Did the MeFi Marriages begin by MeFi Mail or meetup? February 25, 2011 2:09 PM   Subscribe

Did the MeFi Marriages begin by MeFi Mail or meetup?
posted by Joe Beese to MetaFilter-Related at 2:09 PM (83 comments total) 5 users marked this as a favorite

I like to think it was a Reverend Sun Myung Moon-type deal where a bunch of Mefites met at a football stadium somewhere and mathowie just paired them up.
posted by shakespeherian at 2:14 PM on February 25, 2011 [21 favorites]


MeFi mail is relatively new, of the 3-4 marriages that come to mind, I believe it was mostly from meetups and sometimes from just emailing members directly.
posted by mathowie (staff) at 2:15 PM on February 25, 2011 [1 favorite]


They were all arranged. If you want a MeFiMail-Order Spouse, contact a mod

though it looks like you already have been spoused by two people already!
posted by arnicae at 2:17 PM on February 25, 2011 [3 favorites]


IIRC Brandon Blatcher took everyone to Vegas and promised them the Moon and the Stars. (and by everyone I mean everyone except me)
posted by vapidave at 2:24 PM on February 25, 2011 [5 favorites]


Oh, is this an option? Can I sign up for it?
posted by b33j at 2:24 PM on February 25, 2011 [1 favorite]


I would so agree to an arranged marriage by MeFites. Then I think you people will have officially solved everything for me.
posted by iamkimiam at 2:26 PM on February 25, 2011 [26 favorites]


NortonDC and onlyconnect met at a meetup.
posted by MrMoonPie at 2:32 PM on February 25, 2011 [1 favorite]


My wife says I'm married to MetaFilter, but really it's more of a mistress.
posted by The Card Cheat at 2:36 PM on February 25, 2011 [2 favorites]


Fuck that noise! I ain't agreeing to some MeFite arranged marriage just so y'all can turn around and tell me to DTMFA.
posted by Lutoslawski at 2:37 PM on February 25, 2011 [5 favorites]


Shockingly, rtha and I were married before we joined Metafilter. So neither meetup nor MeMail for us!
posted by gingerbeer at 2:38 PM on February 25, 2011 [3 favorites]


They began by messages from space, actually, but uh... the comet already passed by. You missed it, bub.
posted by katillathehun at 2:43 PM on February 25, 2011


I met my lovey at a meetup and quickly confirmed the mutual attraction via MeMail.

Now I can't troll MeTa. I gladly accept the tradeoff.
posted by not_on_display at 2:56 PM on February 25, 2011 [7 favorites]


Not a great answer, but two lights and I got/are getting married after both already being on Metafilter but meeting elsewhere on the internet.

Shun the heretic? Please no.
posted by supercres at 3:13 PM on February 25, 2011 [6 favorites]


Jaybeans and I met ages and ages ago in the real world, but we planned our wedding last year almost entirely via askme. Does that count?
posted by mostlymartha at 3:26 PM on February 25, 2011 [4 favorites]


I got most of my spouses just by pitifully observing that I didn't have any yet. No contact IRL (yet).
posted by a humble nudibranch at 3:31 PM on February 25, 2011


martha: sure! mostly because team mostlybeans is awesome.
posted by madcaptenor at 3:40 PM on February 25, 2011


*stares at MeMailbox, longingly, waiting for a missive from my future IRL non-Brandon lady spouse*
posted by special-k at 3:40 PM on February 25, 2011 [3 favorites]


-t and I met at a meetup, after narrowly missing each other at one the year before. After two years we still haven't figured out if we met "on the Internet" or "in a bar".
posted by peachfuzz at 3:42 PM on February 25, 2011 [2 favorites]


metafilter is sort of the Internet equivalent of a bar.
posted by madcaptenor at 3:43 PM on February 25, 2011 [1 favorite]


Here's the origin of the virtual enspousening.
posted by Eideteker at 3:45 PM on February 25, 2011 [1 favorite]


So are we going to start having AskMeFi questions which ask "which Mefite should I marry?"
posted by madcaptenor at 3:50 PM on February 25, 2011


That casts AskMe in a whole new uncomfortable light.
posted by cmyk at 3:52 PM on February 25, 2011


I think we should have a Marry, Fuck, Kill markov filter instead.
posted by iamkimiam at 3:56 PM on February 25, 2011 [5 favorites]




metafilter is sort of the Internet equivalent of a bar.

