Caitlyn Gibson's Washington Post article "Hereafter" discusses two couples who decided to have children despite a cancer diagnosis. The author mentions MeFi here:
Buried in the digital archives of MetaFilter, an online message board that predated Reddit, is a question posed by an anonymous husband in 2010; he explained that his wife had been treated for an aggressive brain tumor, but they desperately wanted to be parents, and he wondered whether having a child was a wise or ethical choice. Hundreds* of replies unspooled below his post, passionately voicing every imaginable viewpoint:*"Hundreds" being eighty-eight, but who's counting?
“You’re in for a world of trouble if you do it. But it may be the thing that you need to do.”
“Having lost a mother to cancer ... I do think it is selfish to knowingly bring a child into the world knowing full well that the child will have to watch one of its parents die, and then grow up without them.”
“As someone whose father died when I was eight, I think you should do it.”
So I’ve posted a few things lately only to discover that the bulk of the answers do not meet my needs and I start to wonder if it was worth using up one of my limited questions on that topic, or whether I should just be expressing myself differently for better results. To me AskMetaFilter is a good way of thinking through a difficult issue or helping me to feel better when I’m feeling bad. [more inside]
Today I posted an AskMe question. So far, half of the suggestions have been deleted as noise. The mods probably did the best job they could of cleaning this mess up, but I wonder if this could be a good opportunity to reflect as a community on how we might be able to lower the frequency of answers that did not meet the criteria laid out in the question.
Should legal AskMe's be banned? [more inside]
I'm looking for a post in AskMetafilter that happened within the last year or so, I'm pretty sure. The poster had moved recently to somewhere in Canada or the northern U.S. from elsewhere in North America and was dismayed to find that people there seemed to only talk about themselves and never ask questions of others. The post got lots of replies and the consensus seemed to be that it was a cultural difference within certain areas in North America regarding whether it was considered polite to ask questions when meeting someone new. Anybody remember this one? I've tried searching for all the terms I could think of.
We had a discussion earlier this year about allowing two Ask MetaFilter questions per week, and I think it's worth a shot. Today we're rolling it out, and we'll see how it goes. [more inside]
Ask Metafilter, the internet's go-to source for sane, competent advice and information, reached its 300,000th question this week. (Previously, 200,000 and 100,000.)
Hello, I am fairly new to posting answers on Ask Metafilter. I have a general question which I hope is not foolish. I also hope that I am asking in the correct place (I checked the FAQ and also searched MetaTalk with possible keywords but am not sure). My question is: if many days have gone by since a question on Ask Metafilter was posted, or if a question has been marked as "resolved" by the Asker, is it okay to add your comment or is that considered rude (since the question was resolved or the question has become outdated)? I assume it would help members who are catching up after some time has passed, as well as non-members who are Googling for help with similar issues, but I am not sure what the community protocol is and do not want to offend. I am also asking this because I do not come online regularly, and often when I log on I see quite interesting questions that I would like to respond to, however several days have gone by or it has been marked as resolved. Thank you for all your help :)
I'm curious. What motivates people to give advice on job interview questions? I saw a recent question where the asker was looking for specific ideas to help them deliver a killer presentation in order to land the job of their dreams. Surely, if your advice to the asker is helpful and causes the person to land the job, you're also crushing the dreams of the person who would otherwise have got it had you not helped the Mefite (someone who, perhaps, was going into the interview using all their own ideas, without help of the hive mind)? Is it just tribalism that we prefer the Mefite over the unseen non-Mefite?
How to delete your previous questions within metafilter or AskMeFi? If you can't delete, why not and do they stay online forever?
I've been noticing basically the same question posted repeatedly on AskMe, "Please recommend some comfy walking shoes for me." [more inside]
Saying "I have personal experience in this" doesn't invalidate or even contradict information given in ask. [more inside]
Perhaps the AskMetafilter question form should point out that the title of the post does not appear on the front page? [more inside]
Looking for an AskMetafilter comment that listed recommended questions the OP should think about for an upcoming doctor's appointment. [more inside]
I'm a prolific AskMe user, but I think I'm doing it wrong. [more inside]
Looking at the old questions really does help so much. [more inside]
AskMe post 200,000 happened today. It's just 20k shy of double the number of posts on Metafilter.
Why was the gen-x marriage thread closed? Maybe the OP didn't post perfectly and wanted to change something, but it was still a good discussion and the original post wasn't terrible.
The sidebar (see Apr 12) featured this post, in which someone's seemingly obscure question was answered in just six minutes. I think MY experience was even more amazing (as my question was more obscure), though it did take Gator an hour and ten minutes to cough up an answer. What are some other AskMe Astounding Stories of Snappy Answers to Obscure Questions?
