on January 19, 2007


A hard geek is good to find.
posted by cortex at 5:31 PM on January 19, 2007


Agreed, cortex. I want to find one too!!!
posted by Not in my backyard at 5:32 PM on January 19, 2007


Here's my # baby: 843-244-3425.

(There's a not so funny joke in the #:)
posted by snsranch at 5:38 PM on January 19, 2007


Matchmaker.com - 9 years and counting...
posted by OhPuhLeez at 5:42 PM on January 19, 2007


My wife and I met on livejournal. volunteering there. shush..
posted by mendel at 5:42 PM on January 19, 2007


"(There's a not so funny joke in the #:)"

the-big-dick?
posted by mr_crash_davis at 5:46 PM on January 19, 2007


SNSRANCH: the-big-dick?
posted by Not in my backyard at 5:47 PM on January 19, 2007


I met my sweetie on Match.com and (long story!) Nerve/Onion Personals.
posted by Blazecock Pileon at 5:56 PM on January 19, 2007


I find it really interesting that the four people who have favorited this thread are all women. And this thread is asked by a woman. Are geeky boys really that hard to find???

As one of the favoriters, I will say, the good ones, sometimes, yes. I'm taken, but I figured I would tuck it away for future reference.
posted by Asherah at 5:59 PM on January 19, 2007


Yep, sorry, I know; NOT FUNNY. And not so true either, but I'm married anyway.
posted by snsranch at 6:01 PM on January 19, 2007


Thanks MeFi!!!! A+++++++++++ Would date again!!!!!!!!
posted by The Deej at 6:08 PM on January 19, 2007


Should I post a picture of my penis on MetaFilter?
posted by armoured-ant at 6:10 PM on January 19, 2007


no img tag.... can't post a picture.

Thank God.
posted by The Deej at 6:11 PM on January 19, 2007


I met my last bf in my referrer logs. I'm guessing my next one will be the firewood delivery guy or someone from my del.ico.us network.
posted by jessamyn (staff) at 6:22 PM on January 19, 2007 [1 favorite]


c====B

posted by armoured-ant at 6:24 PM on January 19, 2007


I want to deliver jessamyn's "firewood".
posted by snsranch at 6:33 PM on January 19, 2007


meetmegan i was totally trying to drop a hint at that meetup at Monk's but I apparently didn't make the cut so yeah k thanks whatever
posted by Baby_Balrog at 6:36 PM on January 19, 2007


not bitter. *sniff* i can deal.
posted by Baby_Balrog at 6:37 PM on January 19, 2007


I met my husband on a mailing list.
posted by frecklefaerie at 6:45 PM on January 19, 2007


Armoured-ant will be happy to know I'm viewing his ASCII-penis on a cell phone screen. Yeah, it's tiny. Kind of like an ant wang. Woo!
posted by loquacious at 6:47 PM on January 19, 2007 [1 favorite]


MarryMe would indeed be an awesome, if probably underused, new feature.

I honestly thought that's how my now-husband would ask. But because I said it first, I ruined the surprise element. So he did it the old fashioned way. (You know, when I was barefoot in the middle of cooking a turkey.)

We met on alt.cult.movies, but I'd imagine usenet's not much of a source of romance these days.
posted by Gucky at 7:03 PM on January 19, 2007


Baby_Balrog, check your email por favor.

The things that happen online when you actually go out in the real world...
posted by MeetMegan at 7:05 PM on January 19, 2007


I met my wife in computer class in high school.
posted by mr_crash_davis at 7:13 PM on January 19, 2007


woot!!!
posted by Baby_Balrog at 7:16 PM on January 19, 2007 [2 favorites]


I met my eventually-to-be-husband in a bar, drunk, the way decent folks used to do. You kids today, with your IRC this and referrer log that -- shame! shame!

(Slightly more helpful: Consumer Reports recently reviewed some matchmaking sites. So far they haven't withdrawn the reviews, despite having done speed dating at twice the stated MPH...)
posted by The corpse in the library at 7:38 PM on January 19, 2007


"I want to deliver jessamyn's "firewood"."

You could also offer to bust up her chifferobe.
posted by klangklangston at 7:40 PM on January 19, 2007 [1 favorite]


My wife and I met in the dining commons at Hampshire College, but people assume we met on the intertrons because we're from different continents. I sometimes wonder if that means people think I wooed her with e-mails brimming with pictures of my penis.

