Let's please not call people c**ksuckers.
posted by Drexen to Etiquette/Policy at 5:07 PM (488 comments total)
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about a litigious darts player quotes an affected board-member as calling the subject a "cocksucker".
and then this comment
repeated and endorsed the insult, and when people pointed out that this isn't really okay, Hoopo dismissed the concern with this comment
Cocksucker is a pretty hateful word to use; it hurts people other than the intended recipient. Like faggot, bitch and slut it implies that the subject is bad, despicable, disgusting, and contemptible by comparing them women and gay people, even if the subject isn't one of those. This is a technique that, in history and the present day, is used to marginalise and degrade these groups. It is different from a more generic but still forceful insult like asshole, dick, motherfucker etc., because those aren't terms that were, and are still used as hatespeech. I don't care about Zaffina's feelings, but I do care about those of people who want to participate in the discussion without being inherently put down by the language being used.
I have no problem with the article reflecting the language that the interviewees actually used. The article doesn't endorse the use of "cocksucker," it merely reports it. But on Metafilter, which is supposed to be a respectful, mature and accomodating space for discussion, I don't think it's appropriate to deliberately use it against other people, even if they're not in the thread.