A study in Q&A sites: Ask Metafilter's "Why do some people wear shoes indoors?" versus Quora's "Do real Americans wear shoes indoors as portrayed in sitcom TV shows?" and its follow-on "In which North American locales is it more common to take off one's shoes when entering a home? In which is it more prevalent to leave them on?" [more inside]
AskMe etiquette - What are the norms about showing appreciation of people for answering your questions?
AskMe etiquette - What are the norms about letting people who answer your question know that you are reading and appreciating their responses? [more inside]
In case you didn't know, a hilarious, amazing AskMe about a mysterious Christmas Letter has inspired a strange, oddly addictive song on MetaMusic. That is all.
Facebook has an open position for a Questions Community Manager. The text itself is pretty fascinating with superlatives like"anything you can dream up", "thousands of moderators" and "the full resources of Facebook at your disposal". I obviously thought about AskMe and Jessamyn, and she agreed it was an interesting Meta post. Knowing that communities start from the ground up, I am especially interested in thoughts about how such a gigantic operation can be handled, if it can at all. [more inside]
Is there anything comparable to AskMeFi for general questions, career-related questions or apartment-hunting questions? Or is there any way around the 1 AskMeFi question per week? [more inside]
I've been really enjoying "lifehack"-type AskMe posts lately - questions about how to change one's own habits to be better at day-to-day life situations and challenges (How do I become one of those people who makes everyone they talk to feel great? from Chrysalis is a good new one). What are some of your favorites? [more inside]
InfoDump Analysis Request. Who asks the most interesting questions in AskMe? [more inside]
Suggestion for community adoption of a particular AskMe tag? [more inside]
Forgive me if this was asked before (I searched the FAQ), but I see a lot of people asking questions in AskMeFi who have never commented. Why are the guidelines different from MetaFilter (where you have to comment a certain number of times before you post)? I understand that some people are lurkers and we want to be accepting of that, but it seems like a lot of the questions which break the guidelines could be avoided. Maybe I'm just a whiner?
FeatureRequest: AskMeFi question queue? [more inside]
Is a "To be asked" reminder list for AskMeFi in a user's profile worth considering? [more inside]
This post brought up a question for me. It isn't unusual for us to see AskMeFi questions posted by a member for a friend/spouse/workmate/whatever. How do we feel about that? Are we taking bread out of Matt's mouth when we use our account for someone who isn't willing to pony up the $5? And, does it feel different to help a non-member as opposed to one of our co-member-mefits? Not that I personally see it (as it happens now) as a huge issue, I was just curious as to the "how to manage an online community" philosophy bit of the question.
". . . We believe the bible to be the inspired word of God, and that it is wholly truthful and accurate." Can this AskMe question legitimately be answered? [more inside]
Anonymous questions [more inside]
I'm pretty sure that this has been asked before, but I can't find the post. So, what is the accepted etiquette for asking multi-part questions to AskMe? [more inside]
Many ask.metafilter questions don't have an "end" to the story. Which questions are you most curious about how they ended?
What makes an AskMe question get a lot of answers? [more inside]
How can I ask better questions? This is my first MetaTalk post, so just let me know if this is the wrong place or if it's somehow out of line. [more inside]
Pony request: can following all anonymous posts (or maybe, more widely, following a specific user) be integrated into MyAskMefi? [more inside]
I've just been noticing a recent pattern in Ask, which got me thinking about patterns in ask. Possibly NSFW. [more inside]
How can I answer Mefi questions more helpfully? [more inside]
Are these new fonts? [more inside]
People who choose to complain about a question instead of trying to answer it are bad enough as is, but it was so excessive for this question about porn that the question itself got deleted and I think that's really inappropriate. [more inside]
How about a question queue? [more inside]
From time to time, after asking a question in AskMefi, I get a great question but forget about it because of the waiting period. I'm not questioning this rule, but it would be nice to have the possibility to create a certain number of questions in advance, and put them in some sort of queue, so one will not forgot to ask some good question.
We're podcasting tomorrow and would love to get some questions beforehand. As always, call Call +1 (503) 487-0014 and leave a message. We'll play back the good ones on the show and answer them.
Viewer Mail time! For tomorrow's podcast, we're gonna take questions from members and answer them during the show. Call +1 (503) 487-0014 and record your question. We'll answer and play back the best questions we get for the next podcast.
This might be a better suggestion for the upcoming Travel site, but is it appropriate to suggest to people before they post looking for things to do in a new city, that they: A) Tell us as much about themselves as possible, B) Have perused all the previous threads relating to that city? (more inside)
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