Also, if a date just got set up between Baby_Balrog and MeetMegan... awwwww...
posted by Kattullus at 7:45 PM on January 19, 2007


Thanks klangklang, but that would just piss her off. Apparently, Baby_Balrog is the rulzorz. Go get it B_B!
posted by snsranch at 7:50 PM on January 19, 2007


in the dining commons at Hampshire College

SAGA! And looks like you were born five years before I started there....
posted by jessamyn (staff) at 7:51 PM on January 19, 2007


My dick looks like this:

8=========================[)

email in profile.
posted by delmoi at 7:52 PM on January 19, 2007


Pay no attention to Consumer Reports and their "fact"-based analysis. The Impersonals is surely the dopest of them all.

Seriously though, I tried to make The Impersonals into a straightforward personals site that didn't insult anyone's intelligence. The main problem now is that it needs more people to sign up.

Help me out, y'all.
posted by the jam at 7:53 PM on January 19, 2007


Unfortunately for delmoi, that's life-size at 800x600.
posted by klangklangston at 7:54 PM on January 19, 2007


Ok, Klangklangston, that made me snort with laughter. Seriously.
posted by MeetMegan at 8:01 PM on January 19, 2007


Hey wow, I forgot about Consummating.

And daaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaamn there are some hot menfolk on MeFi.

Oddly, jessamyn looks almost exactly how I pictured her. In a good way.
posted by dirtynumbangelboy at 8:04 PM on January 19, 2007


I'm guessing my next one will be the firewood delivery guy

Fire-wood, huh?

Jessamyn likes natural redheads!
posted by ROU_Xenophobe at 8:09 PM on January 19, 2007


Wow. I just tried The Impersonals and, on my first attempt at "narrowing it down" came up with exactly three hits. The first one turned out to be someone I met in non-keyboard life on New Year's Eve!

Now if only I weren't so shy...
posted by trip and a half at 8:11 PM on January 19, 2007


I'm old, picky, and living in paradise. Anyone?
posted by weapons-grade pandemonium at 8:18 PM on January 19, 2007


I was fixed up with my wife and she thinks the internet is for perverts and losers. To be fair, I don't really have a rebuttal for that, but luckily she loves me anyway. What can I say? Y'all my people.


buncha perverts and losers.
posted by Divine_Wino at 8:32 PM on January 19, 2007


Yeah, I'm old, picky & living in paradise too. Tried consumating, the impersonals AND metafilter -

- and it's 11:30 on a Friday night and I'm here at home in front of my computer.
posted by mygothlaundry at 8:35 PM on January 19, 2007


Well, the way I met this person was through an impromptu fixup, so maybe there's a Venn in that diagram.
posted by trip and a half at 8:44 PM on January 19, 2007


MGL, you and I would probably get along just fine. You're just on the wrong side of the country. Or I am. Or something.

Then again the idea of being at home in front of my computer on a Friday night is at least one of my ideas of a good time, so go figure.
posted by loquacious at 8:48 PM on January 19, 2007


Where do Metafilter people meet their mates online ?

Apart from the lucky few above, [showoffs!] the fertile feathered plain of imagination as well as at the end of their left arm, if, as per usual, the right hand be already upon the mouse. Shorter y2karl: In their dreams.
Pros: You certainly don't need to look your best, no conversation is more fascinating and no date cheaper.
Cons: Unutterable loneliness, Kierkegaardian despair and a dirty cat box.
And that's how it is [/sardonic Walter Cronkite voice] at my end of the demographic curve. You punks get all the action. Hey! Get off my futon!
posted by y2karl at 9:00 PM on January 19, 2007


I'm available in every way except emotionally.

E-mail's in profile.
posted by Alvy Ampersand at 9:09 PM on January 19, 2007


Petting zoo.
posted by weretable and the undead chairs at 9:25 PM on January 19, 2007


Met her through mutual friends on IRC, dated for 5 years, married 2005.
posted by empyrean at 9:32 PM on January 19, 2007


I met my wife on a volunteer program in the UK. She was an American. Somehow, the conversation got onto the Usenet, and she'd read my posts....
posted by dw at 9:55 PM on January 19, 2007


Oddly, jessamyn looks almost exactly how I pictured her. In a good way.

