DTMFA July 26, 2011 1:27 PM   Subscribe

I posted anonymously to ask me and the advice and help offered, though some of it was very harsh, strengthened me to get out of a bad relationship. I read through the post over and over again when I start to weaken and it empowers me to stay strong. Your advice agreed with the advice of all my real world friends, but they were getting tired of reiterating it. Having the thread to re-read is powerful support. Thank you everybody! I'm in a safer, healthier place today than I would be without the support of many strangers on the internet.
posted by palegirl to MetaFilter-Related at 1:27 PM (35 comments total) 34 users marked this as a favorite

Yay!
posted by phunniemee at 1:29 PM on July 26, 2011 [1 favorite]


Yay! I'm glad you're getting through it ok. That kind of anonymous question can be really frustrating from the answerer's side, and it's great to hear back that we, collectively, helped out in a concrete way.
posted by restless_nomad (staff) at 1:30 PM on July 26, 2011


Really glad for you.
posted by bearwife at 1:30 PM on July 26, 2011


We're also quite useful if you ever get locked in your own room!
posted by Bunny Ultramod at 1:39 PM on July 26, 2011 [25 favorites]


Hurray! :D
posted by ThePinkSuperhero at 1:40 PM on July 26, 2011


Delicious!
posted by jbenben at 1:41 PM on July 26, 2011


SUPER YAY. So glad to hear.

We're also quite useful if you ever get locked in your own room!

Actually, my cat locked me out of my bedroom once and I had used my question. Long story...
posted by sweetkid at 1:42 PM on July 26, 2011 [2 favorites]


All I have to say is DTMFA -- Damn, This Makes (Me) Feel Awesome! Congrats!
posted by griphus at 1:42 PM on July 26, 2011 [10 favorites]


Yay! Thanks for sharing. So glad to hear that you saw and tapped into your own strength to make a healthy choice for yourself.
posted by bilabial at 1:44 PM on July 26, 2011


And let my add my voice to the chorus of congratulations. The best advice is sometimes the hardest to take, and it sounds like you made some difficult decisions that turned out to be the right ones. That is the best outcome anybody can hope for.
posted by Bunny Ultramod at 1:48 PM on July 26, 2011


So glad to hear that you saw and tapped into your own strength to make a healthy choice for yourself.

Yes - that is wonderful news!
posted by LobsterMitten at 1:59 PM on July 26, 2011


Damn it feels good to be an answerer
posted by 2bucksplus at 2:03 PM on July 26, 2011 [13 favorites]


Good on you!
posted by AugustWest at 2:22 PM on July 26, 2011


Making a big life change is super hard. I am really happy to hear that you're having success in your endeavor! Thanks for letting us know, and keep on truckin'.
posted by stoneweaver at 2:24 PM on July 26, 2011


AskMe has long served as a useful check on my behavior. We totally need WWAMD* t-shirts.

*What Would Ask Metafilter Do
posted by desjardins at 2:37 PM on July 26, 2011 [17 favorites]


"We totally need WWAMD* t-shirts. "

I use that thought device all the time since joining up!
posted by jbenben at 2:47 PM on July 26, 2011 [3 favorites]


Getch yer schmoopy here! Red hot schmoopy for everybody!
posted by cosmicbandito at 2:49 PM on July 26, 2011


It is addictive like crack; this wonderful feeling of good results from askme. Glad we were there for you!
posted by Lynsey at 2:53 PM on July 26, 2011


Hooray!
posted by Glinn at 2:55 PM on July 26, 2011


righteous! glad you're on a better path, safer, and happier!
posted by batmonkey at 2:55 PM on July 26, 2011


As cool as a WWAMD t-shirt would be, I don't think it can replace my old stand-by of asking what noted sociologist and Pan-Africanist W.E.B. DuBois would do.

WWWEBDBD.
posted by benito.strauss at 3:37 PM on July 26, 2011 [9 favorites]


*dusts hands*

Well it looks like our work here is finished.
posted by Danf at 3:42 PM on July 26, 2011


You're great!
posted by East Manitoba Regional Junior Kabaddi Champion '94 at 4:12 PM on July 26, 2011


If you are happy, we are happy. Good luck.
posted by Cranberry at 4:54 PM on July 26, 2011


We are like the mice in Bagpuss. Glad you're doing better.
posted by arcticseal at 6:40 PM on July 26, 2011


Woohoo!!! I'm really, really glad to hear you're doing better. Stay strong and awesome! You are worth the effort. :)
posted by palomar at 8:04 PM on July 26, 2011


Yay! Now come up with new problems we can help you with! We need to feel needed!
posted by BlahLaLa at 9:43 PM on July 26, 2011 [2 favorites]


There are times when all of us need EVERYBODY to tell us what we kind of already know.
posted by nanojath at 11:00 PM on July 26, 2011 [3 favorites]


Congrats on making a good move!
posted by salvia at 11:27 PM on July 26, 2011


If my work gets just one MF D'ed already, I'll feel I've done my job.
posted by tel3path at 3:57 AM on July 27, 2011 [4 favorites]


Save some of that congratulations for yourself Palegirl, for the courage to make the change.
posted by LarryC at 1:26 PM on July 27, 2011 [5 favorites]


I was so stunned by the answers to my own anonymous Ask question that it propelled me from years of mostly lurking to wanting to participate all the time. Even though it was years ago I still go back and look at that thread from time to time and I still shake my head at how impressive the answers were. There are also some people who I will just always like because of their answers, and can't help it, even if I found out later on we might not have compatible personalities or politics or whatever.
posted by Ashley801 at 11:39 PM on July 27, 2011


I, too, am an anon who successfully D'd their MF after being advised to do so on AskMe. Looking back at my own question, it's amazing to me now how I couldn't see what was so obvious to everyone else.
posted by miskatonic at 4:39 AM on July 28, 2011


I, too, am an anon who successfully D'd their MF after being advised to do so on AskMe. Looking back at my own question, it's amazing to me now how I couldn't see what was so obvious to everyone else.

Heeey! I just checked your profile and noticed who you are. Your blog (did we even call them that back then?) was one of my daily go-to sites waaaay back in the early days, when your layout had some funky goggles background and awesome tiny fonts.

Reading your blog was actually really important in my life, so, thank you for that.
posted by odinsdream at 12:28 PM on July 28, 2011 [1 favorite]


Oh cool, thanks!
posted by miskatonic at 6:30 PM on August 2, 2011


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