What-does-back-off-mean March 3, 2009 6:03 PM Subscribe
Another thread callout.
We don't know what is going on in these people's lives, and I think the level of "DTMFB" style piling on is getting out of hand. Seems like a LOT of unkind assumptions are being made as to the motivations of the boyfriend.
It's one thing to share one's understanding of that phrase, it's a whole 'nother to decide we know what kind of person he is or what's going on in his head.
We don't know what is going on in these people's lives, and I think the level of "DTMFB" style piling on is getting out of hand. Seems like a LOT of unkind assumptions are being made as to the motivations of the boyfriend.
It's one thing to share one's understanding of that phrase, it's a whole 'nother to decide we know what kind of person he is or what's going on in his head.
Oh, for god's sake. "The boyfriend" didn't post the question. He didn't comment in the thread. He is not identifiable by any detail posted by the anonymous question-asker. I don't think that anonymous's probably-now-ex-boyfriend, who doesn't even know that a bunch of strangers on the internet think he's emotionally stunted, is exactly suffering any harm.
on preview: sixcolors, grow up.
posted by scody at 6:13 PM on March 3, 2009 [31 favorites]
on preview: sixcolors, grow up.
posted by scody at 6:13 PM on March 3, 2009 [31 favorites]
Don't ask sixcolors what back off means.
posted by gman at 6:18 PM on March 3, 2009 [4 favorites]
posted by gman at 6:18 PM on March 3, 2009 [4 favorites]
sixcolors, that attitude is why rich people don't want to buy stuff from you.
posted by Brandon Blatcher at 6:23 PM on March 3, 2009 [75 favorites]
posted by Brandon Blatcher at 6:23 PM on March 3, 2009 [75 favorites]
What is this, lame call out day? People are just answering the question with the information provided. It seems fairly clear to me that this is douchebaggy behaviour from a man of any age, let alone a man in his late 30s who has been seeing this person for eighteen months.
posted by ob at 6:23 PM on March 3, 2009
posted by ob at 6:23 PM on March 3, 2009
What the hell, people.
posted by rtha at 6:26 PM on March 3, 2009 [1 favorite]
posted by rtha at 6:26 PM on March 3, 2009 [1 favorite]
Do you even get a period yet, sixcolors? You so don't.
posted by Ambrosia Voyeur at 6:28 PM on March 3, 2009 [3 favorites]
posted by Ambrosia Voyeur at 6:28 PM on March 3, 2009 [3 favorites]
Ah lighten up, you know you gray dwellers are addicted to drama.
posted by sixcolors at 6:29 PM on March 3, 2009 [3 favorites]
posted by sixcolors at 6:29 PM on March 3, 2009 [3 favorites]
Four more colours!
posted by goodnewsfortheinsane at 6:30 PM on March 3, 2009
posted by goodnewsfortheinsane at 6:30 PM on March 3, 2009
sixcolors - are you also Hovercraft Eel?
posted by UbuRoivas at 6:30 PM on March 3, 2009 [1 favorite]
posted by UbuRoivas at 6:30 PM on March 3, 2009 [1 favorite]
Ubu-Ewww no! I'm not that much of a dork to go by a name like that.
posted by sixcolors at 6:31 PM on March 3, 2009
posted by sixcolors at 6:31 PM on March 3, 2009
Ah lighten up, you know you gray dwellers are addicted to drama.
...coming from the person who has the first comment in the thread.
posted by clearly at 6:33 PM on March 3, 2009
...coming from the person who has the first comment in the thread.
posted by clearly at 6:33 PM on March 3, 2009
I'd be willing to use my quota to post the latest callout thread so this one can get back on topic.
posted by gman at 6:35 PM on March 3, 2009
posted by gman at 6:35 PM on March 3, 2009
Forget the callout, I'd rather talk about how fucking crazy sixcolors is, amirite gray dwellers?
posted by dhammond at 6:38 PM on March 3, 2009 [1 favorite]
posted by dhammond at 6:38 PM on March 3, 2009 [1 favorite]
Ah lighten up, you know you gray dwellers are addicted to drama.
