Thank you. June 18, 2010 10:34 PM   Subscribe

Hello. Thank you. This is my official post hospital, hotel and apartment update.

Sorry for the delay - this post is way overdue. Thanks for your patience. I've been licking my wounds and resting a lot and just processing a lot of different things and just savoring being alone and more or less independent and unentangled for the first time in a long, long time.

My post-hospital checkup and x-ray went well and I have my stitches out. I'm still a bit more winded then I'm used to being but that's to be expected. All things considered I'm healing very fast and my lung capacity and function is remarkable.

This has everything to do with having a proper bed in a decent hotel room in which to heal up in. I was sleeping on a camping pad in a dusty, cluttered corner on a floor. I was going through contortions to just exist and survive under a lot of stress and there's no way I could have recovered so much or so quickly on that floor or worse on the streets. If I was on the streets I don't think I would have healed much if at all.

The apartment is... amazing. It's really hard to describe after living out of backpacks and boxes for so long. I've been in random, bizarre, unconventional, nomadic or outright dangerous living situations for just about ten years. I'm still getting used to the ideas of so many things. Like turning the lights off, or the fact I have a fridge, a stove and a kitchen. Re-learning how to buy food in bulk instead of worrying about portable, single-serving food. Cooking something whenever I want. My own bathroom to use whenever. The ability to leave my shoes wherever and not get bitched out. The ability to sleep when I need to, read or just lay down or whatever. I really don't know what to do with myself yet but I'm working on it.

Utilities are on, I've got my own mobile wireless broadband internet turned on. (Clear 4G - it actually works for me as my apartment and general places of travel are all in the sweet spot, so I usually get good/great speeds.) I've got a bed-like object and it's weird and cheap but it's mine and more than I've had in a long while.

On the flip-side I'm a bit freaked out by the responsibility of having my name on a lease, on the utility bills and all that, but I really want to make this stick and have my own home base to grow from.

I like my apartment, my city, my therapist and the programs I'm in and they're working with me and the new apartment. I'm in the best of possible places to do what I need to do. I may qualify for some rehab grants to go back to school, which I really like the idea of doing. Going back to school and staying there for a while wouldn't be a terrible thing if I could swing it.

Part of my rational and irrational trepidation as I mentioned in a previous thread is that now it's time for the hard, painful work of digging into ancient wounds and confronting the issues I need to address in therapy - we started digging at my last session on Monday and it was rough. I came home and had nightmares and other reactions, but it's working. Some things are fixable, others perhaps not so much - but so far it's working.

I don't know what else to say but thank you. I'm a little overwhelmed by being in the spotlight like this, by the outpouring of support and generosity, about everything. Thank you so much.

Oh yeah, pictures. Here are some I grabbed before I cluttered up the joint. I'm planning on actually getting into trying to figure out where to put stuff this weekend, so I should have some "after" pictures when I get around to it.
posted by loquacious to MetaFilter-Related at 10:34 PM (122 comments total) 59 users marked this as a favorite

Holy crap, your apartment is gorgeous, congrats.
posted by paisley henosis at 10:42 PM on June 18, 2010


I'm so happy to hear things are looking up for you, loquacious...thanks for the update.
posted by StrikeTheViol at 10:44 PM on June 18, 2010


Glad to hear you've got yourself in a decent space, in so many ways.
posted by tracicle at 10:44 PM on June 18, 2010 [2 favorites]


I'm so glad to hear that you're healing and feeling so much better!
posted by TooFewShoes at 10:47 PM on June 18, 2010


Loquacious, as always. Be well.
posted by netbros at 10:48 PM on June 18, 2010


Hope to see you soon!
posted by rtha at 10:49 PM on June 18, 2010


Ach, this makes the heart warm in every way. I'm so glad your emergency turned into an entrance into the better life you deserve to be living. Congratulations on your independence, well done on standing brave against your demons, and may you be surrounded by all the strength and love you need to help you through the process.

