I received an incredibly moving package from my secret quonsar Anitanola this past weekend, and I wanted to share its story here. When I opened the box full of beautiful presents wrapped in ribbon, organza, and silvery tissue paper, it also contained a notecard with “read this last” written on its envelope. I set that aside, and instead read the note on top, which you can see here. It reads:
This is lagniappe! I’m downsizing my stashes and this is a share of the notecards. Maybe you’ll write a note or just pass them on or pitch ‘em! AnitaThe package contained an amazing variety of handcrafted and locally-made stationery samples, as well as some charming magnets and art beads. Once I had oohed and ahhed over it all, I obediently opened the sealed envelope last. You can see it here: [front] [back], and here is what it said:
Dear [a fiendish thingy], I’m sorry that this was sent late. Sadly, my mother, Anita Cage, who drew your name in the metafilter “secret santa,” passed away on Monday, Dec 1st, after a long illness. She so appreciated her community of online friends, as she was housebound with considerable mobility issues. Even as she was worsening, however, she was concerned that this reach you, and that I “round out” the package with some locally made artcraft magnets. So I send this as she wished, and on her behalf wish you a fond hello and happy holiday season. [Her son]I was deeply touched that she had made sending these beautiful gifts such a priority under the circumstances, and I emailed her son immediately to tell him so. In our communications, I asked him if he would like for me to post about Anitanola’s passing on metafilter, and he was relieved that I had offered so that he would not have to figure it out himself. He also sent a link to her obituary (found here), for those of you who wish to read it. She lived a long and inspiring life. Given her extraordinary kindness in helping to make my holiday beautiful even as her health was diminishing, I not only wanted to post to let everyone else know about her passing and her generosity, but I wanted to act on the inspiration of her own note to me. I definitely do NOT want to pitch the lovely notecards she sent, and instead I’d like to offer to send them on to any of you who would like to remember her in a tangible way. You can memail me your address, and that way her stash can wend its way around the world to other mefites in Anitanola’s honor. (This offer is open to anyone who wants one, of course, even if you didn’t know her well— I think she would enjoy the idea of these missives going to as many mefites as possible!) I will also be sending this MeTa post to her son at his request, so if you have any stories about her to share, he will see them here. If any of you want to send a message to him directly, let me know and I will be happy to pass it on. Her passion, humor, and wisdom will be missed.
Just so I'm 100% clear on this. Is this is an acceptable standard for obit posts on the blue? [more inside]
It is my sad duty to relate some unfortunate news. Matthew Schuler, known here as Prince of Cups, passed away this morning. [more inside]
So, my comment suggesting that people not come into the Thatcher thread and say 'As an American, I don't know much about this, but you should probably be more nice about her' was deleted. I imagine the place to put it is here? [more inside]
So, we were lied to. The good news is that holdkris99 is fine, rather than dead. He's also banned, his wife's (?) account is banned, and they're not welcome back to Metafilter, ever. [more inside]
"We're not going to tell people not to express negative feelings here, but if you must bicker about them, please do it in MeTa." [more inside]
Kim Jong Il died yesterday and everybody took a long, satisfying shit on his corpse. Some were confused about why was this OK, though. The mods felt this has been explained before and needed no further explanation. I disagree. [more inside]
It isn't a mod issue, really, but since there are now functionally two Steve Jobs obit threads, would it be possible or desirable for the community to relocate arguments about his moral worth and/or Apple's products to one rather than the other? [more inside]
saveyoursanity came into #bunnies yesterday with some terrible news. She had been contacted on Facebook by one of Bob Sarabia's sisters, telling her that bob sarabia, aka puke & cry, aka dead cousin ted has passed away. Dinosaur Jr - Puke & Cry [more inside]
He hasn't been around too much lately, but longtime MeFites may wish to know that Ryland Sanders, aka RylandDotNet,
passed away this morning is in hospice care (please read thread for details) [more inside]
The obituary says Andrew Charles Bullock, but we knew him as Balisong. Rest in peace, Balisong. [more inside]
It's with great sadness that I have to share the passing of Bill Zeller, known as null terminated around here. [more inside]
This is where we discuss the Elizabeth Edwards obit thread. We've done this a few times before, I think.
This is where we discuss the Ted Stevens obit post.
Filthy light thief's WIP FPP for Frank Frazetta's is a considerably greater tribute and memorial to the man than what I wrote. Can I cede thread content/ownership somehow?
Cross-posting sad news about Bageena that was misposted to MeFi.... My Name is Tara. My Husband Andrew Press, whom you know as Bageena. Passed away suddenly in his sleep yesterday. [more inside]
If you need it, here is a MetaTalk thread to hash out feelings about the Brittany Murphy obit thread.
There seems to be a mefi tradition to not speak ill of the dead in obit threads, but what do we do when the obit is for someone abhorrent to the community?
I got an email from another member letting me know that litterateur, the young woman who posted a few questions to AskMe about her leukemia and its relapse, died at the end of October. Her questions and comments encouraged a lot of us to become bone marrow donors and learn more about marrow donation. [more inside]
I am not as dismayed by some as the single-link obitfilter, which we have discussed many times before. But I think they can be done better than this. [more inside]
At this point, there are more complaints about the one-link obit to Patrick Swayze in the thread than there are about Swayze himself. If none of you who are whining want to make a better post, how's about whining over here, where such things belong.
A sad follow-up to last year's post on the Last Lecture: Randy Pausch passed away this morning at the age of 47.
Perennial Obit Thread Discussion [more inside]
Science fiction writer Janet Kagan, who posted here as realjanetkagan, died Friday after a long illness (COPD).
Maybe this has already been mentioned on the grey, but the Heath Ledger thread is marred by some particularly predictable & troll-esque "why give a shit/we need to cut celebrities down to size!" comments. [more inside]
I would like to know what the standard is for obituary filter. Scores, nay hundreds, of semi-famous people die every day. Can we do a thread about each and every one of them on MetaFilter? I hope not.
So let me see if I have this right...we're only allowed to comment in this thread if we heap glowing praise upon the recently deceased? Huh. Sorry I missed the memo.
Where is the Vassilis Fotopoulos post? There are currently four obits on front page; maybe we could just have a permanent link to the wikipedia page instead?
Do you miss the img tag? I sure as hell don't. Can I get an amen?
I was saddened to hear of the most untimely passing of Radio7 on September 9th. I only met her once, but I was charmed by her humour, talent and vivaciousness.
i've seen this in a few posts on the blue and the green, this one most recently. why are people commenting with just a . ?
I wanted to let the Metafilter community know that MiHail of the portabella mushroom fame died in February while waiting for a liver transplant. She was my best friend and soul mate. Rest in peace, Cathy. You are missed.
Someone added tags to my post. I'll wear the 'obit' and 'obituary' but the '.' has to go. When I try to delete it i get "Looks like you're trying to delete tags fromto the wrong post. Go ."
Will Ferrell not dead. A story about the actor’s death in a paragliding accident on The Blue today was deleted so fast, I was not sure if I am hallucinating again or what. So it was a hoax and should disappear
The Kirby Puckett obit thread has attracted some rather distasteful snark about the propriety of discussing "minor celeb deaths." Are obit threads inevitable? Should they be?
What exactly is the . in people's replies? I used to ignore them, but when I saw a dozen or so in the Nipsey Russell thread I just had to know...
Long-time metafilter member Alicia Frantz passed away on June 3rd.
There is more info on her site, and a news article. She will be greatly missed.
There is more info on her site, and a news article. She will be greatly missed.
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