There is currently a practice across Metafilter, especially within Metafilter proper (the Blue) and Metatalk (the Grey) of making personal attacks against other users that I feel undermines the community aspect of the site. The attacks I am concerned with most often take the form of ugly insinuations that the user is deliberately derailing, trolling or using common tactics which are allegedly known to be popular with (in alphabetical order, thee could be more, these are all I could think of when I set about making this thread):
- Redditors (specifically, usually The Red Pill subreddit)
The original JulyByWomen project
aimed for an ambitious 90 extra posts this month. As August approaches, the tag #JulyByWomen
has hit 397. The original thread is archived, so here's a place to celebrate, analyse and discuss plans to
first take over Metafilter, then the world!
continue the fabulous diversity and discussions July brought.
I'm issuing the July Women's Challenge - can we get 90 extra FPPs by women in one month? [more inside]
The comments of this Metafilter post about misogynist songs at Trader Joes
demonstrates that our work to keep Metafilter free from sexism is far from over. [more inside]
I'd like to ask that people stop posting "ironic"/"what if we were talking about X TOPIC" type comments to make their point like this comment
in the Alinea baby post. [more inside]
How do we feel about this?
The lavaballing thread is man-hating and sexist and comments pointing this out are deleted. There are reasons why men need to sit splay legged for their physical health. If I posted an essay that contained "women cross their legs when they sit, what bitches amirite?" it would get deleted and rightly so. What is the process for deleting a post as sexist?
Can we have less comments like this
, please? It doesn't really add anything to the discussion, and I'm glad that most people ignored it, but I'm having trouble just letting it go. [more inside]
Can we please stop with the sexism, it demeans the supposedly open, safe, inclusive nature of metafilter. [more inside]
I am surprised that the "are high heels sexist?" question was deleted as chatfilter, but the "what is 'female energy,' when it comes to cities?" question is staying up. [more inside]
I have to say that I disagree with this deletion
. [more inside]
I'd like to see a list of Metafilter posts about potentially dangerous topics that led to respectful, interesting conversations. [more inside]
I'm genuinely curious to know if others find the use of the word "unpleasant", when directed at a female member, to be sexist? Ouisch
dropped this comment
and when asked to elaborate
she attributed it to a "silly theory
" she has which she explains here
. I don't see it, but I'd be interested in further explanation.
Douchebag retro-sexism: not cool [more inside]
What are you all saying that poor Jessamyn
has to keep deleting in this thread
? Also, women of Metafilter, are men you don't know actually speculating to you about your bra size and suggesting your mood is reflective of your menstrual cycle?
Am I the only one seeing the ageism and sexism here
? [more inside]
My hat is off to the frustrated females (and sympathizers) in this thread
. [more inside]
in a recent AskMe made me very uncomfortable. I know about "flag it and move on," but I don't actually think the answer breaks the guidelines. It didn't seem appropriate to turn the thread into an argument about it, so here I am. [more inside]
This recent thread
, from October 8, is just about to close. It's been an extraordinary one, and is still active as of this afternoon. [more inside]
This can be the thread for talking about hot babe whistleblowers;
alternately, it can be the thread asking the people talking about hot babe whistleblowers to focus more on the whistleblowing aspect. [more inside]
is prejudiced and anonymous is a bad person for asking it. [more inside]
The direction of the teen modeling post
went really Meta and callout-y really fast ... do we have informal standards to apply here? [more inside]
"Cute Girl" Filter: I know we've gone over this before, but I feel like there should be another discussion about making posts about female athletes WITHOUT appealing to "AND SHE'S HOTT" (or "SHE'S NOT JUST HOTT"). [more inside]
Longtime Mefi lurker and non-FPPoster here, registering strong disgust at some
of the comments
in the Sarah Palin thread. [more inside]
I'm curious as to why this
was deleted [more inside]
Misandry and Ask Metafilter. [more inside]
How much anti-trangenderism is considered tolerable? [more inside]
Seeing that, by any other name pundit Frank Rich's essentially anti Clinton bloviaton
was given space on the blue for the measure of 131 comments last I looked, I thought it appropriate to post two articles that past muster with Washington Post and was found politically and factually correct to be published. One is about the misogynistic comments
across the board against Hillary Clinton --and Howard Dean and the DNC's silence about it, and the other is about the newest wave of belittling "Poor Hillary.
