metafilter dating media

October 3, 2012 11:33 PM

Apparently Metafilter one way to "organic[ally] meet people online.. and maybe further adventures in dating", according to the Time Out Melbourne DIY Internet Dating article on alternative ways to find people to date.
posted by AnnaRat to MetaFilter-Related at 11:33 PM (83 comments total)

..."Metafilter IS..."
posted by AnnaRat at 11:35 PM on October 3, 2012

Well, there is that one Melbourne-based mefi-originated couple - though I didn't know either of them wrote for time-out.
posted by pompomtom at 12:03 AM on October 4, 2012

I think it's pretty funny since I only know of one Melbourne based mefi couple, so it's not like its a mainstream dating hotbed in the city!
posted by jonathanstrange at 12:55 AM on October 4, 2012

holly who? I don't remember a holly ever coming to a Melbourne meetup.
posted by russm at 12:58 AM on October 4, 2012

Metafilter: hours of late-night trawling through unsuitable profiles with a goon box
posted by mannequito at 1:03 AM on October 4, 2012 [4 favorites]

Interesting that it doesn't mention AskMeFi, since that's the most visible part of the site.
posted by Kevin Street at 1:24 AM on October 4, 2012

Considering all the people who got into MetaFilter because they started dating a MeFite, I think it's more accurate to describe MetaFilter as a sexually transmitted disease. In the good sense.
posted by Kattullus at 1:43 AM on October 4, 2012 [22 favorites]

Metafilter: meet my organ down under.
posted by MuffinMan at 1:53 AM on October 4, 2012 [1 favorite]

Hey, what do you know--this works: http://dates.metafilter.com.
posted by Monsieur Caution at 2:19 AM on October 4, 2012

Yeah, but all http://foo.metafilter.com is aliased to plain old metafilter.
posted by MartinWisse at 2:25 AM on October 4, 2012

In the good sense.

Spoken like a disease vector.
posted by GenjiandProust at 2:41 AM on October 4, 2012 [2 favorites]

Chew the fat with them?
Aren't we all on a diet (so we can drink more goon Nikov)?
posted by Mezentian at 3:28 AM on October 4, 2012

No one has ever propositioned me on Metafilter. What's wrong with you people? I'm not a hideous monster!

I'm not, right? Tell me I'm pretty. Please?
posted by His thoughts were red thoughts at 3:53 AM on October 4, 2012 [7 favorites]

Le sigh. What happened to traditional forms of dating? Such as eHarmony, Match, or the librarians choice, OkCupid? Or even woo-ing through even older methods, such as letters, the telephone, or in my case being sent a box of assorted cheeses (it worked)?
posted by Wordshore at 3:59 AM on October 4, 2012 [1 favorite]

I only date local, organic, and sustainable.
posted by The Whelk at 5:15 AM on October 4, 2012 [1 favorite]

Since joining metafilter, my love life has consisted of 80% nothing and 20% rejection. Is this part of the adventure or am I doing metafilter wrong?
posted by prefpara at 5:16 AM on October 4, 2012 [6 favorites]

I'd say your're not doing MetaFilter at all, prefpara.
posted by asterix at 5:26 AM on October 4, 2012 [2 favorites]

MeFi has all the smart babes. As Hank Rollins said, "I want me one-a them 'readers.'"
posted by Eideteker at 5:43 AM on October 4, 2012 [1 favorite]

It is a good way to meet people who have girlfriends; sometimes they even mention them.
posted by the young rope-rider at 5:46 AM on October 4, 2012 [4 favorites]

Because Metafilter needs more horny, lonely Aussies.
posted by crunchland at 5:49 AM on October 4, 2012 [1 favorite]

Can they join before the next Sydney meetup?
posted by His thoughts were red thoughts at 6:00 AM on October 4, 2012

Those damn Melburnians grope me every time I go down there!
posted by gomichild at 6:14 AM on October 4, 2012 [2 favorites]

I like long walks on the beach, sunsets, and sex involving Saran wrap and track cleats.

That's how we do this, right?
posted by Ghidorah at 6:18 AM on October 4, 2012

Well, how else would we do it?

I have off-brand Saran wrap. There's an overnight flight out of Narita that can get you here in about 8 hours. Bring cleats.
posted by His thoughts were red thoughts at 6:22 AM on October 4, 2012 [2 favorites]

Also they try to get you drunk.

And go to brunch.
posted by gomichild at 6:26 AM on October 4, 2012 [2 favorites]

Metafilter: free as in syphilis
posted by iotic at 6:26 AM on October 4, 2012 [1 favorite]

I think this site is a great way to meet people. That's why it's called "matefilter", because Australians often use it to find and make good mates. The only drawback for Aussies is that the place was set up by Americans, who spell "mate" in a funny, American way. But apart from that one spelling error, matefilter is great, and so are its subsites like mate-talk where we all get drunk and say, I FUCKEN LOVE YOUSE MATE. I FUCKEN LOVE YOUSE AND I FUCKEN DON'T FUCKEN CARE WHO KNOWS IT YOUSE ARE FUCKEN BONZA *BURP* FUCKEN HELL I'M PISSED AY. And that is why I am always drunk when I comment here.
posted by the quidnunc kid at 6:29 AM on October 4, 2012 [19 favorites]

I dig those crazy metalunians
posted by The Whelk at 6:30 AM on October 4, 2012

When is the next Sydney Meetup?