Hey, baby. Can I buy you a link?
posted by mostlymartha at 4:10 PM on February 25, 2011 [10 favorites]


Did you think the $5 was for the servers?
posted by tommasz at 4:20 PM on February 25, 2011


Oh, my heavens, all of you who have coupled-up here are too adorable for words. YAY!
posted by Sidhedevil at 4:23 PM on February 25, 2011


Buy a link? Goodness no, that's the domain of spammers. All links are offered, free of charge (after the $5 door fee).
posted by filthy light thief at 4:23 PM on February 25, 2011


I've got a MeFi Divorce, but no marriages. My own marriage was initiated because I am that asshole who you all hate who starts just talking to you in public and won't shut up. I guess I found someone who really does go for that. And no, he's not a MeFite, but I have dragged him to meetups to show off how pretty his hair is.
posted by sonika at 4:23 PM on February 25, 2011


My ex met her current husband via Mefi mail while we were still together. Turned out to be a huge blessing, but at the time it kind of sucked. So there's that.
posted by item at 4:28 PM on February 25, 2011 [7 favorites]


Not sure about the marriages, but the divorces certainly come from Metatalk.
posted by bardic at 4:45 PM on February 25, 2011 [1 favorite]


"Hey, baby. Can I buy you a link?" should be the new "are you... um... a friend of mathowie?"
posted by madcaptenor at 4:51 PM on February 25, 2011 [1 favorite]


I was expecting this thread to be about the virtual ensoupsenings, not the meatspace ones. I think I might like this development, although I do always enjoy a merry round of Friday night group marriage.
posted by stoneweaver at 4:58 PM on February 25, 2011


i was spoused many times in the great spousing, then i had to memail all my spouses and ask to be de-spoused because i was getting hitched for real (to a mefite, but we met in a soulless tech center, where most geek marriages start). does that count?
posted by nadawi at 5:07 PM on February 25, 2011 [1 favorite]


metafilter is sort of the Internet equivalent of a bar.

i have to have a few drinks before my posting inhibitions go away.
posted by Glibpaxman at 5:20 PM on February 25, 2011 [2 favorites]


I would like to remind everyone that as an internet-registered minister, I can perform all of your ceremonies. IRL, even!

So, you know, if you meet at a meetup, you can also get married at a meetup. So long as you buy drinks.
posted by klangklangston at 5:43 PM on February 25, 2011 [2 favorites]


special-k: "*stares at MeMailbox, longingly, waiting for a missive from my future IRL non-Brandon lady spouse"

Um, hello. I'm still your spouse, unless you've unspoused me lately AND I sent you a memail earlier today. I am also non-Brandon and sometimes lady.
posted by gingerbeer at 5:51 PM on February 25, 2011 [2 favorites]


I_love_the_rain and I were already dating when she joined MetaFilter. But I may never have cut loose from earlier, ill-fated relationships without AskMetafilter. We got married three years ago, after some great contributions by AskMe in our wedding vows thread.
posted by Happydaz at 6:28 PM on February 25, 2011 [1 favorite]


Moz and I met on the site, before memail and before there were widespread meetups. I think we were the first couple who married after meeting via Mefi -- we'll be married 8 years this fall. I remember feeling really happy when mathowie mentioned our wedding on the sideblog.
posted by sugarfish at 6:34 PM on February 25, 2011 [6 favorites]


IIRC Brandon Blatcher took everyone to Vegas and promised them the Moon and the Stars. (and by everyone I mean everyone except me)

*scratches self, drinks a can of Mountain Dew*

You ain't goin' no place 'till you fix that damn T1 line, ya hear?!
posted by Brandon Blatcher at 6:43 PM on February 25, 2011


I HAVE MET PEOPLE (sorry weird capslock, let's try again)

I have met people at meetups and arranged dates with them via mefimail so...both. We didn't get married or anything fancy.

I also got a couple of dirty mefimails after one meetup in particular,d which was AWESOME
posted by the young rope-rider at 6:44 PM on February 25, 2011 [1 favorite]


I don't know about marrying one, but I think maybe I'd like to screw a Mefite.

(And then oneswellfoop comes in and says...)

"Out of what?"

Seriously though, maybe this be a good time to point out that OkCupid has been added to MetaFilter's list of social networks?

You know, so we can all get to screwin'?
posted by sambosambo at 6:46 PM on February 25, 2011 [2 favorites]


metafilter is sort of the Internet equivalent of a bar.

with a lotta brawls.
posted by jonmc at 6:48 PM on February 25, 2011


stoneweaver: "virtual ensoupsenings"

Where can I get some of this virtual soup? I like soup.
posted by IndigoRain at 6:48 PM on February 25, 2011 [1 favorite]


My wife says I'm married to MetaFilter, but really it's more of a mistress.

I find MeFi to be more of a fuck buddy.
posted by orange swan at 7:10 PM on February 25, 2011 [1 favorite]


I like to think it was a Reverend Sun Myung Moon-type deal where a bunch of Mefites met at a football stadium somewhere and mathowie just paired them up.