Having met her, I would that 'fetching' is a not inappropriate term of description, if qualified with 'quite'. 'Cuter than a bug's ear' comes to mind as well. And quite unlike Stein's Cleveland, there is a there there. Such is my disinterested, brutal and honest assessment.
posted by y2karl at 10:00 PM on January 19, 2007


Fetch me a beer, jessamyn--in my Cleveland Stein.
posted by weapons-grade pandemonium at 10:09 PM on January 19, 2007


*burps*
*burps extravagantly*
*makes earthmoving eructation*
*scratches*

[Cat runs under couch]

Zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz..............
posted by y2karl at 10:18 PM on January 19, 2007


It's actually Stein's Oakland. She was from Oakland. And she was refering to her knocked-down childhood home. OAKTOWN REPRESENT!
posted by serazin at 11:28 PM on January 19, 2007


My boyfriend saw me at the movies one night, jumped on a forum the next day and posted "I saw this totally gorgeous girl at the movies yesterday!" It just so happened that I was that girl and I was also from that very same forum.
posted by liquorice at 11:45 PM on January 19, 2007 [1 favorite]


(I then found out he was a guy I had had a crush on for a year at another forum and it's been pretty much bliss ever since!)
posted by liquorice at 11:47 PM on January 19, 2007 [1 favorite]


met her on myspace, and while it luckily worked out wonderfully, I would never use that site again for anything other than keeping tabs on old friends.
posted by exlotuseater at 12:47 AM on January 20, 2007


The Impersonals is a nice looking site, but it needs a gimmick.

I know. The last thing you wanted to hear.
posted by Afroblanco at 1:46 AM on January 20, 2007


It's true. I'm totally open to gimmick suggestions.
posted by the jam at 2:16 AM on January 20, 2007


Metafilter: brimming with pictures of my penis
posted by goetter at 2:18 AM on January 20, 2007


I met Wilder at the last London Mefi meet-up. I dropped hints like Arthur 'Bomber' Harris dropped bombs on Dresden. Sadly I failed to set her alight quite so successfully.
posted by econous at 3:29 AM on January 20, 2007 [1 favorite]


I met my last girlfriend at a munch (like a meet-up but less hip) organized by a local BDSM group that I helped found three or four years earlier. Of course, most of the organizing/contacting for this organization took place through Yahoo Groups, so it had a strong element of internet geekery to it.
posted by Clay201 at 5:09 AM on January 20, 2007


I sent liquorice stalkermail. She sent me to Coventry.
posted by Wolof at 5:18 AM on January 20, 2007


I'm dating ceiling cat. It's pretty creepy.
posted by Catfry at 5:27 AM on January 20, 2007 [2 favorites]


Oh, Wolof, you'll make people round here think I don't enjoy flirting with random strangers!
posted by liquorice at 6:02 AM on January 20, 2007


Where is this MeFi IRC channel that everyone is talking about?
(am also newly single--email in profile)
posted by empath at 6:03 AM on January 20, 2007


I met my wife on a local BBS (yes, it's been a while). From what I understand, that BBS was to blame for several other weddings, and there are now about 10 kids in this world because of those weddings because of that BBS.
posted by Dave Faris at 6:13 AM on January 20, 2007


SWM, premature of birth, hair loss, and ejaculation, seeks patient wigmaker. Box 40021.
posted by sonofslim at 6:18 AM on January 20, 2007 [1 favorite]


Unfortunately for delmoi, that's life-size at 800x600.

Er, that depends on the monitor right? On a 21-inch monitor that would be 7.3 inches, and not much of an insult.

If you're going to insult someone think it through man. The higher the resolution, the smaller the dick, not the other way around.
posted by delmoi at 7:08 AM on January 20, 2007


Are you actually comparing the sizes of your e-penises?
posted by empath at 7:18 AM on January 20, 2007 [1 favorite]


So this is how I find out you've been cheating on me, Ceiling Cat. In a Metatalk thread? That's classy.

WHAT
THE
FUCK
CAT?

Call me.
posted by emelenjr at 7:21 AM on January 20, 2007 [1 favorite]


I don't know if this would turn mefi into stalker-filter, but it seems to me that you'd only have to change the profile pages a bit to add dating-site functionality.