We'll be up in Sydney before the end of the year and I'll be posting an IRL at a time closer, but do Sydney people have regular thingies?
posted by goshling at 6:38 AM on October 4, 2012

The Whelk: I dig those crazy metalunians

Can you get MeFi formatted for easy reading on your interocitor?
posted by Rock Steady at 6:40 AM on October 4, 2012 [1 favorite]

do Sydney people have regular thingies?

or are they more turnip-shaped?
posted by russm at 6:40 AM on October 4, 2012 [10 favorites]

I have seen the drunkard quidnunc kid. Dear soul, pay heed to his words, garbled as they may be.
posted by gomichild at 6:42 AM on October 4, 2012 [1 favorite]

"...please email picture of ute."
posted by Slap*Happy at 6:47 AM on October 4, 2012 [1 favorite]

I saw gomichild many years ago, when she was only a gomizygote, and I was but the quidnunc blastocyst. Good times.
posted by the quidnunc kid at 6:50 AM on October 4, 2012 [2 favorites]

Slap*Happy - Utezilla
posted by russm at 6:55 AM on October 4, 2012 [1 favorite]

I grabbed gomi's bum in Adelaide while we had a cuddle. It was a calculated gesture to make people on the internets jealous of me.

It worked, too.
posted by Wolof at 6:56 AM on October 4, 2012 [2 favorites]

Gomi was predictably gracious about it.
posted by Wolof at 6:57 AM on October 4, 2012 [2 favorites]

I have only had a drunken foursome with goshling, gomichild and russm, but I wasn't drunk and they were 10,453 miles away (according to Find my Friends) and it was a video chat. *sigh*
posted by terrapin at 7:02 AM on October 4, 2012 [3 favorites]

I have rarely been groped with such finesse mind you.
posted by gomichild at 7:07 AM on October 4, 2012 [2 favorites]

You told me you didn't want finesse.
posted by Eideteker at 7:13 AM on October 4, 2012 [2 favorites]

Considering all the people who got into MetaFilter because they started dating a MeFite, I think it's more accurate to describe MetaFilter as a sexually transmitted disease. In the good sense.

Does that mean that when I date from now on, I need to disclose?

"Look, I really like you a lot, but before we go any further, there's something I need to tell you. I'm Metafilter-positive. Now, if we're both careful, and make sure we take precautions to limit your exposure, it's likely that you'll never catch MetaFilter yourself... but there's always a small risk, and I just felt you deserved to know."
posted by wolfdreams01 at 7:19 AM on October 4, 2012 [3 favorites]

So i guess it's clear that gomichild & I have been outed as the only Melbourne Mefi couple.
SO MUCH FOR PRIVACY. YOU BASTARDS.
posted by goshling at 7:23 AM on October 4, 2012 [3 favorites]

Metafilter: Australian for sex.
posted by octobersurprise at 7:26 AM on October 4, 2012 [6 favorites]

Does that mean that when I date from now on, I need to disclose?

You're a better man than I. Generally, I just register an account for them while they're asleep and scrawl the username and password on their bathroom mirror with lipstick before sneaking out like a thief in the night.
posted by griphus at 7:27 AM on October 4, 2012 [11 favorites]

Also, yeah, I don't think the author of this article has done any first hand research. I'm guessing she is a lurker or stumbled across threads relating to MeFi romances & localised it for this article. There's many other cities with much larger active Mefi populations full of single people. While we'd love to have new folks along to Melbourne meetups, anyone rocking up hoping to meet lots of available singles might be rather disappointed.
posted by goshling at 7:28 AM on October 4, 2012 [1 favorite]

Mind you I'd be so amused if we post our next meet up details & we get 20 hot new folk arrive and all hook up with each other while the rest of us wonder wtf.
posted by goshling at 7:31 AM on October 4, 2012 [9 favorites]

Reddit meetings are straight up orgies.
posted by Artw at 7:38 AM on October 4, 2012

HUNDREDS OF AVAILABLE SINGLES ARE MASSING AT EVERY ENTRANCE TO YOUR HOME
posted by The Whelk at 7:39 AM on October 4, 2012 [5 favorites]

I wouldn't want to join any subreddit that would have an orgy with me as a member.
posted by griphus at 7:41 AM on October 4, 2012 [2 favorites]

Considering most of the local Mefites saw me drink beer off of a bar floor I'd say that I should avoid Metafilter for my dating needs.
posted by Loto at 7:42 AM on October 4, 2012 [1 favorite]

Goshling is an awesome kisser btw.
posted by gomichild at 7:55 AM on October 4, 2012 [3 favorites]

I have met people here!
posted by jessamyn (staff) at 7:57 AM on October 4, 2012 [1 favorite]

