Can I nominate someone for Best Answer Ever in an AskMeFi thread? January 12, 2012 8:17 PM   Subscribe

Just want to point out an excellent, very informative response to an AskMeFi question I posted earlier today.

This is my first post to MetaTalk and I don't know if it's kosher (so feel to delete if it's not), but I just wanted to point to this comment in the question I posted earlier today on some sleep problems I'm having with my 16-month-old. It's so good that I'd like to make sure more people see it - more than just those who've chosen to read the thread. It was incredibly generous and probably time consuming to put together. It could help any parent with a baby/toddler/younger child. Thank you, peagod.
posted by kitcat to MetaFilter-Related at 8:17 PM (36 comments total) 4 users marked this as a favorite

Perhaps a comment form email to the mods suggesting it be added to the sidebar would be more appropriate?
posted by hippybear at 8:20 PM on January 12, 2012

The occasional "thanks so much I am in a jam and this was super helpful" MeTa thread is just fine. peagood is a treasure.
posted by jessamyn (staff) at 8:22 PM on January 12, 2012 [7 favorites]

I disagree, I think this is an ideal use of metatalk. Thanks OP!
posted by Potomac Avenue at 8:23 PM on January 12, 2012 [1 favorite]

And no nobody knows who I'm disagreeing with. Thanks based god!
posted by Potomac Avenue at 8:24 PM on January 12, 2012 [2 favorites]

Ugh, this is why we can't have nice things.
posted by babby╩╝); Drop table users; -- at 8:27 PM on January 12, 2012

oh, um, this wasn't a callout. Carry on.
posted by babby╩╝); Drop table users; -- at 8:28 PM on January 12, 2012

posted by cortex (staff) at 8:44 PM on January 12, 2012 [9 favorites]



they want to be up where the people are
posted by Snarl Furillo at 8:57 PM on January 12, 2012 [18 favorites]

Wow, that's a hell of an answer.

I want to have a baby so peagood can tell me how to raise it.
posted by no regrets, coyote at 8:58 PM on January 12, 2012 [9 favorites]

peagod indeed.
posted by Mizu at 9:00 PM on January 12, 2012 [1 favorite]

Also, yay for good AskMe answers and parents of all kinds getting more sleep!

My name is Snarl Furillo and I approve this instance of community building and helping others!
posted by Snarl Furillo at 9:01 PM on January 12, 2012

Favorited for when I have kid(s). Terrific.

(yes, both senses)
posted by the man of twists and turns at 9:01 PM on January 12, 2012

You are getting sleeeepy.... sleeeeeeeeeepyyyyyyy.... Okay. Maybe it's just me.
posted by It's Raining Florence Henderson at 9:12 PM on January 12, 2012

Peagood gives awesome answers. Always.
posted by SLC Mom at 9:17 PM on January 12, 2012

Favourited because I have a feeling it'll help me regulate my sleeping schedule, too.

(Starting to wonder whether my body operates on a 25-hour-cycle, the fucker.)
posted by Phire at 9:20 PM on January 12, 2012

Wow, that is quite a comprehensive answer. Unfortunately all my nieces and nephews are past that stage so I have no one to send it off to.
posted by Tell Me No Lies at 9:37 PM on January 12, 2012

I'm outraged
posted by philip-random at 12:16 AM on January 13, 2012



I'm going to send that comment to my siblings with young children.
posted by Infinite Jest at 12:22 AM on January 13, 2012

What's a sleeping schedule? Is whiskey involved?
posted by maudlin at 12:36 AM on January 13, 2012

Whiskey for babies that is so BAD. (I hear it works.)
posted by longsleeves at 12:42 AM on January 13, 2012

posted by Meatbomb at 3:07 AM on January 13, 2012 [1 favorite]

I don't believe I've ever seen a more diplomatic and compassionate stream of advice to a parent.