You don't know me, but count me in as one more person available if you ever need an ear or shoulder (that's all I can do right now, other than millions of good wishes). I've been through situations with similarities, as have many loved ones, so no shocks here, just support.
posted by batmonkey at 10:51 PM on June 18, 2010


Hey, I like your place, and that closet is pretty awesome! So glad to hear that you're settling in and on the mend; very happy to hear it.
posted by heyho at 10:55 PM on June 18, 2010


TL;DR: Congratulations! I'm glad it feels good.

On the flip-side I'm a bit freaked out by the responsibility of having my name on a lease, on the utility bills and all that...
I understand how this feels. That said, things like utility bills can be set up in a number of ways so that they're easy for you. See about getting an automatic bill payment. This has helped me in so many ways. As long as you get notified via e-mail/SMS (pro tip: skip paper billing) of the cost & when the payment takes place, and are otherwise on top of finances, you'll be fine. Paying rent is something I don't have automated, and sometimes it just feels.. scary to have to sign over that money to somebody else. But remember: it has to get done. Putting your signature on the check & a stamp on the envelope seem really big, but remember that they take only a few seconds -- minutes if you have to pop down to buy stamps at the convenience store or bank or USPS. And that if you don't do it, you'll lose your place. Other than that, keep your place clean-ish and don't torment your neighbors. If you're concerned for some unmentioned reason about things, just know your rights. Reading over a document like that can assuage fears you may have. Keep it bookmarked. (I googled for seattle tenants rights.)

You probably don't need to be reminded, but it's good for you to pause for just a few seconds now & then, just to think good thoughts about this space & where you are. Don't get too caught up in things, overwhelmed by what needs to or could be done. It can all be done step-by-step, as it needs to. If you do this before meals as a form of non-religious "grace", it's a nice ritual. You can also do it right when you first close your eyes in bed at night, and it can be comforting. When I was going through a rough patch a few years ago, a friend recommended that I think of 5 things I'm grateful for when I go to bed. These days, "my own space" would be one of them quite regularly. I lived with roommates for 8 years and it had its ups and downs. I've been on my own for 2 years and it's still kind of magical. Memail me if you want to talk about it.

Also, (again, you probably don't need to be reminded) but small stuff like "I get anxious signing my rent check" is probably fair game for your therapist to explore with you.
posted by knile at 10:57 PM on June 18, 2010 [5 favorites]


Wow-- what a great space! I'm so glad you're on the mend and on your way to better things. Onward and upward!

(Thou shalt not covet Loquacious' kitchen floor)
posted by Heretic at 11:01 PM on June 18, 2010 [1 favorite]


Yes! YES! *FIST PUMP*

Nice digs, can't wait to see what you do with it.
posted by carsonb at 11:30 PM on June 18, 2010


Very glad for you. All the best.
posted by nola at 11:36 PM on June 18, 2010


Oh goodness! I didn't see the original Metatalk. I am so glad you are doing better, loquacious. Congratulations on being out of the hospital and getting to a more peaceful place (in many senses). Your new apartment is lovely by the way!
posted by hurdy gurdy girl at 11:37 PM on June 18, 2010


Best wishes to you, loquacious. Love your sink!
posted by amyms at 11:48 PM on June 18, 2010


Open spaces, clear lights, busy hands, soft eyes...continuing.
posted by Burhanistan at 11:57 PM on June 18, 2010 [1 favorite]


This is so good to hear. I'm glad you're home.
posted by tangerine at 11:57 PM on June 18, 2010


I'm sure the man himself had something else in mind but as I try to make my way on this Earth under a similar set of strictures and conditions to you, loq, this is a song that pops into my head more and more. No more foam rubber pads in the corner, no more sleeping on the streets, a general retreat from squalor because you and I deserve it, and if the fear's not gone at least the fire's keeping the wolves at bay.

damn that is a nice place
posted by jtron at 12:03 AM on June 19, 2010 [1 favorite]


So glad to see you have a stable place and are beginning to heal. Good luck with the internal work you are doing; slogging through it all can feel daunting and unproductive a lot of the time, so hold on to your wins and don't berate yourself over your perceived setbacks. Here's hoping you breathe easier soon.
posted by sarahnade at 12:08 AM on June 19, 2010


I'm glad to hear you're doing better than before. I hope things continue to be good for you, and that this marks the beginning of a good chapter in your life. Stay healthy, be well.
posted by Ghidorah at 12:09 AM on June 19, 2010


Sending love :)
posted by By The Grace of God at 12:47 AM on June 19, 2010


This is fucking awesome - keep up the good work and YAY!
posted by tristeza at 12:52 AM on June 19, 2010


Fuck yes Yay for this. I admire your emotional courage loq, the world could use more of that.