You just need to add a 'people search' and a couple of more fields like 'status' and 'looking for'
posted by empath at 7:40 AM on January 20, 2007


i'd have to vote thumbs-down to an integrated DateMe. if i thought some sassy she-nerd were appraising my posts with an eye toward recreation, i'm afraid this place would turn into even more of a quipfest than it already is.
posted by sonofslim at 7:47 AM on January 20, 2007


delmoi: "My dick looks like this:

8=========================[)
"

Mine looks like that as well, only mine has a foreskin.
posted by PeterMcDermott at 7:48 AM on January 20, 2007


Where is this MeFi IRC channel that everyone is talking about?

You found it just fine this morning, but god help you if you're looking for a mate.
posted by cortex at 7:50 AM on January 20, 2007


Me, I met my looooooooooove by the gas works wall.
Dreamed a dreeeeeeeeeam by the old canal. I kissed my girl by the factory wall.
Dirty old toooooown,
dirty old town.
posted by micayetoca at 7:54 AM on January 20, 2007


cortex, no.. just looking for a time waster at work...

picking up girls on the internets will be my fall back plan in a few months, if the usual scene doesn't work out for me.
posted by empath at 8:04 AM on January 20, 2007


micayetoca writes "Me, I met my looooooooooove by the gas works wall.
"Dreamed a dreeeeeeeeeam by the old canal. I kissed my girl by the factory wall.
"Dirty old toooooown,
"dirty old town."


Oh, yes. +25 points for you. I love that song.
posted by dirtynumbangelboy at 8:22 AM on January 20, 2007


micayetoca: "Me, I met my looooooooooove by the gas works wall.
Dreamed a dreeeeeeeeeam by the old canal. I kissed my girl by the factory wall.
Dirty old toooooown,
dirty old town.
"

A Salford girl then, micayetoca?
posted by PeterMcDermott at 9:18 AM on January 20, 2007


Econous, honey, if you were dropping hints to me at the London meet-up, the reason I didn't get them is YOU WERE TALKING TO THE PUPPIES!

MeetMegan, you have to fly to London for the next meet-up, there are some seriously cute and availible members!
Am I right or am I right? just take a look at the pics.
posted by Wilder at 9:22 AM on January 20, 2007


So this is how I find out you've been cheating on me, Ceiling Cat. In a Metatalk thread? That's classy.

WHAT
THE
FUCK
CAT?

Call me.


I'm outta here!
posted by Ceiling Cat at 10:05 AM on January 20, 2007 [1 favorite]


Wilder - that is an interesting prospect. I am totally crushing over about half the people in those meetup photos. Not to mention the fact that I <3 accents.
posted by MeetMegan at 10:52 AM on January 20, 2007


I met Miss Kwine when we were in middle school, though we didn't get together until high school. So I recommend hanging out around middle schools, and cultivating a mildly flirtatious acquaintenceship, which will, with a few years of maturity, turn into something worth keeping (8 years now, if the clock is right). YMMV.
posted by Kwine at 10:53 AM on January 20, 2007


I'm old, picky, and occasionally eat at Lynn's Paradise Cafe. Does that count?
posted by acorncup at 10:59 AM on January 20, 2007


MeetMegan, you have to fly to London for the next meet-up, there are some seriously cute and availible members!
Am I right or am I right? just take a look at the pics.


You are right.
posted by sueinnyc at 11:23 AM on January 20, 2007


I tried hanging aroung high schools, but then there was that whole restraining order thing. I will NOT go back to jail.
posted by The Deej at 11:25 AM on January 20, 2007


124 comments and not once has anybody uttered 'eponysterical'?
posted by and hosted from Uranus at 11:36 AM on January 20, 2007


The key is that I have to be involved somehow. I've been present at the beginnings of at least 4 MeFi couplings that I know about.
posted by jonmc at 11:46 AM on January 20, 2007


I was found in an AOL chat room 11 years ago, but we're not sure that the love part of the relationship (which is relatively recent at a year and a half old) is going to last. So... quasi-single? I've had great luck with craigslist before, not so good with Match or OKCupid.
posted by SpecialK at 11:50 AM on January 20, 2007


Oh yeah, and I dated someone briefly as a result of a MeFi Meetup, so meetup gets my vote.
posted by SpecialK at 11:50 AM on January 20, 2007


MateFilter
posted by weapons-grade pandemonium at 12:01 PM on January 20, 2007 [1 favorite]