On this at least, you're an expert!
posted by rtha at 6:38 PM on March 3, 2009 [2 favorites]
On this at least, you're an expert!
posted by rtha at 6:38 PM on March 3, 2009 [2 favorites]
I'd give anything to find out that sixcolors is actually ThePinkSuperhero acting out her repressed desires for troublemaking and colors other than pink.
posted by hermitosis at 6:42 PM on March 3, 2009 [33 favorites]
posted by hermitosis at 6:42 PM on March 3, 2009 [33 favorites]
What does "back-off the taters" mean?
posted by blue_beetle at 6:42 PM on March 3, 2009 [1 favorite]
posted by blue_beetle at 6:42 PM on March 3, 2009 [1 favorite]
So. Southern Illinois, eh?
posted by Brandon Blatcher at 6:43 PM on March 3, 2009 [1 favorite]
posted by Brandon Blatcher at 6:43 PM on March 3, 2009 [1 favorite]
Wow, metafilter has been on their period lately...we should change the background to red.
Sixcolors, this comment seems entirely out of character for you. What is that white powder on your coffee table?
posted by terranova at 6:51 PM on March 3, 2009 [1 favorite]
Sixcolors, this comment seems entirely out of character for you. What is that white powder on your coffee table?
posted by terranova at 6:51 PM on March 3, 2009 [1 favorite]
It hurts my feelings that you can think of sixcolors and I together in any sort of cnotext.
posted by ThePinkSuperhero at 6:51 PM on March 3, 2009 [14 favorites]
posted by ThePinkSuperhero at 6:51 PM on March 3, 2009 [14 favorites]
ORANGE powder, terranova.
(and it's right next to the pile of poop on the green carpet)
posted by Stewriffic at 6:52 PM on March 3, 2009 [2 favorites]
(and it's right next to the pile of poop on the green carpet)
posted by Stewriffic at 6:52 PM on March 3, 2009 [2 favorites]
Oh my. I'm sorry. I'm usually pretty good at impulse control, but I guess I lost it for a second there.
posted by Stewriffic at 6:53 PM on March 3, 2009 [1 favorite]
posted by Stewriffic at 6:53 PM on March 3, 2009 [1 favorite]
Am I the only one that thinks we should add a sixcolors.metafilter.com?
posted by empath at 6:55 PM on March 3, 2009
posted by empath at 6:55 PM on March 3, 2009
For values of "add" equivalent to "subtract."
posted by Ambrosia Voyeur at 6:56 PM on March 3, 2009 [9 favorites]
posted by Ambrosia Voyeur at 6:56 PM on March 3, 2009 [9 favorites]
MY PRECIOUS ANTIQUE IRONS
posted by Optimus Chyme at 6:56 PM on March 3, 2009 [16 favorites]
posted by Optimus Chyme at 6:56 PM on March 3, 2009 [16 favorites]
Am I the only one that thinks we should add a sixcolors.metafilter.com?
Would he/she/it be confined to that site?
posted by gman at 6:59 PM on March 3, 2009 [2 favorites]
Would he/she/it be confined to that site?
posted by gman at 6:59 PM on March 3, 2009 [2 favorites]
Speaking of the Hovercraft Eel discussion, I feel like I'm in the opposite situation. I'm the newbie and there's a bunch of hostile oldies. People have been hostile to since I joined a year ago....waaaaaay before I started acting hostile back. You all think I'm a previous user or something, is that what it is?
posted by sixcolors at 7:00 PM on March 3, 2009 [2 favorites]
posted by sixcolors at 7:00 PM on March 3, 2009 [2 favorites]
Remember that meme about things ending well? Boy, this one started great and can only get better.
posted by klangklangston at 7:00 PM on March 3, 2009 [2 favorites]
posted by klangklangston at 7:00 PM on March 3, 2009 [2 favorites]
Would he/she/it be confined to that site?