OP: knile you rule for putting the TL;DR where it makes sense.
posted by vapidave at 1:08 AM on June 19, 2010


Congratulations and also YAY, GO LOQUACIOUS!
posted by fluffy battle kitten at 1:31 AM on June 19, 2010


I'm jealous of that gorgeous apartment

And I'm sitting here reading your letter to us sharing your courage and phoenix like beginnings and deeply, tightly wishing with all my might for the best of all good things for you as you go forward.

you're inspiring.

thank you for the update and *big squeezy hug*
posted by infini at 1:35 AM on June 19, 2010


Congrats, and best of luck! We are all pulling for you.
posted by JHarris at 2:03 AM on June 19, 2010 [1 favorite]


I'm actually a bit sheepish about how nice and photogenic the apartment is. It might help sway your envy a little if I point out they're having a regularly scheduled building-wide bedbug inspection w/ a trained dog on Monday. There's a 2 am drunken, roving shouty-fighty people thing going on in my alley for the last half hour or so and...

It has a lot of, err, charm like that - but for the price it's gorgeous and ridiculous and mine. It's pretty awesome. It's big enough to do yoga or make art, quiet enough to write in and all kinds of things.
posted by loquacious at 2:13 AM on June 19, 2010


I think it's time to write a book.Meh, not right now.

It's big enough to do yoga or make art, quiet enough to write in and all kinds of things.

This looks like good progress to me! :)
posted by Mikey-San at 3:07 AM on June 19, 2010 [2 favorites]


It looks like a lovely space, I'm so pleased you can spread out into the cupboards and shelves and make yourself a home. The ancient wounds and issues will be far easier to face from such comfortable surroundings. Thank you for the update, we are all rooting for you.
posted by ellieBOA at 3:16 AM on June 19, 2010


good on ya loq
posted by allkindsoftime at 3:19 AM on June 19, 2010


i have closet envy. not enough to offset the good wishes, but i have closet envy nonetheless.

best of luck. here's hoping the trained dogs leave without finding a trace of the dreaded bedbugs. (and if they DO find bedbugs, what does that mean about your new apartment?)
posted by msconduct at 4:24 AM on June 19, 2010


I am so pleased for you! My best wishes continue to come your way.
posted by jaruwaan at 4:29 AM on June 19, 2010


loquacious, I'm so glad you've got yourself a gaff and things look like they're going to be stable for you. FWIW, I was just discussing with my sister how I miss the studios I lived in, from Providence to London, until I was 32. Studio living is great, and also (critically for me when I was trying to deal with depression) manageable.

Even when I slid and became overwhelmed by my environment, it wasn't so big a job that a friend and an afternoon couldn't make it better. More than once, being able to get that one part under control gave me confidence to get moving on other things that needed to be done.

However having a home can nurture your recovery, I hope that's the role it fills for you.
posted by DarlingBri at 4:37 AM on June 19, 2010


So happy to read this update, loquacious! Fingers and toes crossed on the bedbug front!
posted by Hellgirl at 5:14 AM on June 19, 2010


Well done, loq! The apartment looks awesome!
posted by ObscureReferenceMan at 5:51 AM on June 19, 2010


Glad you're on the mends, Loq.
posted by crunchland at 5:53 AM on June 19, 2010



(Thou shalt not covet Loquacious' kitchen floor)


Nor the pantry, nor the storage space...

