Jessamyn: [Folks we're sort of done with the "what crayz thinks about this post" angle. Please email crayz directly if you want more of crayz's opinions, otherwise this is getting to the "Take it to MeTa" point. Put another way, everyone who continues to hyperrespond is also part of the problem here, please consider that.]
So, okay. Let's take it to Meta. As a community, we keep having the same conversation about sexual harassment, unwanted sexual advances and other related issues. Sometimes, with positive results
. Sometimes, not.
Personal attacks fly back and forth, fueling anger and frustration. Why are so many of us talking past each other? Is there no possibility of finding common ground, or gaining further understanding and empathy from such incidents?
posted by zarq
on Jun 19, 2012 -
What are your favorite responses to the gender question on MetaFilter user pages? Is there a page that lists all of them? I'm surprised how often they make me giggle. This was kind of asked
posted by Corduroy
on Jan 22, 2012 -
We've all had our share of miserable exes. And nobody likes family law. Still, the advice given here is terrible, bad, no-good advice. [more inside]
posted by Pogo_Fuzzybutt
on Jul 15, 2011 -
Where is that thread I read about a blogger / webdesigner / freelancer of some kind with very masculine topics who pretended to be a man, now outing herself as a woman? [more inside]
posted by Omnomnom
on Nov 18, 2010 -
In two recent AskMe threads (Non obvious things you shouldn't say to women
and a similar about men
), vague and general questions were asked. The community response wandered all over the map from very good
, to not so good, where individual dislikes were conflated to be something all of certain subgroup dislke (1
I think this is a problem that not only degrades the tone of the site in general and AskMe in particular, but also can confuse the asker. So I'm putting this issue before the community to see if the community views this as a problem and if so, discuss ways to mitigate it. [more inside]
posted by nomadicink
on Sep 17, 2010 -
A couple recent AskMes have left me a little confused about how to address problematic, but not intentionally offensive assumptions. [more inside]
posted by serazin
on Oct 25, 2009 -
What is wrong with people who make their own determination of the gender of a person mentioned in an AskMe question even though that person's gender is clearly stated?
This seems to happen a lot with short and mostly useless hit and run answers. I guess people don't read the more inside, or just skim the question. Is this "male answer syndrome" at work? Why do some people answer the question they wish had been written, regardless of the actual question?
As seen today here, by majick
and here, by DakotaPaul
posted by crabintheocean
on Mar 15, 2006 -
The large penis thread got me thinking -- along with going bowling with nine guys during MeFiSea -- what's the gender breakdown on MeFi, for those that have a stated gender?
posted by jessamyn
on Feb 15, 2002 -
Most people's usernames aren't indicative of their gender. This leads to people automatically assuming all posters are male until proven otherwise, and this seems to be ticking off a number of female posters. Possibly a preference of 'display user's gender next to their username' would be useful? Turned on, it would display the male or female symbol next to the username (or (m)/(f) in text-only mode), if the user's gender is set in the profile. (Say, depending on what letter it starts with.) People not logged in wouldn't see any of this.
posted by darukaru
on Oct 5, 2001 -