I'm referring to
this question and
this response. Look, Unified Theory, I'd like to give you the benefit of the doubt here, and assume that maybe you didn't read the entirety of a rather long and rambly OP. And I actually agree with parts of your post - I hated the way the question was phrased as well, and I agree that the assumption that it's automatically creepy for an older guy to be attracted to a younger woman is both sexist and ageist.
And, I agree with the many other posters stating the the OP that she handled the situation in a very naive way, and needs to give serious thought to how she sets her own boundaries in situations like this.
But.
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posted by Broseph
on May 10, 2013 -
420 comments
I'd like to post a "What's your favorite X" AskMe. I'm using it to find the one answer I need for a specific use (and I'd be happy to update about my project in the thread later), but I think talking about my use in advance would bias people toward a too-narrow set of responses.
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posted by kalapierson
on Mar 26, 2013 -
60 comments
If we're going to have a higher bar for Palestine threads, we need a higher bar for viral adverts and cats being funny. Just like we need something to go on beyond GRARbait, we need something a bit deeper than Cute Overload-fodder or verbatim, analysis/critique-free reposts of ads from corporate channels on Youtube.
This is a problem in the same way that all the news sites running the same fluff stories is a problem: If we're going to have the same content as everywhere else, why should Metafilter even exist?
I appreciate the site for when we can have interesting conversations about things most of us didn't know about yet- but we all already know about cute cats and funny adverts.
There are other websites where you can watch nothing but that, all day. We need to have a standard that's higher than the rest of the Net.
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posted by dunkadunc
on Mar 16, 2013 -
231 comments
I know it's a hard subject to discuss civilly. I have a modest suggestion on how to improve such discussions.
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posted by el io
on Feb 13, 2013 -
156 comments
This is a way that many posts about independent games tend to go, where it is almost immediately sidetracked in to a discussion about Windows vs. everything else. Part of the solution is probably to put a windows only notification on the post, and part of the solution is probably just to move on without commenting if you're a mac user.
posted by codacorolla
on Oct 21, 2012 -
53 comments
Minnesota attempts limit access to free online education (Cousera) and somehow its out of bounds for the FP?
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posted by specialk420
on Oct 19, 2012 -
92 comments
What is the etiquette (or should be the etiquette) of memailing responses to individuals as a result of AskMe comments?
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posted by corb
on Sep 20, 2012 -
32 comments
Saying "I have personal experience in this" doesn't invalidate or even contradict information given in ask.
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posted by xingcat
on Sep 11, 2012 -
37 comments
Is there a 'triggering' etiquette here? If so what is it, because I can't find any reference to tagging posts as 'triggering' on the FAQ.
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posted by Faintdreams
on Aug 9, 2012 -
136 comments
Isn’t coming into
this thread to say "Photorealism sucks" and
this one to say "I’m not into fashion, who cares what your jeans look like, quit being so shallow" pretty much the same as coming into a baseball post and saying you hate baseball?
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posted by bongo_x
on Aug 3, 2012 -
118 comments
Would this be an appropriate AskMe? If not, do you know an alternate way to pursue the info? (The "doctors can't be women" airline thing.)
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posted by sparrows
on Jul 18, 2012 -
5 comments
Can we please have a rundown on flagging etiquette? There seems to be a lot of "flag and move one" response from the mods as of late, and while that may be the best choice of action for a lot of the scenarios, 9 times out of 10 I'm stuck on the fence as to whether or not I should.
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posted by FirstMateKate
on Jun 19, 2012 -
97 comments
Over in the
Marc Driscoll thread, I made a comment that implied I was waiting for another member to appear before commenting. My intent was to reference a history of interesting discussions we've had about the topic, but I can see that it might've been misunderstood as a cheap shot, implying that I wanted to make fun of that person. The comment was deleted, and while I'm not terribly worked up over it I'm curious.
Are there any good rules of thumb about shout-outs to other MeFi folks in threads they might be interested in? Are there good ways to reference pet topics without sounding like you're bagging on someone?
posted by verb
on Feb 3, 2012 -
60 comments
It isn't a mod issue, really, but since there are now functionally two Steve Jobs obit threads, would it be possible or desirable for the community to relocate arguments about his moral worth and/or Apple's products to one rather than the other?
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posted by running order squabble fest
on Oct 31, 2011 -
263 comments
It's not helpful to answer a question you haven't read. It's driving me nuts that people don't bother to understand what's being asked, what the situation is, or what the OP is actually saying.
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posted by Specklet
on Oct 21, 2011 -
115 comments
Maybe it was not written dispassionately enough, but a
post I feel is newsworthy was deleted - please weigh in?
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posted by ancillary
on Oct 11, 2011 -
45 comments
Posts about adverts are controversial on Metafilter. Some people think adverts are ok. Others find them intrinsically distasteful. Mystery meat posts that turn out to be 'hey look at this great advert' and nothing more can lead to derails and nasty arguments over whether or not using Metafilter to spread advertising in this way is acceptable or not. Accurate tagging of such posts with 'advert' or 'advertisement' could avoid this.
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posted by motty
on Oct 2, 2011 -
129 comments
Regarding
this post, which was deleted. "This is the sort of thing you need to write a more MeFi-like post for."
Well, considering that the text of the headline I used is very similar -- if anything, less graphic -- than the headline of the article I linked to, with much of the text is taken verbatim from the memo, with additional information accurately presented, can I get a clarification on how this isn't written in a Me-fi enough way, please?!
posted by markkraft
on Sep 1, 2011 -
267 comments
newsfilter. don't we have an unspoken rule in these cases to let a couple days pass until a full FPP can be created?
Nope, looks like that rule is not only unspoken, but unenforced and generally unthought of. One might even describe it as non-existent.
I would like clarification on this aspect please. The first sentence is mine.
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posted by infini
on Aug 7, 2011 -
71 comments
Is there a place to post non-web projects that we have been working on somewhere in MeFi?
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posted by gonzo_ID
on Jun 17, 2011 -
9 comments
I'm seeing Reddit stuff being posted as FPPs on a daily basis. Nothing wrong with Reddit, it's awesome, but I don't get why Reddit is never given any credit. I think giving credit is one of those things that makes Metafilter a nice place and it makes it possible to follow the related Reddit discussion.
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posted by Foci for Analysis
on May 28, 2011 -
160 comments
I like reddit, and I have an account it, but do single link reddit FPP belong on the blue?
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posted by wcfields
on Mar 16, 2011 -
76 comments
I'm somewhat new to metafilter, and am working on something that I would like to post to projects, but don't want to do so prematurely.
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posted by tempythethird
on Jan 31, 2011 -
21 comments
AskMe etiquette - What are the norms about letting people who answer your question know that you are reading and appreciating their responses?
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posted by philipy
on Jan 15, 2011 -
31 comments
I'd like to discuss communication and discussion methods that might help us stay out of flame war territory, especially in long and contentious discussions.
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posted by kalessin
on Nov 1, 2010 -
117 comments
When it is too hard not to judge an AskMeFi.
What is the proper response when the questioner is just such a turd that you can't avoid calling her out on it?
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posted by Invoke
on Aug 8, 2010 -
156 comments
I've raised it before, and I'll keep raising it - "we" are not all denizens of the USA.
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posted by wilful
on Jun 28, 2010 -
514 comments
I'd like to post a link to some poetry on my mother's blog on the blue. Is that appropriate, or is it considered self-promotion?
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posted by bloody_bonnie
on Jun 27, 2010 -
48 comments