I've been thinking about you, and I am so pleased you are doing well!
posted by jgirl at 6:12 AM on June 19, 2010


So glad to hear you're doing better. You're an inspiration!
posted by sveskemus at 6:20 AM on June 19, 2010


This is wonderful news. (I was admiring that sink and storage closet, too! And the view to courtyard.) Nothing like a roof over your head and dry, lockable place to keep your stuff to make your world a little better. So glad things are going better for you.
posted by ThatCanadianGirl at 6:44 AM on June 19, 2010


Thanks for the update, and the pictures of your lovely place. I hope you'll be very happy there!
posted by EvaDestruction at 6:49 AM on June 19, 2010


Great news! Glad to hear you're on the mend.
posted by arcticseal at 7:00 AM on June 19, 2010


One day at a time, loquacious. it eases my mind to hear you're on an upward path.
posted by jasper411 at 7:04 AM on June 19, 2010


Very good news, indeed. Take care.
posted by misozaki at 7:16 AM on June 19, 2010


So happy for you, loquacious! Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.
posted by chara at 8:15 AM on June 19, 2010


Thanks for the update! Best of luck working out your problems and establishing a new life for yourself. I'm liking the sound of that "quiet enough to write in" (hint, hint!) Hope to see you around on the Blue after you get settled in. {hug}
posted by Quietgal at 8:48 AM on June 19, 2010


Congrats loq!!!
posted by Fuzzy Monster at 8:51 AM on June 19, 2010


Glad you're doing better. Welcome back to the world of light.
posted by fleacircus at 8:54 AM on June 19, 2010


I'm really glad to hear this, what a lovely apartment.

My hands are positively itching to attempt cleaning the stains on that butcher block style countertop - but thanks to past work with a therapist, I know why. Hope your therapy sessions are just as successful. :)

Best to you and hugs too.
posted by HopperFan at 8:56 AM on June 19, 2010


congrats loq - one day at a time ;-)
posted by toodleydoodley at 9:11 AM on June 19, 2010


Oh, this is good news. The place is lovely, and it's all yours - it looks a good safe space to get started on all that recovering you're going to do. (And you will. You can.)

Wish I was better at crochet than I am, because that place needs fuzzy handmade blankets. I can offer charmingly misshapen potholders, if you need any of those...
posted by cmyk at 9:18 AM on June 19, 2010


That's fantastic news, loquacious, and we're all pulling for you.
posted by Malor at 9:20 AM on June 19, 2010


Sending happy, healing, comforting vibes to you. Like everyone else says -- one day at a time. Be well!
posted by Madamina at 9:50 AM on June 19, 2010


Well, that is lovely. I am so very glad that things are looking up for you.
Keep on.
posted by SLC Mom at 9:53 AM on June 19, 2010


Yay! I'm so happy for you. Hang in there.
posted by biscotti at 10:00 AM on June 19, 2010


What did I miss while I was on vacation? Last I checked wasn't loq 'quitting' mefi or something? Or was that someone else?

Anyhow, I'm glad whatever happened has passed and things are looking up for you, loquacious.
posted by sunshinesky at 10:01 AM on June 19, 2010


Nice place! Keep it up, man.
posted by limeonaire at 10:18 AM on June 19, 2010


Hugs and love to you, loq. Best of luck.
posted by Pope Guilty at 10:35 AM on June 19, 2010


Wonderful news. I too have closet envy.
posted by gaspode at 10:36 AM on June 19, 2010


Fuck yeah, Loq!

And way to fucking go MeFi! You guys have been so good to me too.
posted by klangklangston at 10:41 AM on June 19, 2010


Good stuff, man. Keep it up!
posted by nevercalm at 10:50 AM on June 19, 2010


I was just wondering how you were doing- glad to hear things are moving onward and upward.

I'm very jealous of your vintage kitchen. Lovely view from your pad, too.
posted by oneirodynia at 10:51 AM on June 19, 2010


Fabulous, loquacious.

This makes me feel a lot better.

