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What a difference a year makes.

August 2011, snow_mac posts about being socially awkward around women and looks for some dating tips and ideas.

August 2012, snow_mac updates, opening with "Advice to those reading (I'm now engaged)"

Congrats, snow_mac. I'm assuming all of us who answered get invited and the best answers are in the wedding party?
posted by phearlez to MetaFilter-Related at 1:44 PM (60 comments total) 10 users marked this as a favorite

He got engaged six months after that question, wow! Congrats snow_mac!
posted by amro at 1:48 PM on August 13, 2012


See, if we had that three minute edit window you'd know he meant to say he was now enraged.
posted by bondcliff at 1:52 PM on August 13, 2012 [18 favorites]


To be fair, his step 2 is really the key component that helps smooth over awkwardness.
posted by Burhanistan at 1:56 PM on August 13, 2012 [1 favorite]


Hurray!
posted by ThePinkSuperhero at 2:10 PM on August 13, 2012


Mazel tov!
posted by BibiRose at 2:11 PM on August 13, 2012


1. Don't be weird or crazy

I'm pretty sure that failing that piece of advice has lead directly to my long and happy marriage.

But, yeah - congrats!
posted by It's Raining Florence Henderson at 2:12 PM on August 13, 2012 [9 favorites]


Now we could get a decent dating service off the ground we could pull in the big bucks.
posted by The Whelk at 2:16 PM on August 13, 2012 [4 favorites]


YAY!!!
posted by idest at 2:23 PM on August 13, 2012


If we're talking super cute marriage stuff: this thread has gingerbeer and rtha answering the same question in the same room from different laptops.
posted by Greg Nog at 2:28 PM on August 13, 2012 [15 favorites]


Yay! Congratulations!

Uh... does snow_mac know you posted this? :)

The Whelk: "Now we could get a decent dating service off the ground we could pull in the big bucks."

DateMe: Best of the Web
posted by zarq at 2:29 PM on August 13, 2012


asl.metafilter.com
posted by snorkmaiden at 2:39 PM on August 13, 2012 [15 favorites]


Good work!
posted by OmieWise at 2:39 PM on August 13, 2012


Awww, that warms the cockles of my cheesy little heart. Congrats, snow_mac!
posted by DingoMutt at 2:46 PM on August 13, 2012


Mazel tov!
posted by Sidhedevil at 2:58 PM on August 13, 2012 [1 favorite]


Seems awful quick.
posted by jjjjjjjijjjjjjj at 3:20 PM on August 13, 2012


Quick and young and hopefully happy forever...!
posted by skrozidile at 3:23 PM on August 13, 2012


1. "I use the internet to find romantic interests and that hasn't turned out well; I've met only the crazy ones"
2. ?????
3. "use online dating."
posted by headnsouth at 3:25 PM on August 13, 2012


> gingerbeer and rtha answering the same question in the same room from different laptops.

Heh. We crack ourselves up, we do. She also had a cat on her, though I was catless at that moment. And is it terribly petty of me that I'm sad neither of us got a best answer checkmark? I love best answer checkmarks! And so does gingerbeer!
posted by rtha at 3:38 PM on August 13, 2012 [3 favorites]


I like to think that your home life is long stretches of silence punctuated by one of you shouting "BIRD QUESTION" and then furious simultaneous typing

(also requesting pic of cat)
posted by Greg Nog at 3:42 PM on August 13, 2012 [36 favorites]


Seems awful quick.

A year ...?
posted by carter at 3:43 PM on August 13, 2012




I pefer to think of it like a huge buzzer goes off and then rtha and gingerbeer race to THE BIRD CAVE.
posted by The Whelk at 3:58 PM on August 13, 2012 [3 favorites]


rtha, I would have thought that cats used laptops to look at pictures of hoominz.
posted by madcaptenor at 3:59 PM on August 13, 2012


> I pefer to think of it like a huge buzzer goes off and then rtha and gingerbeer race to THE BIRD CAVE.

Well, we call it The Eyrie. I can't say more.