Mansei! Mansei! Mansei! Ten thousand years of victory!
posted by octobersurprise at 7:20 PM on February 25, 2011


A few couples have met and coupled to various degrees on MetaChat, as well.
posted by dg at 7:34 PM on February 25, 2011


I don't know about marrying one, but I think maybe I'd like to screw a Mefite.
(And then oneswellfoop comes in and says...)
"Out of what?"


Thank you, my team of former sitcom writers have the evening off.

I think the attitude of MeFites toward Pres. Obama will take a nosedive when they realize he didn't reject the DOMA, he rejected the DOMMA (Defense Of MetaFilter Marriage Act).
posted by oneswellfoop at 8:53 PM on February 25, 2011


"... I find MeFi to be more of a fuck buddy."
posted by orange swan at 10:10 PM on February 25

And all this time (sniff), I thought, with every well intentioned keystroke I typed, that...

Oh, never mind.
posted by paulsc at 9:43 PM on February 25, 2011


When I married my non-mefite boyfriend (now husband), I told all my friends via facebook status update. Something like 'by the way, we got married last weekend'. It was awesome.
posted by shelleycat at 10:10 PM on February 25, 2011


As MrMoonPie (hi!) noted above, NortonDC and I met at a meet up. Gazuza. For the record, I thought he was pretty great and all, but I did not consider him as a potential suitor until I mentioned the death of my family's cat in a mefi comment and he offered me condolences. Now he shows me silly pictures of cats that he finds on the internets. I love you, sweetie! Folks, go, go, go to your local MeFi meet ups!
posted by onlyconnect at 10:26 PM on February 25, 2011


I was expecting this thread to be about the virtual ensoupsenings

what a coincidence, virtual ensoupsenings is totally the name of my new band and/or short story collection
posted by palomar at 11:24 PM on February 25, 2011


We didn't meet online, but once I knew she was The One I dropped $5 and bought her an account. Who says romance is dead?
posted by jtron at 2:01 AM on February 26, 2011 [1 favorite]


My fiancée and I didn't meet through Mefi, but when we were getting to know each other, she decided to go through all my comments on Metafilter. Which is when she decided I was worthy of being dated or something. So while I didn't get married through Mefi, it certainly helped!
posted by the cydonian at 4:27 AM on February 26, 2011 [1 favorite]


If my mefite was to show up at my door with a ring (not just the bell) I'd say wait a minute, I'm in my pajamas but if you let me take a quick shower I'll not only say yes but let you put that ring on my finger.
posted by infini at 4:29 AM on February 26, 2011


Congrats cydonian, did all that mango related sanskrit poetry help any? ;p
posted by infini at 4:30 AM on February 26, 2011


Keli and I's began on a dating sight nine years ago but my I (or she, it's been so long) answered the question "__________ is sexy but __________ is sexier" with Matt Haughey and Ben Brown.

We were both members here at the time.
posted by Mick at 6:01 AM on February 26, 2011 [2 favorites]


This is something I'd need to live in a properly Mefite-populated place to understand, isn't it?
posted by carbide at 10:43 AM on February 26, 2011 [1 favorite]


This is something I'd need to live in a properly Mefite-populated place to understand, isn't it?

Nah, just living with a Mefite is enough ;p
posted by infini at 11:26 AM on February 26, 2011 [1 favorite]


Any divorces between Mefites? Does that account for some percentage of the anonymous questions about getting divorces? (I know we're only supposed to focus on the "Yay! You guys got married!" stuff, but I'm morbidly curious.)
posted by anniecat at 12:28 PM on February 26, 2011


Any divorces between Mefites?

I mean to say, any divorces between people who met through Metafilter yet?
posted by anniecat at 12:29 PM on February 26, 2011


Any divorces between Mefites?

As I mentioned, I've been divorced and my ex is also a MeFite, but we did not meet via MetaFilter. And as far as I know, no anonymous questions cropped up about the divorce, though I asked at least one non-anonymous question (under previous username) about divorce law.
posted by sonika at 12:56 PM on February 26, 2011


LN and I met at a very small meetup.
posted by bonehead at 1:14 PM on February 26, 2011 [1 favorite]


anniecat, I understand and can relate to the place of morbid curiosity where that question comes from, but I wish it was not phrased in a way to imply that it's bound to happen and is just a matter of time. (ie, hey anniecat, are you divorced yet?)

As far as I know, no.
posted by onlyconnect at 1:31 PM on February 26, 2011


hey anniecat, are you divorced yet?

No. But I'm sure a lot of people who met like we did (at grad school in a foreign country, with great sizzling) are divorced. The grad school loans alone provide a bad omen=) Neither of us got much out of grad school. Expensive, expensive grad school. It's sort of embarrassing, actually, because in my mind I sometimes think, "Wait. Did I just spend a jackassload of money just to meet him?" Because I didn't get all that much out of my program because I was too busy being infatuated with him.
posted by anniecat at 1:49 PM on February 26, 2011


Yeah... except we broke up September 1 and Uncle Ira and I met in this thread with our comments dated October 4. And I have court documents to prove it, as far as the breakup goes.