You really do have talent to burn, and if I presume too far, please forgive me (and no pressure), but I look forward to seeing what happens during this interval in which you've apparently decided it might actually be more amusing not to dive headfirst into the flames.
posted by jamjam at 11:33 AM on June 19, 2010


I am so completely stoked for you. Isn't it great to realize that sometimes the universe spits out a little nugget of joy in between kicking your ass? Keep the faith and keep on keeping on.
posted by The Light Fantastic at 11:44 AM on June 19, 2010 [1 favorite]


So glad to hear this. :-)
posted by Nattie at 12:15 PM on June 19, 2010


That's one hell of a closet, glad things are looking up. All the best to you, mate.
posted by SyntacticSugar at 12:17 PM on June 19, 2010


I am so happy to hear this and to see your new home.
posted by Ouisch at 12:24 PM on June 19, 2010


Hooray!
posted by The Whelk at 12:29 PM on June 19, 2010


So glad to hear all of this (and I, too, have a little case of closet envy -- a walk-in! with built-in shelves! luxury!). All the best to you, loq.
posted by scody at 12:48 PM on June 19, 2010


Yay! Everything is turning out so nicely for you. That makes me happy. Enjoy your new place to call your own!
posted by kthxbi at 1:00 PM on June 19, 2010


Excellent, keep it up!
posted by DreamerFi at 1:04 PM on June 19, 2010


another fuck yeah! from this corner. A new home is a good place to start, best wishes and good thoughts to you.
posted by Wuggie Norple at 1:11 PM on June 19, 2010


What a lovely post to stumble across on metatalk. Hurrah for you :)
posted by ArmyOfKittens at 1:20 PM on June 19, 2010


Super-duper news! Best wishes!
posted by Dumsnill at 1:31 PM on June 19, 2010


Everybody deserves a home and I'm glad you found yours.

xo
posted by Space Kitty at 1:33 PM on June 19, 2010


cheers dude, hope all progress is as good as this.
posted by edgeways at 1:34 PM on June 19, 2010


HOLY SHIT THAT IS RAD.
posted by Ambrosia Voyeur at 1:59 PM on June 19, 2010


I was smiling so hard reading this. Awesome place for an awesome person all set to do (even more) awesome things. High fives for loq and for everyone who was able to help him out.

As for noise, dropping a couple of dollars on those squishy earplugs has helped me enormously. Dropping even a few decibels can make a huge difference for what you can and can't sleep through.

Can't wait to see the after photos. :)
posted by Dandeson Coates, Sec'y at 2:09 PM on June 19, 2010


Ah, congratulations. I'm very glad to hear all this.
posted by salvia at 3:07 PM on June 19, 2010


Good on you, loq. Say, how much would you charge for me to live in your closet?
posted by item at 3:50 PM on June 19, 2010


(drops off a bust of Sejanus)

for the new place, glad you have your space and health.
posted by clavdivs at 3:56 PM on June 19, 2010


Love the apartment - that kitchen tile is sweet! All the best in your new home!
posted by contrariwise at 3:59 PM on June 19, 2010


Oh man, really glad to hear things are looking up for you, loq. Best of luck on the path.
posted by mediareport at 4:25 PM on June 19, 2010


OMG now we can have like the best First Annual Metafilter Slumber Party EVAR!!!11!one

(Awesome digs for an awesome little dude. Congrats and best wishes going forward, loq. :)
posted by arachnid at 4:38 PM on June 19, 2010 [1 favorite]


Loq, we don't know each other (though of course I know you as a MeFite Of Great Renown), but if it will be of any help at all, I currently have a real, honest-to-God job that I didn't believe existed, because the job description fits in with "Work from home! Make your own hours! Great pay!" crap you find for pyramid schemes and other cons. and it's great. It's an extremely busy company that needs transcriptionists and video-savvy folks. Just from working there for a few months, I've become friends with the higher-ups, and would be happy to recommend you. You could even figure out exactly how many hours to work in order to prevent you from losing aid, but put a little extra pocket at the same time.

Please contact me at the email on my profile page if this is something that appeals to you, and I'll email you with details.

I'm so glad you've got a home. And the Jell-O in your profile pic looks delicious.
posted by tzikeh at 4:59 PM on June 19, 2010 [1 favorite]


Oh dammit, meant to say "Work from home *on the internet*, make your own hours," etc.
posted by tzikeh at 5:00 PM on June 19, 2010


Congratulations! That apartment looks awesome! And so glad you've got your own space are healing up -- that's wonderful news!
posted by treepour at 5:18 PM on June 19, 2010


Nice digs, Doug, you dog. I dig 'em.
posted by boo_radley at 5:35 PM on June 19, 2010


Oh man, great place. I LOVE looking at other peoples' apartments (what can I say? I'm nosy!), but the story behind these makes them so much better!
posted by PhoBWanKenobi at 5:41 PM on June 19, 2010


Great news and great apartment! Congrats!
posted by spinifex23 at 6:02 PM on June 19, 2010


I also LOVE looking at people's places, and I hope there will be more photos!
posted by jgirl at 6:44 PM on June 19, 2010


Loquacious, you don't know me from Eve, but I'm a lurker-type Seattle Mefite, and it's so lovely to see you settling into a safe space to heal and ground yourself.

