In the recent thread
on the pitfalls of writing realistic LGBT characters, I stated
how I didn't feel the "predatory gay man" trope was completely out of line given how I had encountered such people in real life. Great nastiness ensued.
posted by dunkadunc to Etiquette/Policy at 10:57 AM (627 comments total)
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Ok. Here goes.
I used my real-life example to demonstrate that the fictional trope does have basis in real life, just like fictional straight
creeps do have some basis in real life. I then added the "of course there are lots of normal gay people, but jesus christ those cruising creeps aren't doing anyone favors"
because I knew that there are some people who would otherwise take my original statement about a few creeps as some sort of blanket statement, which it most definitely was not.
In the fireball that followed, I was repeatedly called a homophobe, my statement saying that those few creeps do not represent
gays in general was taken as a "whaddaya talkin' about, I'm friends with lots of n******s", it was suggested that I had a problem with it because I felt I was the one who should be "pawing women like a piece of meat",
and it was suggested that getting my crotch grabbed is somehow funny, since "homophobes are always getting their crotches grabbed."
That comment has four favorites right now.
Maybe this is all petty nonsense and I'm just rising to the bait here. Maybe I shouldn't mind what Internet Strangers say about me- the IRL shit I've taken for sticking up for gay rights has had way more bearing on my real life, making Thanksgiving dinner unbearable.
However, it really does bother me that when I mention how the behavior of a few creeps on the street is very much not cool, I get painted as some sort of seething homophobe and have my being sexually assaulted laughed at.
It's really not all right and being laughed at and called names for telling my story literally makes me feel nauseous.