That was kind of the idea.
posted by empath at 7:02 PM on March 3, 2009
That was kind of the idea.
posted by empath at 7:02 PM on March 3, 2009
This isn't really worth a callout, though a similar problem happened earlier with the thread about the poor dude who had embroiled himself with a bad-news girlfriend. When people get so vehemently negative about a total stranger whom they have only heard about from the second-hand account of someone who's also obscured behind the cloak of anonymity, they tend to sound hysterical and unreasonable. It makes it that much easier for the asker to dismiss any legitimate advice giving because of the hair-trigger DTMFA sensibilities. In regards to the moving-in thread, I bet that guy read about five comments that characterized his girlfriend as a villainous mountebank and then deleted his account forever.
posted by zoomorphic at 7:02 PM on March 3, 2009 [1 favorite]
posted by zoomorphic at 7:02 PM on March 3, 2009 [1 favorite]
You all think I'm a previous user or something, is that what it is?
Oh no, you're a unique and special snowflake. But if you are a previous user, then I applaud your creativity and dedication to character.
posted by empath at 7:04 PM on March 3, 2009 [2 favorites]
Oh no, you're a unique and special snowflake. But if you are a previous user, then I applaud your creativity and dedication to character.
posted by empath at 7:04 PM on March 3, 2009 [2 favorites]
> You all think I'm a previous user or something, is that what it is?
No. In fact, it just appears that while you have been here for a year, you have little if any regard to understand the community in which you are participating. Instead of listening to people's suggestions, you've decided we are all here for your amusement.
Cortex gave a pretty clear description here.
posted by mrzarquon at 7:08 PM on March 3, 2009 [6 favorites]
No. In fact, it just appears that while you have been here for a year, you have little if any regard to understand the community in which you are participating. Instead of listening to people's suggestions, you've decided we are all here for your amusement.
Cortex gave a pretty clear description here.
posted by mrzarquon at 7:08 PM on March 3, 2009 [6 favorites]
Speaking of the Hovercraft Eel discussion, I feel like I'm in the opposite situation. I'm the newbie and there's a bunch of hostile oldies. People have been hostile to since I joined a year ago....waaaaaay before I started acting hostile back. You all think I'm a previous user or something, is that what it is?
posted by sixcolors at 7:00 PM on March 3
I'll just be straight up with you, sixcolors: mission accomplished. You are one of the most interesting and funny posters on MeFi, because you walk this impossible line between childish earnestness and hideous narcissism, and like, every comment and post from you is a weird gift.
If you detect hostility, it's because you have no off switch, no propriety, seemingly no inner critic or judge or superego. And after a while that gets tiring - but for me, now, it's like a joke that's gone on so long and relentlessly that I start laughing again in spite of all my efforts not to - I mean, the "powder" thread? The graphic design thread? The "how can I get $1200 right now" thread? You're a catchphrase engine, and god bless you for you.
<3, your biggest fan, no joke.
posted by Optimus Chyme at 7:09 PM on March 3, 2009 [55 favorites]
posted by sixcolors at 7:00 PM on March 3
I'll just be straight up with you, sixcolors: mission accomplished. You are one of the most interesting and funny posters on MeFi, because you walk this impossible line between childish earnestness and hideous narcissism, and like, every comment and post from you is a weird gift.
If you detect hostility, it's because you have no off switch, no propriety, seemingly no inner critic or judge or superego. And after a while that gets tiring - but for me, now, it's like a joke that's gone on so long and relentlessly that I start laughing again in spite of all my efforts not to - I mean, the "powder" thread? The graphic design thread? The "how can I get $1200 right now" thread? You're a catchphrase engine, and god bless you for you.