I can't help with jobs or anything like that, but if you happen to be in need of any household-type items (dishes, towels, etc), feel free to hit me up. I'll be out of town next week, but when I get back, if there's something you have decided you need, just shoot me a MeMail and we'll sort it out. It'd be my pleasure to help make your new home more homey.
posted by Lulu's Pink Converse at 6:48 PM on June 19, 2010 [3 favorites]


Wonderful news and wonderful apartment. Congrats!
posted by angiep at 6:50 PM on June 19, 2010


Excellent update, loquacious.

I'm just so glad I wasn't the only knucklehead to be all, "How cool, loquacious is healthier and in a more secure living place and working on his stuff and HOLY CHRIST WILL YOU LOOK AT THAT FREAKIN' CLOSET!"
posted by FelliniBlank at 7:16 PM on June 19, 2010 [3 favorites]


That profile picture may be the best ever posted. And I hope your new home is welcoming you, and that the two of you can relax into each other. It looks to have some lovely amenities, but do you have a toaster?
posted by path at 7:16 PM on June 19, 2010


Also very happy to hear you've got a stable place. Can't wait to talk again.
posted by Slarty Bartfast at 7:54 PM on June 19, 2010


Rock chalk, Jayhawk!

Good luck going forward.
posted by JohnnyGunn at 8:37 PM on June 19, 2010


Nice little space you got yourself there. Good to hear you're doing better.
posted by Cyrano at 9:10 PM on June 19, 2010


hey, welcome back!
posted by casarkos at 9:17 PM on June 19, 2010


Yay!
posted by brundlefly at 10:46 PM on June 19, 2010


congrats dude, glad to see you're doing well.
posted by threetoed at 10:51 PM on June 19, 2010


It's great to hear you're doing well.
posted by eyeballkid at 12:50 AM on June 20, 2010


I'm actually a bit sheepish about how nice and photogenic the apartment is.

Don't you dare start feeling guilty over it. You deserve some stability, and even if you didn't you should still have some.

I hope your therapy goes well and that you can focus on it with whatever pace is best for you.
posted by BrotherCaine at 2:51 AM on June 20, 2010 [4 favorites]


Yay! Glad to hear you've got some healing and stability in your life!
posted by Salvor Hardin at 3:36 AM on June 20, 2010


Yay!!!! My favorite apartments to live in have been the ones with a lot of "charm" - this one looks awesome. Oh, what I wouldn't give to move back to the one with the gas leak in the house that was kind of falling apart and definitely *looked* haunted. The heat never worked, and the gas leak didn't get fixed for an appalling amount of time, but it was home and it was awesome.

(No seriously, I loved the hell out of that place and I'm really honestly kind of embarrassed about the fancy-pants-ness of my current place. Though it's across the street from a strip club, which detracts a bit from the general property value. The weekends are G-DAMNED LOUD.)
posted by grapefruitmoon at 4:37 AM on June 20, 2010 [1 favorite]


Congratulations, on everything! Love the apartment and that you are healing well. Thanks for sharing the photos -- that really looks like a nice, clean, private place. Ideal!
posted by theredpen at 6:15 AM on June 20, 2010


Congrats. Having your own space is huge.
posted by fake at 8:46 AM on June 20, 2010


Been wondering about you. Yay! I'll be sending happy, healy vibes your way.
posted by moira at 9:54 AM on June 20, 2010


I am so happy to hear this, and thrilled that you've managed to achieve having a nice, livable space. Nothing to be sheepish about at all, it's quite an accomplishment, actually.
posted by PareidoliaticBoy at 1:37 PM on June 20, 2010