" Both articles reveal the difficulties the Democrats may face by their own antagonized and disenfranchised Hillary supporters, which I believe worthy of consideration. Yet the post disappeared in a hurry without a trace. What gives?
Jessamyn spoke at the SxSW panel on User Revolts
today. Here are her notes on The Day They Tested the Manifesto
, as was shown during the panel. Most of you MeTa types are infovores, so I thought I'd share. Obv, she rocked the house.
Hey, you know how I'm apparently your friendly neighborhood irrational/uptight/bitchy feminist? Well, my Batsignal is going off. 'Cause I'm bitchy/uptight/irrational/out to ruin your fun. And I don't like conversations that are all about the hilarious inevitability of adults ogling some lady's rack. [more inside]
This FPP sucks.
It's basically just an excuse to ogle Rebekka: 'Look, she has boobies!' [more inside]
I'm seeing a lot of very eloquent responses to AskMe questions getting deleted. Some of them are very long, and while they could be thought of as containing some
offending material, the whole comments are being deleted. I want to propose and discuss just removing the offensive parts -- editing out sentences or paragraphs, and not entire comments, so that the "good stuff" can remain. [more inside]
It may have been a "crappy fight-starter of an op-ed", but seems like people were discussing it in a civil fashion. There was no good reason to delete this thread
. [more inside]
Am I the only one to find this
questions language offensive/sexist? [more inside]
It appears that some people feel that a non sequitur remark made in the "more inside" portion of a recent post
. Others remain unconvinced. [more inside]
Recently, as in the past day or so, the flag for
"offensive" was changed to "offensive/sexism/racism". This was done at the request of several female members who believe Metafilter has become or has been hostile to women and who wished to have some means of highlighting these instances. Several other changes are being considered, such as an addition to the FAQ/guidelines, although nothing concrete has been hammered out. If you would like to add suggestions or have constructive criticism, please do so in this thread.
If you you would like to read the full story of how this came to be, check out this previous Metatalk thread
. It's a bit long, but worth reading for a full understanding of how this issue came about.
A post about how women experience street harassment has been deleted. The one about how the psychology of exhibitionist men remains. The grounds:
This post was deleted for the following reason: one exhibitionism post per day is enough. This is linked in the thread just below this. Please don't use MetaFilter to forward your point from metatalk. -- jessamyn
My point was to continue a discussion some people thought valuable from a previous thread deleted apparently because that post was poor.
Just can't get the hang of this thing. Hey ho.
These comments are really making me think, actually... I really wish people could post comments as anonymous sometimes. Because by percentages alone, YOU KNOW that there are people reading this thread who are, indeed, serial flashers or public masterbators. There HAVE to be.
You know, I can take a bit of sexism, but this is really overboard.
Back in January, I posted a pretty offensive thread
I'm not sure if this is appropriate for MetaTalk, but I would like to apologize for it. I was in a bad place at the time, and hope that anyone who was offended will forgive me for this indiscretion.
I want to express frustration with some of the responses in this thread.
I would be more comfortable speaking with someone gay.
Is that kind of sexism halal on AskMe? I need a straight interior decorator (gay men make me uncomfortable). Where can I eat in a nice whites-only restaurant?
Seriously, wtf is the point of this FPP
? The site's not in english so it seems to me to be a thread that has no other purpose than to comment on the attractiveness of the women who are featured. How is this appropriate for Metafilter?
I think this thread
is just turning into a "dump on women" thread.
What is wrong with people who make their own determination of the gender of a person mentioned in an AskMe question even though that person's gender is clearly stated?
This seems to happen a lot with short and mostly useless hit and run answers. I guess people don't read the more inside, or just skim the question. Is this "male answer syndrome" at work? Why do some people answer the question they wish had been written, regardless of the actual question?
As seen today here, by majick
and here, by DakotaPaul
Sorry if that offends your delicate sensibilities.
Yes, actually, it does. It's ok if it's a man, but not a woman? This is vicious talk and a double standard. I flagged it but nothing happened.
There are many people who see Metafilter as sexist, a veritable boyzone of aggression and braggadocio. What can be done to address these concerns?
So now that this little prostitute has enough money for herself...
so that this little chippie can pretend to be Mother Theresa...
So, is sexism excused when there's a globalization argument to pile on? I just want to make sure.
There's no point getting angry at Faze though.
I strongly disagree.