The key is that I have to be involved somehow. I've been present at the beginnings of at least 4 MeFi couplings that I know about.

but then the director yelled "stunt cock" for the rest of the scene?
posted by dflemingdotorg at 12:27 PM on January 20, 2007


*sigh*

I blame alcoholism.
posted by jonmc at 1:00 PM on January 20, 2007


tip for empath: fill in the gender box in your profile!
posted by jessamyn (staff) at 1:16 PM on January 20, 2007


notsnot and I met on Match, but that was before Dr. Phil.
posted by Green Eyed Monster at 1:24 PM on January 20, 2007


oh.. duh..

Now surely the proposals will come a-flying in.
posted by empath at 1:37 PM on January 20, 2007


Oh DAMMIT empath. I was just getting interested, and now yer a guy?? CRAP! That don't make me gay does it?
posted by The Deej at 2:23 PM on January 20, 2007


[NOT GENDERIST]
posted by found missing at 2:33 PM on January 20, 2007 [1 favorite]


Just turn that question at the end of your profile into your dating profile.

"I live for music and butterflies. I'm so much more complicated than those shallow bitches you see everywhere. I'm not a skank...until you get to know me. *big wink* And if you're not a freak don't bother contacting me, I only came here to meet guys into some kinky shit in the bedroom. Gimp mask, anyone?"

See, I think she'd be a hit.
posted by liquorice at 2:38 PM on January 20, 2007 [1 favorite]


Ha ha, The Deej caught teh gay!

I met my wife in library school. I had a metafilter account and she did not. Then matt opened signups and the doors to passion were opened! Open signups saved my marriage.

The awkward part was when I suggested we bring in Monkeyfilter. Boy, some women do *not* freak that way.
posted by stet at 2:43 PM on January 20, 2007 [1 favorite]


Ha ha, The Deej caught teh gay!

Auuughh.... someone get it off me!!!!

Not that there's anything wrong with it.
posted by The Deej at 2:50 PM on January 20, 2007


I met my first wife in the holodeck. It was this really great jazz bar, smoky and pretty much empty. Just me, the boss and Minuet. Later, in an alternate universe, I named my son after the boss and Min died. Now, I just cruise on anyone. I mean it, anyone.
posted by arcticwoman at 4:00 PM on January 20, 2007 [2 favorites]


I met my first wife while fighting the Kilrathi. It was in this really great jazz bar, smoky and pretty much empty. Just me, the bartender, and her. Later, when the war ended, I named my son after Admiral Tolwyn and the Mrs. died. Now, I fly my ship and shoot at anyone. I mean it, anyone.
posted by Smart Dalek at 4:31 PM on January 20, 2007


I farted anywhere, and I mean anywhere. But then I met my first mate's son in a smoky jazz bar. Mrs. Tolwyn is dead, he said. His mother; my first mate. Dead. Well son, war is hell, I told him. He knew that better me of course. I thought we could've been friends, no way though. Obviously time and experience builds walls. Unbreachable walls. When ever I break wind I think of Mrs Tolwyn and her only son. Though I never went back to that bar again, too many orphans.
posted by econous at 5:12 PM on January 20, 2007


- help me ask out this cool girl
- I think I want to get serious with this girl I met, how do I do so?
- tell me cool ways to propose
- looking for great wedding venues in x area
- seeking marriage counsellors in x area
- I need a good divorce lawyer in x area
- how to meet new people in x area


Rinse, repeat;-) But then with those of us who are prolific posters a look at out posting histories will tell you all sorts of things about the progress and events of our lives.

Much as I love the idea of a DateMe page for this site in some ways, it also gets me mildly freaked out. One time I did have a crush on a MeFite, and I started browsing his considerable posting history. It was fun for the first ten or fifteen minutes, and then I started to feel uneasy. I decided that that was not the way I wanted to find out that sort of stuff about him, and that I was losing interest anyway, and shut it down.
posted by orange swan at 6:11 PM on January 20, 2007


Sorry orange swan, many people have the same reaction to my posting history. 15 minutes tops, then boredom. Come to think of it, they react the same way to my conversations.
posted by The Deej at 6:16 PM on January 20, 2007


So MeFi is the seething cesspool of sexual tension and stolen glances that I always suspected it was.