Wow, what a great space for you. I'm so happy you will be safe and warm and can cook and use the bathroom whenever you want! Simple pleasures are the best.
posted by agatha_magatha at 3:03 PM on June 20, 2010


You don't know me and I don't know you, but I'm still so happy to see this! Not just a place of your own, but one with a nice view! and great storage! and cool floors! In the 4G sweet spot! Score!
posted by jeoc at 4:03 PM on June 20, 2010


Wonderful news. It's a great feeling to go walk around town all day and then arrive... home. Your own little sanctuary. Enjoy life, my friend.
posted by Mister_A at 9:30 AM on June 21, 2010


Be well!
posted by questionsandanchors at 10:41 AM on June 21, 2010


Oh, what a lovely place! And what a delightful update. Doing a happy dance for you, loquacious.
posted by Devika at 1:16 PM on June 21, 2010


Really good news, loquacious. Best wishes on continuing to heal in all facets of your life.
posted by schleppo at 1:19 PM on June 21, 2010


Cheers, my friend.
posted by Errant at 3:14 PM on June 21, 2010 [2 favorites]


Thanks again. Sorry if I've been keeping my head down but... I'm still really overwhelmed by the outpouring of support and terrified about not being graceful enough about it. I'm processing and doing a lot of "Holy shit. What... just happened?" type thinking still, but I'm settling in and getting on with it.

Seriously. It's massively empowering that this many people are rooting for me and have my back.

Can everyone that I want to thank please form an orderly line? Holy shit that's a long line. Dog pile, then?

There's a lot of good advice in this thread.

I don't have a bank account yet and probably won't for a while, but I did have to open a pre-paid debit card to get a number to turn on my internet. Which I've used to set up a paypal account. I think in a few months I qualify for a paypal account where I can use it like a pseudo bank account. I also finally joined the 21st century and made my very first internet purchase. I bought socks.

The closet is super awesome. I have a dresser in there now. My clothes aren't in a backpack or on the floor for the first time in a long time.

(Oh, and I passed the bedbug inspection. Yay. They're not supposed to be in here anyway 'cause this unit was vacant for 4+ months.)
posted by loquacious at 11:22 PM on June 21, 2010 [3 favorites]


You deserve this, you know. You inspire people.

In life, if we have to prop up a friend sometimes just to keep them around in order to inspire us, that's what we do. It's all very symbiotic like that. I'm sure you've done the same for people you want to keep in your life, you've just done it differently.
posted by heyho at 9:37 AM on June 22, 2010 [1 favorite]


On the flip-side I'm a bit freaked out by the responsibility of having my name on a lease, on the utility bills and all that


I understand -- it's doing the the right thing though. The lack of address/credit history continued to haunt me long after I had stopped being homeless. In retrospect I could have made my subsequent life easier, however, if I had proactively put my name on bills rather than avoiding doing so.
posted by tallus at 11:29 AM on June 22, 2010 [3 favorites]


This is such nice news. Thank you.
posted by dog food sugar at 7:12 PM on June 22, 2010


I'm glad you are in such a good place both physically and mentally. Best of luck to you!


((I'm deeply jealous of your giant closet))
posted by Julnyes at 11:03 AM on June 23, 2010


Right on!
posted by Nabubrush at 1:02 PM on June 24, 2010


loquacious: It might help sway your envy a little if I point out they're having a regularly scheduled building-wide bedbug inspection w/ a trained dog on Monday.

I see you did pass the bedbug inspection but as a Mefite who had 'em back in '05, let me assure you they're "survivable." And having a landlord who cares enough to hire a canine bedbug detection service (which wasn't even really a thing back in '05, but, thankfully, is today) is, trust me, a good thing. You want a landlord who takes that part of their responsibilities seriously ... helps keep infestations localized to just the person who brought 'em in in the first place. (And on the very small chance you do someday get them, drop me a Mefi Mail and I will give you tons of dealing-with-it tips.)
posted by WCityMike at 12:56 PM on June 25, 2010


Loquacious, you deserve all the good the universe can throw at you be it a lovely apartment, better physical and mental health or whatever. Big hugs!
posted by deborah at 9:16 PM on July 2, 2010


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