I can honestly say I'm less frightened by the prospect of meeting people from MeFi than any of the other sites I belong to.
posted by tommasz at 7:59 AM on October 4, 2012 [1 favorite]

I hear it's real easy to pick up a spouse here.
posted by k5.user at 7:59 AM on October 4, 2012 [1 favorite]

Thats what they all say.....


before.
posted by The Whelk at 8:00 AM on October 4, 2012

/r/programming is the best suborgy.
posted by Artw at 8:01 AM on October 4, 2012

"/r/programming" is an anagram of "Gang Rim Mr. Pro"

There are no such things as coincidences.
posted by griphus at 8:14 AM on October 4, 2012 [3 favorites]

Just don't invite the snobby weirdos from /r/lisp.
posted by Artw at 8:16 AM on October 4, 2012

I'm getting a bit toey, sure.
posted by h00py at 8:19 AM on October 4, 2012

MetaFilter is where I recruit for my harem.
posted by jph at 8:28 AM on October 4, 2012

I am a thread killer though so not much chance of a root, probably.
posted by h00py at 8:28 AM on October 4, 2012

I've gotten a few marriage proposals through MeFi. Does that count?
posted by orange swan at 9:15 AM on October 4, 2012

further adventures in dating

You see a thread on the page, do you:

[] read it
[] comment
[] read it and then comment
[] make popcorn
[] turn up with saran wrap
posted by arcticseal at 9:23 AM on October 4, 2012

So will we be issued fedoras or should I buy my own?
posted by LordSludge at 10:24 AM on October 4, 2012 [1 favorite]

Dating through MetaFilter is like performing The Human Firework. The results can be spectacular, but you can only do it once.

(well, most people)
posted by Eideteker at 10:41 AM on October 4, 2012

So will we be issued fedoras or should I buy my own?

You get one free with the purchase of any of our banjos.
posted by Rodrigo Lamaitre at 11:05 AM on October 4, 2012 [1 favorite]

If you don't purchase a banjo, you get two.
posted by griphus at 11:14 AM on October 4, 2012 [1 favorite]

I am frightened and confused. And slightly aroused.
posted by LordSludge at 11:16 AM on October 4, 2012

However, if you repurpose your fedora as a take-out container for MeFi-certified organic beans (pre-sorted to remove @, #, and other inedible cruft), you get a 10% discount on your membership to the MeFi Comment Co-op.

Your shift's on the third Friday from 9pm to 3am GMT-2. If you can't make it, you're responsible for getting someone else to cover for you.
posted by catlet at 11:44 AM on October 4, 2012

I slept with a MeFite just last night!

So hawt.
posted by BitterOldPunk at 12:21 PM on October 4, 2012 [1 favorite]

Another feather in the fedora of my business proposal...
posted by quiet coyote at 2:03 PM on October 4, 2012

No one has ever propositioned me on Metafilter. What's wrong with you people? I'm not a hideous monster!

Ummm, your username would kind of belie that... Send me a banjo - anonymously - and I'll think about it. No mandolins!
posted by smoke at 3:36 PM on October 4, 2012

Now I'm wondering if it's safe to go to Melbourne next week.
posted by dg at 5:07 PM on October 4, 2012

When is the next Sydney Meetup?

We'll be up in Sydney before the end of the year and I'll be posting an IRL at a time closer, but do Sydney people have regular thingies?

We haven't done regular things before, but we're overdue for a meetup. When will you be here?

There have been claims made that you're an 'awesome kisser', so you gots a rep to protect. Bring your A game.
posted by His thoughts were red thoughts at 5:21 PM on October 4, 2012

Do it, dg. And make them take you to Rockwell&Sons, and eat the pulled rib sammich, and drink the aptly-named beer "Perverse Sexual Amalgam". Highly recommended.
posted by coriolisdave at 6:39 PM on October 4, 2012

You all are doing it wrong. I sleep with my phone browser turned to long MeFi threads in my bed.
posted by the cydonian at 10:49 PM on October 4, 2012 [1 favorite]

Where the hell else am I going to get ten spouses?
posted by Pallas Athena at 3:55 AM on October 5, 2012

We'll be in Sydney around last week of November/early December.
posted by goshling at 5:37 PM on October 5, 2012 [1 favorite]

No shit? I'll be in Sydney then too!
posted by jonathanstrange at 8:24 PM on October 5, 2012

Dg: I'm up for a meetup when you're in town, if you want! Post an IRL. Mind, I AM married, though! ;)
posted by jonathanstrange at 8:27 PM on October 5, 2012 [1 favorite]

I keep putting Nice Tokens into Metafilter, but no sex comes out.
posted by flaterik at 11:01 PM on October 5, 2012

Unfortunately, I'm pretty well tied up with work stuff while there, jonathanstrange. I'm in town from time to time, so maybe next trip.
posted by dg at 1:58 AM on October 6, 2012

I have a crush on lots of you.
posted by whalebreath at 3:31 PM on October 6, 2012 [1 favorite]