<3, your biggest fan, no joke.
posted by Optimus Chyme at 7:09 PM on March 3, 2009 [55 favorites]
People have been hostile to since I joined a year ago
I ACCIDENTALLY HOSTILE A WHOLE SITE
posted by DU at 7:22 PM on March 3, 2009 [11 favorites]
I ACCIDENTALLY HOSTILE A WHOLE SITE
posted by DU at 7:22 PM on March 3, 2009 [11 favorites]
FACT: 85 minutes and no mod involvement.
posted by goodnewsfortheinsane at 7:29 PM on March 3, 2009
posted by goodnewsfortheinsane at 7:29 PM on March 3, 2009
That's notgoodnewsfortheinsane.
posted by gman at 7:30 PM on March 3, 2009 [1 favorite]
posted by gman at 7:30 PM on March 3, 2009 [1 favorite]
Okay I change my vote, this is the callout thread with the best chance of winning.
posted by Rhomboid at 7:30 PM on March 3, 2009
posted by Rhomboid at 7:30 PM on March 3, 2009
METAFILTER HOPE ME I NEVER SOLD BBQ OUT OF A TRUNK AND NOW I SOMEHOW MISSED MY TWENTIES
posted by solipsophistocracy at 7:31 PM on March 3, 2009 [2 favorites]
posted by solipsophistocracy at 7:31 PM on March 3, 2009 [2 favorites]
STOP FEEDING TROLL PLZ
posted by nonmerci at 7:31 PM on March 3, 2009 [1 favorite]
posted by nonmerci at 7:31 PM on March 3, 2009 [1 favorite]
Oh my. I guess I'll get in before this gets closed.
sixcolors: I'm not an oldie, I'm registered about the same time you did. You're the only user in the past year that I've consciously noticed as an agitator and an avowed attention seeker. You believe that the site is your own to ask ridiculous questions like why old people won't buy oatmeal cookies from the back of a station wagon. I haven't begun to fathom whether you are just obsessed with e-drama or you're a troll. On behalf of MetaFilter, users new and old, I ask that you take a break from the site. Get that bunny you always wanted and spray-paint it whichever color matches your decor. Cheers.
posted by cgomez at 7:34 PM on March 3, 2009 [2 favorites]
sixcolors: I'm not an oldie, I'm registered about the same time you did. You're the only user in the past year that I've consciously noticed as an agitator and an avowed attention seeker. You believe that the site is your own to ask ridiculous questions like why old people won't buy oatmeal cookies from the back of a station wagon. I haven't begun to fathom whether you are just obsessed with e-drama or you're a troll. On behalf of MetaFilter, users new and old, I ask that you take a break from the site. Get that bunny you always wanted and spray-paint it whichever color matches your decor. Cheers.
posted by cgomez at 7:34 PM on March 3, 2009 [2 favorites]
every comment and post from you is a weird gift.
This is how I picture sixcolors, for some reason.
posted by empath at 7:34 PM on March 3, 2009 [25 favorites]
This is how I picture sixcolors, for some reason.
posted by empath at 7:34 PM on March 3, 2009 [25 favorites]
I'm going to bed and I pray that this thread is still open for my morning coffee.
posted by gman at 7:37 PM on March 3, 2009
posted by gman at 7:37 PM on March 3, 2009
FACT: 85 minutes and no mod involvement.
I really have nothing to say.
posted by jessamyn (staff) at 7:38 PM on March 3, 2009 [4 favorites]
I really have nothing to say.
posted by jessamyn (staff) at 7:38 PM on March 3, 2009 [4 favorites]
I thought I was actually going to get to bed at a decent time...
posted by MaryDellamorte at 7:39 PM on March 3, 2009
posted by MaryDellamorte at 7:39 PM on March 3, 2009
Actually, I do. I think we'll be closing this. sixcolors & sixcolors' peanut gallery, please don't do this here. gjc, I'm sorry your callout got insta-derailed.
posted by jessamyn (staff) at 7:40 PM on March 3, 2009 [3 favorites]
posted by jessamyn (staff) at 7:40 PM on March 3, 2009 [3 favorites]
This thread is closed to new comments.
posted by sixcolors at 6:12 PM on March 3, 2009 [1 favorite]