I'm going for a lie down with a cold spoon now.
posted by Jofus at 6:55 PM on January 20, 2007


I would say "seething cauldron."
posted by The Deej at 7:34 PM on January 20, 2007


I'll be in my bunk.
posted by ROU_Xenophobe at 8:30 PM on January 20, 2007


jessamyn: You went to Hampshire?! And you live in Vermont?!

Jesus fuck it's a small world. (I'm a Vermonster by birth and a Hampster by, well, by virtue of being a weirdo.)

Yeah, I like telling people that I met my Viking in Saga. Though very few of them understand why this is funny. *sigh*
posted by grapefruitmoon at 9:42 PM on January 20, 2007


I like telling people that I met my Viking in Saga.

haha, I usually hold out for althing jokes, but that one is fine too.
posted by jessamyn (staff) at 9:49 PM on January 20, 2007


This thread has inspired me to start posting again. I realize that if I want to be stalked I need a history.
posted by ereshkigal45 at 10:06 PM on January 20, 2007 [1 favorite]


*clears throat, preens*
posted by quonsar at 4:18 AM on January 21, 2007


Ha, I just realized that the Internet is responsible for me meeting my boyfriend, in a very roundabout way.

On the f0reignexchange community on LiveJournal was a girl who posted "Exchange Comics", short comics about her exchange experiences. I found them funny and added her to my friends list.

I found out she lived in a residential college in Brisbane, Australia - I was moving to Brisbane for university and was looking for a place to stay. I was apprehensive at first (the college has a bit of a reputation) but decided to apply to the college for accommodation. I got accepted and moved in.

Around O-Week I ran into Mark, who also goes to the same university I went to - it was a different one from the uni my college belongs to, and there was a small group of us from this other uni. The first thing we talked about was how to get to uni from here! We became friends, and talked to each other when we saw each other.

In August our college held a ball and we both attended...things happened (there is a very long story in the Your First Kiss map thread on the blue) and we've been together ever since.

geez, the Internet is responsible for everything in my life, it looks like.
posted by divabat at 6:06 AM on January 21, 2007


Wait. You can meet women using the Internet? Is it one of these F buttons? (F1... F2... F3....)
posted by steef at 7:09 AM on January 21, 2007


Steef: Just keep banging the "insert" button.
posted by Jofus at 8:47 AM on January 21, 2007


I called a Montana meetup, but I was the only one who showed.

"There are no other MetaFilter members nearby, sorry."

Can someone please come visit me?
posted by The Deej at 9:36 AM on January 21, 2007


Tee-Hee, Growing up in Ireland a "lasher" was a gorgeous guy or girl.... just sayin' The Deej!
posted by Wilder at 9:58 AM on January 21, 2007


So I should change the spelling of my name from Darryl Asher to Darry Lasher? That would be false advertising.
posted by The Deej at 10:46 AM on January 21, 2007


Sweetie, if you want we should come visit, ....... ye know....
You are a Darry Lasher!
Otherwise, you're very welcome over here
posted by Wilder at 12:51 PM on January 21, 2007


I paid $5 to get into MetaFilter and I got a wonderful geek who knows how to protect our laptop from bugs and how to connect televisions and dvd players and resets the blinking clocks after the power goes out and googles all sorts of stuff about weird foods to stay away from and finds funny gifts on the web like screeching caped flying monkeys and cows with rubber band arms and organized our entire financial situation into a multi-tabbed spreadsheet that he keeps meticulously updated so that we know when we can afford to put more cash toward the mortgage and can always find the answer on imdb when we watch a movie with an actor who looks familiar who we can't quite place and always shares the funny pictures of pugs he finds on the internet with me. And there are some other things worth mentioning too but those are too personal. And also he has really nice hair.

So I know i'm a broken record on this, but thanks, MetaFilter, and go go go to your local MeFi meetups! (And happy birthday, NortonDC!)
posted by onlyconnect at 2:20 PM on January 21, 2007 [3 favorites]


Sweetie, if you want we should come visit, ....... ye know....
You are a Darry Lasher!
Otherwise, you're very welcome over here


Awww thanks! I've always wanted to see the UK! Not sure if my Saab convertible is up for the drive though. Maybe we can meet halfway. Somewhere in the Atlantic?
posted by The Deej at 3:54 PM on January 21, 2007


Who needs a soulmate when you have the internet...
I can do anything, with a little help from my friends, family, and the hive mind.
Children, grandchildren, and pets all give affection, and for loving I have a long-term lover.
All that and a government job in Hawaii. But now what?
Midlife, meh.
posted by bkiddo at 6:06 PM on January 21, 2007


The idea of a dating angle to mefi is weird (DoMe is a great name though)...I already have a bad reputation because I've listed pretty much everyone as a "crush" under my contacts.

