A Four Year Anniversary Thank You June 13, 2015 1:16 PM   Subscribe

A much deserved thank you to everyone who took the time to help me during one of the darkest times in my life four years ago.

Four years ago this month I asked Mefi for help with my gender, of all things. That question is where I will always mark as the start of my gender transition. Two years later I was a completely different and so much happier person. Yesterday, after a year and a half of living a cis passing life, I overcame my fear of being outed and came out on Facebook to my friends and coworkers.

I want to thank every single person that took the time to answer my question and give me your advice. I truly believe that it helped save my life. It certainly made me who I am today. Even though I'm not on Metafilter much these days, this website will always have a very special place in my heart.
posted by motioncityshakespeare to MetaFilter-Related at 1:16 PM (33 comments total) 67 users marked this as a favorite

I'm so, so glad to hear you're doing well today, and that the question was helpful for you at that time. It's a reciprocal kindness for you to share this with us now; thank you.
posted by LobsterMitten (staff) at 1:19 PM on June 13, 2015 [9 favorites]


<3
This is a wonderful thing to read, particularly over Pride weekend. Lots of love and continued joy to you.
posted by shiu mai baby at 1:35 PM on June 13, 2015


Golly, that's a nice thing to read! I know mefi can frequently be frustrating for a lot of the trans members here, but if I can also chime in with an additional thank you: this site has also been helpful to me as a cis person in being slightly less clueless than I otherwise would have been.
posted by Greg Nog at 3:00 PM on June 13, 2015 [11 favorites]


Woohoo! Congrats!
posted by Joseph Gurl at 3:08 PM on June 13, 2015


Wow, that sounds great. Gender can be difficult, for sure; I'm so glad you found some help when you needed it.
Sounds like you've come a long way. Good for you, I hope you're proud! And congratulations!
posted by Too-Ticky at 3:11 PM on June 13, 2015


And oh! I hope this is not too forward, but your profile picture looks so beautiful and happy!
posted by Too-Ticky at 3:18 PM on June 13, 2015 [6 favorites]


That's amazing. Congrats and thanks for sharing.
posted by chococat at 5:21 PM on June 13, 2015


Wow. I'm so happy for you. This post along with the "About" section on your profile brought tears to my eyes. Congratulations!
posted by Majorita at 5:27 PM on June 13, 2015 [2 favorites]


Yay! This total stranger is really happy for you and thinks that you are awesome.
posted by mudpuppie at 5:51 PM on June 13, 2015 [1 favorite]


Congratulations, so happy for you. Thank you for sharing!
posted by c'mon sea legs at 5:51 PM on June 13, 2015


Hey wow! Way to go you! And like, thanks for thanking Mefi in general--it's you who did the difficult stuff.

Welcome to being the authentic you. Thank you for sharing this! Happy Pride month!
posted by feckless fecal fear mongering at 6:10 PM on June 13, 2015 [1 favorite]


This is wonderful to hear. Congratulations!
posted by Metroid Baby at 6:39 PM on June 13, 2015


Awww. Yay! So glad that you're happy!
posted by jaguar at 8:16 PM on June 13, 2015


<3 <3 <3 Congratulations!!
posted by Hermione Granger at 8:52 PM on June 13, 2015


Yay! Congrats! Mefi introduced me to the concepts that finally explained my gender to me after nearly 40 years. So delighted to read that it helped you become you.
posted by kanata at 9:25 PM on June 13, 2015


Ooh jeez and I just read your profile and am tearing up. Double yay!
posted by kanata at 9:26 PM on June 13, 2015 [1 favorite]


Yay!!
posted by purplesludge at 10:00 PM on June 13, 2015


Yay! Go you!
posted by fluffy battle kitten at 2:39 AM on June 14, 2015


Congratulations on coming out - it's such a super difficult thing to do, I know from experience. I also asked (anonymously, and then when I'd plucked up the courage, under my 'real' username) about my gender on MeFi. The answers I got, and the encouragement and support, were a real push to finally do something about the feelings I'd been living with for most of my life.

I'm not going to say everything's fixed for me, things are still really difficult (and I'm mostly taking a mental health break from online activity at present to recharge my batteries) but every day I'm another little step closer to transition and a little bit happier to be me. I want to make the full-time transition as soon as is practical, and I'm putting in place concrete plans to do it.

I also can't overestimate how significant the push was from MeFi to take these steps, and how I'm wondering how I lived before I did it. <3
posted by winterhill at 3:16 AM on June 14, 2015 [13 favorites]


I'm so glad you found happiness with who you are. Life achievement unlocked! Wishing you the very best for the future.
posted by billiebee at 3:49 AM on June 14, 2015


Amazing. So happy for you.
posted by biggreenplant at 4:55 AM on June 14, 2015


Your About section is the almost-greatest thing, second only to how great it is that you're here and happy. Congrats on this milestone!
posted by pseudonymph at 5:49 AM on June 14, 2015 [2 favorites]


I'm so, so happy for you! Great job becoming yourself!
posted by desjardins at 6:39 AM on June 14, 2015 [1 favorite]


Lovely. Every happiness.
posted by jessamyn (retired) at 7:06 AM on June 14, 2015


Thrilled for you! So glad you're doing well.
posted by arcticseal at 7:43 AM on June 14, 2015


This is wonderful! Congratulations!
posted by wiskunde at 8:02 AM on June 14, 2015


Oh my gosh, yay! This is really fantastic and exciting! Very very best wishes to you and I am so glad that things are going so amazingly well! I am so, so sorry if this sounds patronizing but it is not intended to be; I am super earnest about this: It is really, really impressive that you've done such a great job taking ownership of your own life and happiness. I've always found it very, very hard and overwhelming to move forward on confronting my own issues, whatever they may be, so I'm super impressed that you've been able to reach a place of happiness in just four years.

I know mefi can frequently be frustrating for a lot of the trans members here, but if I can also chime in with an additional thank you: this site has also been helpful to me as a cis person in being slightly less clueless than I otherwise would have been.

I really want to second this as well!
posted by Mrs. Pterodactyl at 9:08 AM on June 14, 2015


I am so very happy for you.
posted by theora55 at 3:48 PM on June 14, 2015


Your About section is the almost-greatest thing, second only to how great it is that you're here and happy. Congrats on this milestone!

Comparing the About section to the original AskMe question makes me really happy for how far you've come. I'm glad you found some useful help here. Congrats :)
posted by Pink Frost at 5:50 PM on June 14, 2015


oh wow I am so happy I found the "yaaaaaaay motioncityshakespeare" party because i was wondering what i was gonna do with this platter of chili dogs, ice cream cake covered in rainbow edible glitter, and litter of labrador puppies wearing party hats
posted by Juliet Banana at 11:39 AM on June 15, 2015 [7 favorites]


I remember commenting on that post. I'm surprised it was so many years ago because of how well I remember it. I remember hoping you got some more clarity and figured out what you wanted to do, because you sounded so unhappy. I'm so glad you did!

So often when you reply to an Ask post, particularly one with a lot of emotion in it, you wonder if your reply was helpful, or if it even made sense, or maybe even if it was harmful - or if it just didn't get read, or didn't register, or was way off-base, or or or. I couldn't be happier to hear that the responses in that thread really helped you.
posted by showbiz_liz at 9:57 AM on June 16, 2015 [1 favorite]


!

:-)
posted by Michele in California at 1:14 PM on June 16, 2015


So great!
posted by MsMolly at 4:16 PM on June 20, 2015


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