Yorvit's favorite things to look at on the laptop are skateboarders and parkour-ers.
posted by rtha at 4:01 PM on August 13, 2012 [3 favorites]


> Seems awful quick.
> A year ...?
A little less than 6 months from "need advice on how to talk to women" to engagement.

Though I've certainly witnessed more than a few strong and satisfying relationships with a similarly short courtship; so let me add my voice to those wishing the couple health and happiness.
posted by jjjjjjjijjjjjjj at 4:23 PM on August 13, 2012


Hooray! More happy people!
posted by rmd1023 at 4:27 PM on August 13, 2012


w00t! Best wishes, snow_mac!
posted by smirkette at 5:40 PM on August 13, 2012




Here, Yorvit contemplates his favorite website.

And now I will stop hijacking the thread with cat photos.
posted by gingerbeer at 6:22 PM on August 13, 2012


I was confronted by three cats today. It was an alleyway near the river and one cat started to follow me and chirped friendfully, so I knelt down to pet him. Suddently two other cats appeared, mewing and shoving thier faces into my hand. I tried to do some kind of awkward three way scratches thing but it was too much, I couldn't take that much cat. I had to leave the purring trio, who quickly forgot about me and attached themselves to my SO who was following about six blocks behind me.

Cats man.
posted by The Whelk at 6:27 PM on August 13, 2012 [2 favorites]


cats are, like, what's even their deal
posted by cortex (staff) at 6:36 PM on August 13, 2012 [2 favorites]


i got 99 problems and they are all cats
posted by Potomac Avenue at 7:23 PM on August 13, 2012 [21 favorites]


99 cats, calling the Human Centipede.
posted by arcticseal at 7:30 PM on August 13, 2012


cats are, like, what's even their deal

I don't know, 'Tex, but I do know we're in serious trouble.
posted by stebulus at 7:32 PM on August 13, 2012


It's Raining Florence Henderson: "1. Don't be weird or crazy

I'm pretty sure that failing that piece of advice has lead directly to my long and happy marriage.

But, yeah - congrats!
"

I married a teacher of young children and quoted Eureka's Castle at her to let her know that she'd be able to meet me for lunch. Not only did she get it, she thought it was funny.

I mean, really, normal people are boring.
posted by theichibun at 8:16 PM on August 13, 2012 [3 favorites]


Wait, rtha and gingerbeer are attached?

Well, damn! Now my interest in meeting each of them separately has somehow cubed itself if I could meet them both together.

Someday it will happen.
posted by hippybear at 10:39 PM on August 13, 2012 [2 favorites]


Until we're reassured that user snow_mac is on-board with this public advertisement/discussion of his impending nuptials, I'm a bit squicked by this whole thing.

Absent his/her expressed endorsement this entire conversation is a bit weird; and my earlier comments (which I regret in hindsight) don't help.

Do we know for sure that s/he wanted or would welcome this attention? Metafilter is a great and supportive community; but not all things that happen here were imagined/asked as though they would be one day be fodder for public discussion.
posted by jjjjjjjijjjjjjj at 10:43 PM on August 13, 2012


Shh, that's just a cover. We're not really talking about snow_mac, we're talking about CATS. But its seekrit.
posted by a humble nudibranch at 10:49 PM on August 13, 2012


Fuck cats. Make a thread about cats if you'd like to talk about cats.

MetaTalk circlejerk non sequitur obscurantism isn't nearly as precious as its practitioners seem to imagine.
posted by jjjjjjjijjjjjjj at 11:16 PM on August 13, 2012


[Also: here is my cat. But don't talk about it.]
posted by jjjjjjjijjjjjjj at 11:30 PM on August 13, 2012


[Aww! FUZZY KITTY BELLY!]
posted by rmd1023 at 12:07 AM on August 14, 2012


Presumably he wouldn't have posted his own "public advertisement" as a follow-up to the thread if he wanted to keep things on the DL?
posted by catch as catch can at 3:17 AM on August 14, 2012