That being said, I'm on consumating, and a brand new member of the Impersonals. Stalk away!
posted by SassHat at 7:18 PM on January 21, 2007


Hey maybe we can put the img tag in the profiles. Then I can find a picture of an attractive person to put in mine, and just maybe I'll get found!!!
posted by The Deej at 8:11 PM on January 21, 2007


(Quonsar, you have been a total MeFi crush of mine forEVAR, but, alas, you are 43.048136, -85.681319, while I am 38.840403, -77.0888. It is: a tragedy.)
posted by ereshkigal45 at 3:56 AM on January 22, 2007 [1 favorite]


I met my husband on Usenet. Heh.
posted by pinky at 6:34 AM on January 22, 2007


My wife (miagaille) and I met on Facebook (back when it was limited to just 5 or 6 schools). She was the only person besides me with the word 'Cryptonomicon' in her profile.

We moved in together within the week.
posted by dmd at 7:36 AM on January 22, 2007


snsranch: It's even funnier if you realize that's a Charleston, SC number.

*inner thirteen year old comes up with a great prank phone call*
posted by 1f2frfbf at 9:57 AM on January 22, 2007


The Deej I called a Montana meetup, but I was the only one who showed.

"There are no other MetaFilter members nearby, sorry."


According to the mathowie, 'nearby' is fifty miles. Kinda descriminatory in Big Sky country. Maybe you need to shout louder next time.

*tip o' the hat from Bozangeles*
posted by Wulfgar! at 10:20 AM on January 22, 2007


Ok, that's it, you shy violets. The next NYC meetup is going to be a key party.
posted by hermitosis at 10:30 AM on January 22, 2007


The next NYC meetup is going to be a key party.

and you can keep your girlfriend; i just want the keys to your place because it's bigger than mine.
posted by sonofslim at 10:45 AM on January 22, 2007


I just got here...are all the hotties taken?
posted by NationalKato at 11:37 AM on January 22, 2007


Wulfgar!
Let's see, a Big Timber meetup is about halfway, eh? :)
posted by The Deej at 11:55 AM on January 22, 2007


I met my wonderful boy on metachat.org, I don't know if this is considered "MeFi" or not but I got there from here.
posted by LunaticFringe at 12:47 PM on January 22, 2007


The Deej, there are 5 or six of us in Montana, several in the Dakotas, and at least 3 in Idaho. As always, distance is our enemy, meetup wise. But anytime you wanna go plug gophers 'round Big Timber, I'm there.
posted by Wulfgar! at 3:56 PM on January 22, 2007


Woohooo gopher pluggin! Funny thing is, I ended up in the wrong state. I don't hunt, fish, ski, or snowboard. I do like the outdoors, and hiking/photography. I came here from Detroit, where guns were never used on gophers. :)

Next time I hit the road to Bozeman, I'll give you a shout!

(Funny Montana thing: people will complain about driving "all the way to other side of town" here in Billings, which is 15 minutes. But they think nothing of driving to Denver for a Broncs game.)
posted by The Deej at 5:03 PM on January 22, 2007


NationalKato, depends on what you consider a hottie. ;)
posted by MeetMegan at 8:53 AM on January 23, 2007


I don't remember where but I saw a picture of MeetMegan somewhere and she definitely qualifies as a hottie. Since she is not taken the answer to Kato's question is "no."
posted by phearlez at 11:38 AM on January 23, 2007


Oh I guess I could answer the actual question - got distracted by all teh funnie.

I met my darling girlfriend on the Salon(SpringStreet) system, but before they went and fucked it all up, pricing structure-wise. Maybe they have unfucked it since - I noticed the screwup about a year and a half ago when I went to try to transfer my unused credits to a friend somehow and discovered I didn't have any anymore.

Were she to suddenly come to her senses I am unsure where I'd find dates.
posted by phearlez at 11:41 AM on January 23, 2007


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