I read this thread as it was happening, curious about what peagood might put together. When that answer was finally posted, it was so amazing that I read it out to my daughter's dad so he could join me in appreciating the brilliant advice and kind delivery.

kitkat, you should be commended, too, for your honesty and openness in the interest of getting the best answer. Really helpful. I know it can feel weird to monitor a thread so intently and provide so much extra info, but you provided a service to many of us with your participation in your question's answering. Thanks for asking it!
posted by batmonkey at 4:26 AM on January 13, 2012

Yeah, not only is peagood's answer really, really great, but the whole thread is great, including your participation, kitcat. Maybe I haven't been paying attention (well, honestly, I don't read AskMe much at all), but that thread has a remarkable absence of mommy drive-bys. Far too often, when a parent has a parenting question, and especially about sleep, people get all judgmental and stuff. The people in that thread who had anything at all like criticism, presented it completely constructively and diplomatically, in a non-judgmental way.
posted by Ivan Fyodorovich at 6:00 AM on January 13, 2012 [1 favorite]

I remember peagood answering a similar question before (it might have been sidebarred even), and it's awesome we have someone who has so much research knowledge.
posted by EndsOfInvention at 6:20 AM on January 13, 2012

Maybe I haven't been paying attention (well, honestly, I don't read AskMe much at all), but that thread has a remarkable absence of mommy drive-bys.

Yeah, there used to be a time when such behavior could be expected, but lately parenting threads have been generally a lot nicer. Gold stars all around, for those who answer nicely and for those who keep their judgmental answers to themselves.
posted by ThePinkSuperhero at 6:32 AM on January 13, 2012 [7 favorites]

I would like peagood to come fix my sleepless six-month-old now. :)
posted by Eyebrows McGee at 6:33 AM on January 13, 2012

Metatalk callouts for excellent answers in AskMeFi are only allowed for Peagood.
posted by alms at 6:37 AM on January 13, 2012

There are many people on this site I yearn to hug. peagod is definitely one of them.
posted by tr33hggr at 6:55 AM on January 13, 2012


posted by schmod at 7:06 AM on January 13, 2012 [2 favorites]

Thank you all. I woke up to this, and got all teary. I thought about what to say while shoveling this morning, and it can't not be a mess, because it's left me all over the place. But mostly, thanks, thanks. This is quite a thing.

This is what you all get because once upon a time I read all there was to read, and I love to feel useful.

I'm no expert. The author I've worked for never says she is a "parenting expert" - she is a "parenting author". She is a master at reading and disseminating all the information she can find, and I have learned so much from her. You could say she is the "Mother of All..." that I've learned. I am just using everything I've read for her, and everything she led me to read, and everything she writes about still, and putting it together with some perception (which has been a part of every job I've ever had). It all came about because my kid was not an easy kid, and I tend to hyperfocus, research and resource when I encounter a problem - and I had lots of sleepless hours to do it in.

Kitcat provided all the clues, especially because location was a huge factor; and each answer before mine reminded me of something to go off and check before coming back. That support was what helped make it happen.

I apologize for how disjointed it is - I'm on some meds that are making me a bit stupid, but at any rate, I need to remember to compose something of that length elsewhere and take more time to edit, especially if I'm going to write conversationally.

As heady as this is, I have feet of clay and a husband with better sleep habits than I have. I have sleep paralysis and associated hypnagogic and hypnopompic experiences, and have never slept well and have always read up on sleep because of that. My daughter holds the title of "the Least Morning Person Ever" and the "Aha!" came from how she was behaving yesterday because a very rainy day meant all indoor recesses at school, a rather inactive play date elsewhere with lots of sweets after school there (which is why I had time for the missive), a slightly stodgy dinner, and then she wasn't appropriately tired at the end of the day. Tweaking a little of each of those things would have meant she was asleep by 9 instead of wandering downstairs because she "thought she heard me having a pomegranate" at 10:30, but you can't go back in time, and every day is a chance to start fresh.

I wish you all the comfort and beautiful welling-up emotions inside such as I feel today, and good sleep. There is nothing in the world like it.
posted by peagood at 7:30 AM on January 13, 2012 [12 favorites]

Did the answer mention rum? Mine would have.
posted by cjorgensen at 7:54 AM on January 13, 2012

There's always the "Fantastic" flag.
posted by ArgentCorvid at 8:15 AM on January 13, 2012

Increased hug levels tickle my general lifebuzz.
posted by mintcake! at 8:49 AM on January 13, 2012 [2 favorites]

Gosh, if that's true about daycare centers, I'm glad I have my kids where I do! My day care does not work like that.
posted by zizzle at 10:42 AM on January 13, 2012

Peagood IS a treasure. What a wonderful, comprehensive answer. I admire the time and effort spent to ensure she provided the most supportive and practical advice for parents I've seen in a long time. Yay!

posted by misha at 9:26 AM on January 17, 2012

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