An update at the end of a year-old AskMe thread doesn't get anywhere near the number of eyeballs that a MeTa thread does. And in all but the absolute rarest cases, updating a year old thread does not produce any additional discussion.
posted by jjjjjjjijjjjjjj at 7:15 AM on August 14, 2012


I get your note of caution, jjjjjjjijjjjjjj, but, honestly, we're a lot more concerned about the ramifications of a Metatalk pointing to an askme and saying LOOK HOW TERRIBLE THIS PERSON IS or LOOK AT THIS CRAZY SHIT than we are about one saying HEY LOOK A HAPPY NEWS UPDATE. The difference in relative chances of shitty drama in the former vs. latter case is pretty huge, which has pretty much been borne out here.

That said, dropping snow_mac a quick mefimail if you want to make sure he knows this is here is always a decent option.
posted by cortex (staff) at 7:44 AM on August 14, 2012


I have recent activity. I long for updates to long forgotten questions, posts, etc.
posted by h00py at 8:07 AM on August 14, 2012 [1 favorite]



Now we could get a decent dating service off the ground we could pull in the big bucks.


DateMe. Except, that sounds kind of desperate...
posted by asnider at 8:30 AM on August 14, 2012


Err...on preview, The Whelk beat me to it.
posted by asnider at 8:30 AM on August 14, 2012


"1. Don't be weird or crazy"

Oh, right, like it's a switch I can just turn off.

foreveralone.png
posted by Eideteker at 10:20 AM on August 14, 2012 [5 favorites]


jjjjjjjijjjjjjj is posting NSFW feline recreations of Playboy model poses online.

You are all warned.
posted by hippybear at 9:47 PM on August 14, 2012


Don't be weird and/or crazy?!

OHHHHHHH! It's all so clear now!

damn.
posted by batmonkey at 9:17 AM on August 15, 2012


I was confronted by three cats today. It was an alleyway near the river and one cat started to follow me and chirped friendfully, so I knelt down to pet him.

And that's when the attack comes. Not from the front, but from the side, from the other two raptors cats you didn't even know were there. ... The point is… you are alive when they start to eat you...
posted by MsMolly at 11:44 AM on August 15, 2012 [1 favorite]


How did you even notice he updated to make this post?
posted by Evilspork at 1:52 PM on August 21, 2012


Recent Activity, presumably. phearlez was one of the folks who answered the question.
posted by cortex (staff) at 2:03 PM on August 21, 2012


Yep, that's how. I saw it in my recents, was thrilled for him and thought it was a fun Ask success story.

I'm kinda gobsmacked by the suggestion that this might at all be unwelcome given that it's nothing more than a relaying of what snow_mac posted himself. I guess it's not a metatalk threat without some sturm und drang.
posted by phearlez at 4:17 PM on August 21, 2012


Yeah, but... I usually remove posts after about a week or so of no comments. Do people leave sometimes leave questions there for the full year they're open?
posted by Evilspork at 2:28 PM on August 22, 2012


Totally, yeah. I only remove threads I actively want to stop reading; threads that die down don't by definition clog up my RA. And late breaking updates are interesting!
posted by cortex (staff) at 2:41 PM on August 22, 2012


Oh look, there's a remove from activity option. Huh. I always just let time accomplish that for me.
posted by phearlez at 2:47 PM on August 22, 2012


Do people leave sometimes leave questions there for the full year they're open?

Sure, why not? If there's no activity in a thread, it doesn't pop back up to the top and I forget about it until/unless there's an update and it does pop back to the top.
posted by Lexica at 4:41 PM on August 22, 2012


Yeah, I just let time do it. Unless I'm intentionally trying to avoid a thread for some reason. (Usually either "I've added my $0.02 to answer it but am not interested in followup/digressions" (usually factual questions) or "I really need to take a break from this thread." (usually contentious threads where I'm frothing too much and need to chill))
posted by rmd1023 at 4:50 PM on August 22, 2012


Sorry, I don't mean to sound contentious or like I'm complaining, I'm just a curious neat freak.
posted by Evilspork at 7:09 PM on August 22, 2012


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