So, there's that... item.
posted by Unicorn on the cob at 6:41 PM on February 26, 2011 [1 favorite]


Well this thread has certainly taken a nasty turn.
posted by amro at 7:40 PM on February 26, 2011 [2 favorites]


Hey anniecat I'm sorry, I wasn't really asking you that question for an actual answer, just as an example of how the question to us sounded. I'm glad you are still enspoused! Hogs for everyone!
posted by onlyconnect at 8:19 PM on February 26, 2011


Um. Hugs. Hugs!
posted by onlyconnect at 8:20 PM on February 26, 2011


A few couples have met and coupled to various degrees on MetaChat, as well.

This is true.
posted by BitterOldPunk at 9:38 PM on February 26, 2011


*hands a hog to onlyconnect*

Every time I see that pic of ThePinkSuperhero and Stynxno, I smile because I'm glad I was there to witness it.
posted by TrishaLynn at 9:44 PM on February 26, 2011


$5, same as in Vegas.
posted by NoraReed at 3:30 AM on February 27, 2011


I'm curious as well, and have a question that I hope others will answer. If you have experience of relationship with a beanplating MeFite and with mundanes ;p - is there any difference? Does it help?
posted by infini at 3:46 AM on February 27, 2011


When you think about it, doesn't everybody end up on MetaFilter one way or another eventually? It's like the inevitable gravity of MeFite obsession with the site. If you know a MeFite, you can join them willingly (the wise choice), semi-obligatorily (with a constant barrage of links and comments sent your way until you acquiesce; not to mention the nights spent tearing your obsessed reader from the blue glow), or kicking and screaming (as the subject of an anonymous post or some other unfortunate scenario). Point is, hive is really just another way of saying 'poisonous web of enlightenment and lulz'. Don't fight it. Besides, you might find your future spouse! (or three.)
posted by iamkimiam at 7:54 AM on February 27, 2011


I met seven of my twenty-nine wives on MetaFilter, and unlike my 4chan wives, they all got to meet my friends and be seen with me in public.
They weren't nearly as much fun as my 4 chan wives, though. (Cue high, whiney, nasal voice: "Wisecracks don't help people have orgasms." )
Jesus.
posted by weapons-grade pandemonium at 8:33 AM on February 27, 2011


Hey anniecat I'm sorry, I wasn't really asking you that question for an actual answer, just as an example of how the question to us sounded. I'm glad you are still enspoused! Hogs for everyone!

It's okay. I like any opportunity I can have to bitch about my student loan debt. I wish I could just be like, "Crap, I shouldn't have gone to grad school" but then I wouldn't have met my husband. Fate had me up against the wall, man.

Hogs for everyone.
posted by anniecat at 9:20 AM on February 27, 2011 [1 favorite]


[one comment removed - item/Unicorn on the Cob - next time you bring up your past relationship problems in MeTa we're giving either one of you a week off. Seriously, this is not at all okay.]
posted by jessamyn (staff) at 9:47 AM on February 27, 2011


My guy's relationship with MeFi predates ours by a while (and we're midway through our sixth year of dating). In 2004 he met my parents, in 2006 I met his (they live far away) and for Valentine's Day 2007 this longtime lurker's present was an account here - *that's* when I knew things were pretty serious. :) He probably knew it was serious when my reaction was, "Best Valentine's Day Gift Ever."
posted by ilana at 10:03 AM on February 27, 2011 [1 favorite]


We didn't really meet at a meetup, but we probably wouldn't have met each other were it not for me befriending some other mefites. Come to think of it, our first sorta date (a midnight showing of the Patrick Swayze classic Road House!) was arranged via mefi mail.
posted by mandymanwasregistered at 12:14 AM on February 28, 2011


We met because we were both going to the 10th anniversary meet up and wanted to split fuel costs. Before that, we both thought we were the only MeFites in our small town. Since then, we've travelled the world, and moved towns together and are in the process of buying a house.

This post reminds me, I don't think I ever chipped in for gas...
posted by indienial at 3:03 AM on February 28, 2011 [3 favorites]


Oooh, congrats, the cydonian! :)
posted by hellopanda at 6:24 AM on February 28, 2011


Metafilter is responsible for more of my weddings than for anyone else's, I bet. I've performed at least two weddings for friends-of-Metafilterians (including a Spaceballs-themed one), and have one for an actual member in April.

And--seriously--this time last year I'd only had the barest of inklings that I'd get into what I got into. AskMetafilter rocks.
posted by MrMoonPie at 7:13 AM on February 28, 2011 [1 favorite]


bigamist
posted by infini at 7:42 AM on February 28, 2011


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